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RE: Is a Vanilla Date a Sin? - 6/22/2008 1:28:19 PM

AquaticSub

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I don't know why anyone would chew you out for this. So you basically went out on a date and had a great time. So what?

You never know where you are going to find your partner, it might be at a munch or at Bible study. Maybe he's a super-kinky dom who thinks you are "just vanilla".

I met my owner in college and got to know him in very boring, "vanilla" ways. We had classes together, we talked at parties and we hung out over a few beers. We started dating, I waited a little while and showed him my toybox. About six months later we started talking about 24/7 and now he simply is my owner and I am his girl.

Screw everyone else - you never know where you are going to find happiness.

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RE: Is a Vanilla Date a Sin? - 6/22/2008 2:42:08 PM

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I'm not opposed to dating vanilla again.... maybe, one day, in the far off future, when I'm 80 and don't care about BDSM anymore - lol. Possibly what has put me off is when I mentioned to a previous vanilla boyfriend tentatively about tying me up, he reacted like I'd asked him if I could tie his kids up and throw them into a shark infested pond. I think his words were something like....'Tie you up? Why the hell would I want to do that? That's just weird/disgusting/perverted....' etc etc... So what worries me is if I date vanilla, really like them and then get this reaction when I mention my 'sexual interests' could I continue to date them without the kink?.... probably not.

However, in saying all that.... happiness is where you find it, so OP... if dating someone vanilla made you happy, then go for it.

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RE: Is a Vanilla Date a Sin? - 6/23/2008 3:01:02 AM

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This is a thread from 2006 however pinky had a new/similar question that she asked here
just in case people were getting confused

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