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Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 7:56:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		In the department I work in, on of my co workers has been battleing breast cancer. Our boss thought it would be good if we all wore a pink braclet. She passed out the pink rubber bracelets asking us to wear them to support our co worker as if it were the cure.

Instead of wearing mine, I placed it on one of my shelfs in my cubical. When asked why I wasn't wearing the bracelet, I replied "I don't wear pink."

I'm the only guy in the department of 20 women. They all seemed shocked in my belief of not wearing a pink bracelet to fight breast cancer. Instead of causing this type of controversy, should I have been more witty and come up with "I'm allergic to latex" or "It's to tight and upsets my carpel tunnel"

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 7:59:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ya know, this might have been one of those acceptable white lie type situations.  But thats just my opinion.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:01:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		That question can only really be answered by yourself, but in my opinion...If you came up with an excuse, they'd find a way around it.
A bit shortsighted on their side too to wear pink, maybe a more neutral color like yellow or orange would be more appropriate.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:03:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, hmmm, I don't think it was acceptable to lie about it. If you don't support it, I mean wearing the bracelet, then say so. There are other ways other then wearing a bracelet to support the fight for breast cancer. Just being there and letting her know you do support what she is going through would be enough IMO

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:05:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Pink is the color thats assocated with Breast Cancer Awareness, but asuming that everyone is OK with wearing something like that is aways a difficult position to be in.
My office tey did the Lance Armstrong ones, and also the Learning disabilities ones.  I wouldnt wear them, but I said it got in the way and got caught on things.
I personally think its silly to wear something like that to show how supportive you are, its just a symbol.. but artfully getting out of it to spare feelings is a trick.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:11:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's interesting. I don't wear pink to show support for cancer victims but I'll dress in drag to raise money for cancer research.

Have you ever heard of the Ms Bodacious contest for Cancer Relay for Life events?

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:17:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Did your boss say it was mandatory?  If not, you had a choice and you were honest about it. I agree, wearing the bracelet  has no bearing on the outcome.  I think you can make it clear that you wish her well and hope it turns out well for her.  Bucking office politics takes a strong person.  You did what you wanted; doesn't make you popular at the moment in your work environment but I'm sure you can deal with it. 

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:23:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Its pink because the majority of those that suffer from breast cancer are women. Someone wayyy back thought pink is for women. Personally Im more of a red person myself.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:31:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would not have been offended at all if you did not wear it.  I would have been offended if my boss decided what causes I should support, however.  It is a personal choice and should remain so.  I would not have lied if I were you; I would have said exactly what you did.  We each support what is important to us, in the way that is appropriate to us.  I would have been offended if the others did not respect that.  You accepted the bracelet, and displayed it openly on your shelf.  That's rather supportive, in my book.

If you are concerned, make a contribution to the cancer society in your co-worker's name, and have a donation card sent to her on your behalf.  That should squelch all negative feelings around the topic. 

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:35:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		they make little pink ribbon tac pins...maybe that would do the trick...i think it's a great gesture to show support for the co worker. i also think displaying the bracelet at your work station is showing support

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:39:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ditto to Owned.  It was a perfect non-confrontation, humorous and true answer that allowed the rude line of questioning to be stopped.

At my last office, they bought office supplies which a portion of the proceeds went to breast cancer.  It meant we used pink post-its, pens, and post-it holders, but it was all just office supplies which required no employee action whatsoever.  Pressure to WEAR something not proscribed in a dress code, especially when it supports some sort of cause is IMO completely wrong to do at a work environment.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 8:45:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Of course you shouldn't have lied. I think placing it in view was an acceptable compromise.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 9:04:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet

In the department I work in, on of my co workers has been battleing breast cancer. Our boss thought it would be good if we all wore a pink braclet. She passed out the pink rubber bracelets asking us to wear them to support our co worker as if it were the cure.

Instead of wearing mine, I placed it on one of my shelfs in my cubical. When asked why I wasn't wearing the bracelet, I replied "I don't wear pink."

I'm the only guy in the department of 20 women. They all seemed shocked in my belief of not wearing a pink bracelet to fight breast cancer. Instead of causing this type of controversy, should I have been more witty and come up with "I'm allergic to latex" or "It's to tight and upsets my carpel tunnel"


Of course you shouldn't have lied.

(You should have worn it).

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 9:23:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Pressure to WEAR something not proscribed in a dress code, especially when it supports some sort of cause is IMO completely wrong to do at a work environment.

...and, may I add, puts the company at risk for a harassment complaint.


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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 9:27:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Here's one for the women:  In showing support for John Doe's fight with prostate cancer, we all must wear these particular slacks that have been handed out.  They are green, and make your ass look huge.  Wear them for a week.  If you don't, you will be ridiculed and pressured.  No one cares if you are not comfortable with it.  Placing them in plain view on your office or cubicle coat hanger will not suffice.  Making contributions to the American Cancer Society is not good enough.  You must wear these dreadful pants to show support!!

Honestly - would you?

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 9:34:13 PM   
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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 9:53:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's really just a bracelet. Since when did a color mean so much? It's pink, big wow. You said you're in a office full of women, if anything they'd think higher of you for wearing it, in spite of your sex you're still willing to wear a pink bracelet to support your fellow co-worker, who by the way is faced with a life-threatening situation. Yes you shouldn't HAVE to wear the bracelet, no one is making you. But why stick out? Why look like the only odd ball who doesn't care that a fellow co-worker is suffering? They aren't asking for you to go to a rally, or jog in a marathon or get a tattoo. Just wear it a couple of days, that way no one thinks you're a jerk and there aren't any hard feelings. Personally I wouldn't want to stir up any mess with my co-workers, not over breast cancer.To answer your question no, you shouldn't have lied. You should have been a bit more selfless and put the stupid thing on.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 10:38:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FangsNfeet

In the department I work in, on of my co workers has been battleing breast cancer. Our boss thought it would be good if we all wore a pink braclet. She passed out the pink rubber bracelets asking us to wear them to support our co worker as if it were the cure.

Instead of wearing mine, I placed it on one of my shelfs in my cubical. When asked why I wasn't wearing the bracelet, I replied "I don't wear pink."

I'm the only guy in the department of 20 women. They all seemed shocked in my belief of not wearing a pink bracelet to fight breast cancer. Instead of causing this type of controversy, should I have been more witty and come up with "I'm allergic to latex" or "It's to tight and upsets my carpel tunnel"


Build a small shrine for your desk, put the pink bracelet on it, and entitle it with "I support the battle against breast cancer."

Problem solved.

You'll look like a hero for going the extra mile, and you won't have to wear pink...  

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 11:20:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I still do not know why you would not wear the bracelet, but if you did not want to wear it I think that I would have given a nonanswer. "I just do not want to".

There are many things that people expect others to do that they should not feel compelled to do, I wonder at why people think they have the right to compel anyone to do anything. I do not like public prayer, or saluting the flag... my choice and  I do not feel the need to explain it.

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RE: Should I of lied? - 9/8/2006 11:29:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		What color bracelet can we hang off our dicks in the workplace for prostrate cancer?

Etc Etc Etc.....We all have problems, illnesses. Now we can be ostricised for not picking the right one to advertise our awareness of?

BS!

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