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ShadeDiva -> RE: What is Shibari (1/27/2005 12:18:53 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Goodmix
i agree. but this looked more tender, not that i am opposed to a tender moment, i just call that after care.
althought there is also something to be be said for the amount of patience she had (after all, he was making these knots for for more than 1/2 hour) and that is certainly something i could use more of, who go's to a dungeon to be suddle?
again, just my opinion
Goodness - I've seen and done TONS of tender scenes - they have their own energy and again, like I said earlier those can be a thousand times more intense than a rough scene.
People go to dungeons for many reasons, the atmosphere, the equipment, a change of pace, to hang out with friends, to enjoy the energy, to do something they don't have the space or setting to do - a multitude of different reasons.
Some of us don't go to dungeons to show off or see who can be the more heavy edge player - we all don't always want to be playing to the crowd (I personally find it annoying when I see scenes where the dominant is paying way more attention to the reaction of the audience than the person they are playing with - almost makes me ill) - many of us aren't out to impress others we are there to play with those we are playing with. Or to impress others by trying to compare our playing style to another and then deciding theirs is less intimate, fun, hardcore, whatever and wow aren't we just the shit kind of mentality.
Subtle might not be your intent when going to a public playspace, and that's fine - but it certainly doesn't make YOUR usage of the space any better or any more valid than theres.
I see a lot of judgmentalism in your remarks about their scene - they were doing what they wanted to do for them - and as far as you know it was a billion times more heavy than your scene was simply because you have *no* idea what context or where they were coming from.
If she was incredibly clausophobic or had extreme issues with being bound that could have been a really hardcore scene for her and him both.
I hate when I see folks doing that scene judging thing - smacks me as being very competitive (and I always wonder why they feel a need to be competitive or compare their scenes - because it's like comparing apples and oranges - makes me feel that they are pretty insecure, offhand). It's like they are saying:
Hrmph! They call *that* playing? The schmucks, what a wussy scene! *My* scenes are way more fun and better than than that lame shit - even if it looks pretty - that's just not BDSM meant for public play! *My* BDSM is how it should be done. Wow, do I rock!
Least that's how your post came across to me - very OTWist and very competitive.
~ShadeDiva
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