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darkinshadows -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 4:23:12 AM)

No, I am not a feminist.  In fact, I feel that the feminist movement has been servely detrimental to everyone, regardless of gender, orientation and class.  I am living proof of its discrimination, just as millions of others are.
And as much as it pains me to say, what AssClown posted, is nearer the truth than most people would like to admit.
 
Peace and Rapture




catize -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 4:52:07 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

quote:

ORIGINAL: catize
Gender has no bearing on the truth of the statement.


That depends on the context. Resistance against some things is indeed not futile, but it is good to pick one's battles wisely. Predicating the success of one's social Jihad upon pruning key branches of human nature will be a hopeless struggle waged for eons.

I don't believe that standing for gender equality is a hopeless struggle.  Indeed, I have observed and benefitted from the successes in my lifetime. 




Lashra -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 6:54:16 AM)

I am a feminist as I believe in equal rights for everyone. No one is supreme in my eyes.  I am the Dominant one and he is the sub. He acknowledges and shares my belief in equality, yet he recognizes that I am the one in charge. Just because I call the shots doesn't make him any less equal or *less a man*. In fact it makes him stronger because he has opened his true self up to me and trusted me with his very life.

~Lashra




Lashra -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 6:59:15 AM)

I wouldn't scoff at a man standing up for his rights. I would roll my eyes at a someone spouting off male supremacy, just as I do female supremacy.
There are battered men out there and male victims of rape who are to afraid to come forward because of fear of being laughed at. Women can be just as violent as men and although most men would snicker at the thought of a woman trying to attack them, it happens every single day.
My own Grandmother was a husband beater, she was mean and vicious. She busted my Grandpa's head open once with a hammer because he didn't move fast enough when she told him to cut the grass.
Everyone should stand up for their rights or they can be taken away.

~Lashra




Lashra -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 7:09:17 AM)

And you obviously from the tone of your reply to this Woman, have issues with feminists. Therefore no matter the facts she might present to you, you would refuse to accept them as truth because your own inner truth would conflict with it.
I am a feminist, disagree with me if you wish to. However some of what you spouted off comes from a persons perception. Man who are treated violently have just as much right to protection under the law as a woman and he should fight for it. But most men will not as they are afraid of being laughed at by their peers. Who's fault is that? Look to the males who set up this *code* of machoness.
I think gender should have nothing to do with being equal , we should all be human beings and not men/women. Perhaps one day nature will see its mistake and everyone will be born with both gentilia and that should put an end to the gender debate. Only by then something else will come up as a huge nonsensical issue.

~Lashra




MistressLorelei -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 8:26:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Assclown

Also MistressLorelei I saw you ranting on earlier in this thread about women not getting equal pay. You may find this link interesting
http://www.ncpa.org/pub/ba/ba392/

quote:


So surrender to these double standards and let men get oppressed and feminism will be diminish. I understand.

It would be nice if you had some logical points to prove me wrong but I know you never will. You feminist always refuse to debate with logic, instead you just say we are misogynist and ignorant to shut down debate.



I never shut down debate,  I had been "debating" all along, but didn't see anything to discuss in your post as it was simply a woman bashing post containing no factual information, and no "logic", only opinions held by a small percentage of the population.  Rape is justified, and sexual harassment doesn't exist... according to your "logical" post.  I should debate that? 

Equality for women is not oppression for men, but your logic makes a good point.  Many men do not want the equality of women, because they may no longer be at the forefront of the corporate world.  I understand how that could be a concern after all of these years, but logic such as yours has been what continues to keep women as the second class gender.

Yes, I found your website interesting.  I found it interesting that an organization that keeps citing that it is "non-partisan" is considered a conservative organization.  Here it is in the Encyclopedia's list of top conservative companies:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Conservative_organizations_in_the_United_States

The current census bureau, and the Labor Department account for your "facts" differently than your conservative reference, but even your article admits there is a  wage gap between women and men.  It still exists according to them, even after it accounts for all the reasons it believes women "should" be paid a lower wage than men should.

It's a shame that women are considered defective by employees because oh no, they might want to reproduce someday.  It's a shame that when it comes to whether mom or dad can work over time (after 5), mom goes to take care of the kids, and then is told she is worth less per dollar than her husband.  Voters refer to  a women's "time of the month" as a reason women should not be President.  There should be no double standard.  Not for women, not for men. (By the way, when is George Bush's "time of the month" over?).

If you, assclown  want to continue having more men in the future corporate world, then women will have to keep on having babies.... and because most any woman of child bearing years "can" have a baby, or because if perhaps mom has to skip overtime at certain times to look after her family, because if she doesn't, dad likely wouldn't do it (though some dad's would)....  it's still not a reason to pay women less for the hours they are working, for the positions they hold, for non promoting or hiring women for certain positions, etc.

Thankfully not all men, think like you do... and most Americans, men, women, the encyclopedia, and even your conservative reference, know there is an unfair gender wage gap.  That is not equality.  I think men are great, I am not wanting to take away social or economic equality or status that belongs to them, but to ensure that women are entitled to the same opportunities for advancement, benefits, pay,  social status, and lack of discrimination in the world, and that happens only with equality. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equal_pay

There is likely little to be gained by debating further with someone who refers to my pointing out that women make less money than men do as a "rant", but defines his woman bashing post as "logic".   But yet, we feminists are the ones who 'refuse to debate with logic'.




Amaros -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 8:42:58 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

Hello A/all,

I do not consider myself a Feminist per se.  After having studied it in college, and read extensively about it after college, the problem I personally have with much of it is that certain branches of Feminism imply that in a hierarchical structure like modern society, women should be in an upper bracket.  The problem I have with this ideal is that hierarchical structures tend to be associated with maleness, and this changeover for women to demand ascendance over males really started during Second Wave feminism in the 1960s.

Which is not to make a blanket statement that All of Anybody felt this way, but much literature supported the utopian ideal that if women were in charge, things would somehow be much better.  I studied Utopian thought in college, as well as what actually happened.  While many of the ideals are laudable, they almost never work out in practice.  This is primarily because the people involved are not interchangeable cogs.  But I digress.

...


After pondering it a bit more, I guess you could say I'm sort of a social (not economic, re: interchangable cogs) socialist: "to each according to their nature, to each according to their abilities".

i.e., I try to see people as people, first and foremost, I'm a Peopleist - sex just throws in come interesting twists.




amayos -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 12:03:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: catize

I don't believe that standing for gender equality is a hopeless struggle. Indeed, I have observed and benefitted from the successes in my lifetime.



Ah, "gender equality." That sounds so much...nicer.




CreativeDominant -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 12:09:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sapphirepleasure

Just curious if anyone on this site identifies as a feminist and, if so, how you square that with your D/s principles.


My view in terms of being a feminist is my belief in equal rights, opportunities, status for people regardless of their gender. People should have the right to make their own choices, the access to the information that gives them the knowledge to make those choices, and the opportunity to do so.

As someone else stated, my submissive would be equal to me but our roles would be different.
I am one of those who looks upon either a female submissive or a female dominant as being feminists for they made their own choice as to what role they chose to assume. (Please don't jump on me for verbiage here...I think everyone knows exactly what I mean by the last statement).




LotusSong -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 12:33:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Assclown

What Feminist Say

If a man sleeps with a woman and has second thoughts about it
later on, they call it "fear of commitment."
If a woman sleeps with a man and has second thoughts about it
later on, they call it "date rape" <----Yes, but only if the sex was REALLY bad!

If a man gets drunk and sleeps with a woman, they hold him
responsible for his actions.
If a woman gets drunk and sleeps with a man, they hold him
responsible for her actions. <------ Since the guys want to be in charge.. we let themWith dominace comes responsibility.

When men judge women based on their looks, they call it"lookism"
"sexism" and "oppression"
When women judge men based on their looks and their salaries, they
call it "dating"  <-- so don't state your salary.  It's none of anyone's business anyhow.

When a man says "You have to sleep with me to be an employee,"
they call it sexual harassment.

When a lesbian says "You have to sleep with me to be a feminist,"
they call it "body de-colonization" and "political lesbianism."  <-- HUH?????!!!!

When a man says "Some feminist hate men" he is engaging in
sterotypes and bashing.

When feminist say "All men are potential rapist," she is
rasing issues.  <----- never heard that one either.  Maybe you just come across as a rapist..

When feminist lie about rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, anorexia and bulimia, they are nonetheless educating the public about legitimate issues. <---anorexia and bulimia?  How the hell can they lie about anorexia and bulimia????!  'esplain that one to us, Lucy.


When you point out that feminist lie about rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, anorexia and bulimia, you are guilty of backlash. <--- it's an opportunity to prove them wrong, if you can.

When you ask why physical standards should be lowered so women can join the military, they say it ensures equality.

When you ask why only men are forced to register with the selective
service and only men can be forced into combat against their will, they'll say that you are the one who starts the wars. <-- see  the thread on the Male Warrior Effect.

[When you say that men should not be discriminated against, they will tell you that you that you hold all the power and privileges.
When you say that you don't feel that way, they will point out rich men you don't even know.
When you say that women in your work place have equal pay and
equal numbers and no longer deserve special breaks and special promotions, they will cite some statistics from someplace else.] <--- we have learned from the best... Men.

If you say you are afriad of a violent woman, they will laugh at
you and send you away without help.    I'm starting to wonder.. has this happed to you?

If you protect yourself from a violent woman, they will say that violence against women is always wrong, no matter what.  <-- see above comment

If a woman accuses a Republican nominee of sexual harassment, they
say "why would she lie?"

If several women accuse a Democratic president of sexual harassment, they say "she probably lied."  <--- She didn't say anthing like "I have never had sexual relations with the President"

If they want access to a predominantly male organization, club, or school, they say that "diversity" is good.
If they want to keep men out of a predominantly female organization, club, or school, they say "segregation" is good. <--- if you dress tasefully and are on time for the teas and promise to speak when spoken to... we'll let you in.  No wearing white after Labor day though.


Can't reflect on the rest.. haven't been there:
 
When a woman accuses a man of child abuse during a divorce or custody battle, they say "Believe the children."
When the children themselves say they weren't abused, they don't believe the children.

When a woman cannot support her children, they say we should raise taxes on everyone to set up more programs to help her.
When a man cannot support his children, they say, "Revoke the deadbeat's licence and throw him in jail."

When a man denies his children support money, they say he should
be punished.
When a woman denies her children a relationship with a warm and loving father, by thwarting his visitation rights, they say it's a
"non-traditional family."

When an unwed father wants custody of his child, they say "think of the best interest of the children."
When a mother wants custody of her child, they say "Don't punish a woman just because she works."















caitlyn -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 1:05:07 PM)

I'm twenty, and was born into the system we have. I didn't ask to be born into it, and nobody asked my opinion about what the system was going to be. I'm lucky enough to attend a very good university ... one that is costing my foster parents a lot of money. The choice given is to compete hard and fast with all other students, male and female, and make my foster parents proud, or choose not to compete, let everyone down, and throw away hard earned money.
 
A simple answer really ... you are confusing "people who happen to be women, out doing the best they can with the hand they were dealt" ... with "feminists."
 
There are surely feminists out there looking to create a social agenda, but they are actually very few in number. What isn't few in number, is the women out there trying to get ahead, and those that label them "feminists" to support their own social agenda.




LotusSong -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 1:57:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkinshadows

No, I am not a feminist.  In fact, I feel that the feminist movement has been servely detrimental to everyone, regardless of gender, orientation and class.  I am living proof of its discrimination, just as millions of others are.
And as much as it pains me to say, what AssClown posted, is nearer the truth than most people would like to admit.
 
Peace and Rapture



As with any tool... it ' s worth is in how it is used. 
 
You can take a hammer and beat someone with it or you can build a bridge.  It's an individual choice.




naughtynick -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 3:02:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei

quote:

ORIGINAL: Assclown

Also MistressLorelei I saw you ranting on earlier in this thread about women not getting equal pay. You may find this link interesting
http://www.ncpa.org/pub/ba/ba392/

quote:


So surrender to these double standards and let men get oppressed and feminism will be diminish. I understand.

It would be nice if you had some logical points to prove me wrong but I know you never will. You feminist always refuse to debate with logic, instead you just say we are misogynist and ignorant to shut down debate.



I never shut down debate,  I had been "debating" all along, but didn't see anything to discuss in your post as it was simply a woman bashing post containing no factual information, and no "logic", only opinions held by a small percentage of the population.  Rape is justified, and sexual harassment doesn't exist... according to your "logical" post.  I should debate that? 

Equality for women is not oppression for men, but your logic makes a good point.  Many men do not want the equality of women, because they may no longer be at the forefront of the corporate world.  I understand how that could be a concern after all of these years, but logic such as yours has been what continues to keep women as the second class gender.

Yes, I found your website interesting.  I found it interesting that an organization that keeps citing that it is "non-partisan" is considered a conservative organization.  Here it is in the Encyclopedia's list of top conservative companies:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Conservative_organizations_in_the_United_States

The current census bureau, and the Labor Department account for your "facts" differently than your conservative reference, but even your article admits there is a  wage gap between women and men.  It still exists according to them, even after it accounts for all the reasons it believes women "should" be paid a lower wage than men should.

It's a shame that women are considered defective by employees because oh no, they might want to reproduce someday.  It's a shame that when it comes to whether mom or dad can work over time (after 5), mom goes to take care of the kids, and then is told she is worth less per dollar than her husband.  Voters refer to  a women's "time of the month" as a reason women should not be President.  There should be no double standard.  Not for women, not for men. (By the way, when is George Bush's "time of the month" over?).

If you, assclown  want to continue having more men in the future corporate world, then women will have to keep on having babies.... and because most any woman of child bearing years "can" have a baby, or because if perhaps mom has to skip overtime at certain times to look after her family, because if she doesn't, dad likely wouldn't do it (though some dad's would)....  it's still not a reason to pay women less for the hours they are working, for the positions they hold, for non promoting or hiring women for certain positions, etc.

Thankfully not all men, think like you do... and most Americans, men, women, the encyclopedia, and even your conservative reference, know there is an unfair gender wage gap.  That is not equality.  I think men are great, I am not wanting to take away social or economic equality or status that belongs to them, but to ensure that women are entitled to the same opportunities for advancement, benefits, pay,  social status, and lack of discrimination in the world, and that happens only with equality. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equal_pay

There is likely little to be gained by debating further with someone who refers to my pointing out that women make less money than men do as a "rant", but defines his woman bashing post as "logic".   But yet, we feminists are the ones who 'refuse to debate with logic'.


She really means that male oppression is equality for women. Thats what she is basically saying. We should all hush up about these double standards, if we speak up about them it means we are women bashing and its the reason why feminist should still exist. So if everyone shuts up about the wrong things that happen to men today, everything should all fix it's self while feminist constantly complain about oppression that doesn't exist or what happened in another generation.

I don't know where  mr assclown said  sexual harassment doesn't exist. I didn't agree with some of his points but most of his points were right on the tooth and nail. Women are not a second class gender no more, its men. When will women ever see this? Or is it because women never want to take responsibility for their own actions and they forever dont want to let go from what happened in the past? Feminist want to keep saying they are oppressed to keep gaining more privileges. A man's greatest weakness is our facade of strength, a women's greatest strength is her facade of weakness.

I find it funny how your profile states out that you live for female supremacy but you say you want to stand up for equality. This is what a lot of feminuts call logic. It's hilarious. Female supremacy to you means equality. *vomits*




amayos -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 4:05:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: caitlyn
A simple answer really ... you are confusing "people who happen to be women, out doing the best they can with the hand they were dealt" ... with "feminists."

There are surely feminists out there looking to create a social agenda, but they are actually very few in number. What isn't few in number, is the women out there trying to get ahead, and those that label them "feminists" to support their own social agenda.


I do wonder...who is labeling who here? [;)]




Amaros -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 5:12:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

I wouldn't scoff at a man standing up for his rights. I would roll my eyes at a someone spouting off male supremacy, just as I do female supremacy.
There are battered men out there and male victims of rape who are to afraid to come forward because of fear of being laughed at. Women can be just as violent as men and although most men would snicker at the thought of a woman trying to attack them, it happens every single day.
My own Grandmother was a husband beater, she was mean and vicious. She busted my Grandpa's head open once with a hammer because he didn't move fast enough when she told him to cut the grass.
Everyone should stand up for their rights or they can be taken away.

~Lashra



Haha, my ex tried to beat me all the time, lucky for me she hits like a girl. Got a few scars though, from ashtrays, etc., she'd smack me with while I was asleep - but they kept thowing me in jail, until they figured out I was always the only one bleeding. I shattered a guys cheekbone with a punch once, if I'd have hit her back, she'd have needed an ambulance.

Anyway, with regard to the equal pay thing, it's that estrogen again - women typcially don't demand higher pay, and will usually settle for less than a man, that's what studies indicate.

I did read an interesting article in an old copy of time that advanced the notion of a role reversal of sorts underway - it seems that men hav ebecome preoccupied with social activities, and worry more about being liked (fit) than whether they could do their jobs properly or not - meanwhile, womens math and science test scores are rising - maybe not role reversal at, but the old "a womans work is never done" thing - still, I sometimes think women could probobly do a better job of it.

Then I read Tammuz. Ah well, ten years from now, who knows?





MistressLorelei -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 5:19:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: naughtynick


She really means that male oppression is equality for women. Thats what she is basically saying. We should all hush up about these double standards, if we speak up about them it means we are women bashing and its the reason why feminist should still exist. So if everyone shuts up about the wrong things that happen to men today, everything should all fix it's self while feminist constantly complain about oppression that doesn't exist or what happened in another generation.

I don't know where  mr assclown said  sexual harassment doesn't exist. I didn't agree with some of his points but most of his points were right on the tooth and nail. Women are not a second class gender no more, its men. When will women ever see this? Or is it because women never want to take responsibility for their own actions and they forever dont want to let go from what happened in the past? Feminist want to keep saying they are oppressed to keep gaining more privileges. A man's greatest weakness is our facade of strength, a women's greatest strength is her facade of weakness.

I find it funny how your profile states out that you live for female supremacy but you say you want to stand up for equality. This is what a lot of feminuts call logic. It's hilarious. Female supremacy to you means equality. *vomits*


You must have missed the part of the post you quoted where I stated that equality for women does not mean oppression for men?   I do not want for the oppression of anyone.  Everyone deserves to function equally in society, and many of my posts here at CM are about rights for children, and members of society as a whole... this would include women.  You needn't tell others what I mean, thank you... I know what I mean. 

I mean there is there still exists female gender inequality and no one should hush up about anything.  Assclown's woman bashing post was just that... did you read it?  "When feminist lie about rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, anorexia and bulimia, they are nonetheless educating the public about legitimate issues.     When you point out that feminist lie about rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, anorexia and bulimia, you are guilty of backlash"

Anyone can lie about anything... feminists are no more likely to lie about these issues than anyone.  It was just one of the many opportunities the poster took to call feminists liars.  Do rape, domestic violence, bulimia, anorexia, and sexual harassment cease to exist?  Is anyone who relates to these issues lying, and are they all feminists?  There really was no point to be made in his post, except to blast women and make women's issues appear petty.

Women are treated as the second class gender and that is apparent by the wage gap, by the comments  made by assclown in his original post, and by others who hold  similar views and take actions.   I have yet to see a second class woman become President (or VP) of the US because thus far, Americans wouldn't stand for such a thing, simply because women are women, and to date have not been "suited" for the oval office.  Women who are raped are called sluts and whores, and are told they should have worn a different dress, women are less likely to be hired or promoted to the same level as men, the list goes on.... 

Female Supremacy... I have never denied that it's something I believe in.  I have posted on it quite a bit, and it's my belief that a woman should lead  my relationships, and if I were anyone else, I would think the same way, but I am me, so what others believe as it concerns them and their relationships, is their concern.. In my lifestyle, and in my relationships, I find women should hold more power.  However, I do not think men are deserving of less pay, or less or rights or status within society, nor do I think women deserve less of these things.

Women have not let go of what happened in the past, because it still exists in the present. Men are the second class gender?  I would assume you have documentation which supports how men are paid less, promoted less, make up a very small percentage of lawmakers, corporate leaders, and religious leaders, have never been President or VP, are not hired because they might take maternity leave "someday", etc.

I could provide endless documentation regarding women in these scenarios. though it is all common sense knowledge to most.... but it's your right to continue disbelieving it if you wish. 





utterlybutterfli -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 5:36:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Assclown

What Feminist Say

If a man sleeps with a woman and has second thoughts about it
later on, they call it "fear of commitment."
If a woman sleeps with a man and has second thoughts about it
later on, they call it "date rape"

If a man gets drunk and sleeps with a woman, they hold him
responsible for his actions.
If a woman gets drunk and sleeps with a man, they hold him
responsible for her actions.

When men judge women based on their looks, they call it"lookism"
"sexism" and "oppression"
When women judge men based on their looks and their salaries, they
call it "dating"

When a man says "You have to sleep with me to be an employee,"
they call it sexual harassment.
When a lesbian says "You have to sleep with me to be a feminist,"
they call it "body de-colonization" and "political lesbianism."

When a man says "Some feminist hate men" he is engaging in
sterotypes and bashing.
When feminist say "All men are potential rapist," she is
rasing issues.

When feminist lie about rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, anorexia and bulimia, they are nonetheless educating the public about legitimate issues.
When you point out that feminist lie about rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence, anorexia and bulimia, you are guilty of backlash.

When you ask why physical standards should be lowered so women can join the military, they say it ensures equality.
When you ask why only men are forced to register with the selective
service and only men can be forced into combat against their will, they'll say that you are the one who starts the wars.

When you say that men should not be discriminated against, they will tell you that you that you hold all the power and privileges.
When you say that you don't feel that way, they will point out rich men you don't even know.
When you say that women in your work place have equal pay and
equal numbers and no longer deserve special breaks and special promotions, they will cite some statistics from someplace else.

If you say you are afriad of a violent woman, they will laugh at
you and send you away without help.
If you protect yourself from a violent woman, they will say that violence against women is always wrong, no matter what.

If a woman accuses a Republican nominee of sexual harassment, they
say "why would she lie?"
If several women accuse a Democratic president of sexual harassment, they say "she probably lied."

If they want access to a predominantly male organization, club, or school, they say that "diversity" is good.
If they want to keep men out of a predominantly female organization, club, or school, they say "segregation" is good.

When a woman accuses a man of child abuse during a divorce or custody battle, they say "Believe the children."
When the children themselves say they weren't abused, they don't believe the children.

When a woman cannot support her children, they say we should raise taxes on everyone to set up more programs to help her.
When a man cannot support his children, they say, "Revoke the deadbeat's licence and throw him in jail."

When a man denies his children support money, they say he should
be punished.
When a woman denies her children a relationship with a warm and loving father, by thwarting his visitation rights, they say it's a
"non-traditional family."

When an unwed father wants custody of his child, they say "think of the best interest of the children."
When a mother wants custody of her child, they say "Don't punish a woman just because she works."




I don't even know where to begin with that collection of nasty generalisms.
Except to say..no, no, no




masterofurnight -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 5:57:26 PM)

Well this is just one big sticky area to get into. For all it is worth here is my two cents.

Women are equal to men now and in some ways better off then men. First the women’s list and then the men’s add up the yes answers and the no answers and see who is on higher ground.
Can you vote? Yes
Can you form a political party? Yes
Can you own a home? Yes
Can you get a job? Yes
Can you spend forever in a dead end job just to take care of your family? Yes
Can you get a collage education? Yes
Can you die for your country? Yes
Can you speak out and say what you want? Yes
Can you have a baby? Yes
Can you decide to have a baby even without the other biological parents’ consent? Yes
Can you then decide to go after the afore mentioned party for child support for 18 years? Yes
Can you decide to have an abortion even against the other biological parents’ whishes? Yes
Can you hold a corporate position? Yes
Can you be the CEO of a company? Yes
Can you stay at home and take care of the kids? Only if you are lucky enough to have someone that can take care of the bills but YES.
Can you be a dominant or a submissive? Yes
Can you be gay? Yes
Can you travel the world? Yes
Can you raise such a ruckus that even if it was an only male school before you will be the first female in it? Yes
Can you take a medical leave of absence to stay with your new born child to develop that loving nurturing connection? Yes
Is it law in most states they allow you maternity leave? Yes
Can you get meals bought for you? Yes
Can you get doors opened for you? Yes
Is it proper manners for a man to pull out your chair? Yes
Is it an acceptable gift for man to buy you flowers if he screwed up and on top of that apologize? Yes


Ok now the same questions for the guys. There might be a change in a couple of sentences but you will have to catch them but all will still have the same meaning.

Can you vote? Yes
Can you form a political party? Yes
Can you own a home? Yes
Can you get a job? Yes
Can you spend forever in a dead end job just to take care of your family? Yes
Can you get a collage education? Yes
Can you die for your country? Yes
Can you speak out and say what you want? Yes
Can you have a baby? No
Can you decide to have a baby even without the other biological parents’ consent? No and the courts/women don't care what you think.
Can you then decide to go after the afore mentioned party for child support for 18 years? No but you sure as heck will end up paying it or going to jail if you don't.
Can you decide to have an abortion even against the other biological parents’ whishes? No it is that whole not being able to have a baby thing again and if you happened to want her to have the baby and you would take care of it guess what that doesn't matter either.
Can you hold a corporate position? Yes
Can you be the CEO of a company? Yes
Can you stay at home and take care of the kids? No because the woman would get jealous of you spending more time with the kids then her.
Can you be a dominant or a submissive? Yes
Can you be gay? Yes
Can you travel the world? Yes
Can you raise such a ruckus that even if it was an only female school before you will be the first male in it? No it violates their privacy.
Can you take a medical leave of absence to stay with your new born child to develop that loving nurturing connection? No but if we were able to most of us would.
Is it law in most states they allow you maternity leave? Not for the father. Who gets up in the middle of the night to get the baby so it can be fed.
Can you get meals bought for you? Not likely the most you might get is her going dutch with you
Can you get doors opened for you? Not likely unless it is by another guy
Is it proper manners for a woman to pull out your chair? No and I doubt many would do this.
Is it an acceptable gift for woman to buy you flowers if she screwed up and on top of that apologize? Not likely to happen when is the last time a woman not of submissive nature did anything on top of apologizing?

I will say this before everyone gets all upset and bent out of shape. I like buying my dates dinner. I like holding doors for women, children, and sometimes other guys. I like pulling out my dates chair at a fancy restaurant. I don't mind buying the flowers. I don't mind spending more on gifts for the lady of my life then she does on me (trust me and do the math why else do you think jewelry stores target men not women?). I grew up with manners and use them because it is the right thing to do. Women have ever opportunity that men do in this country. A woman can run for president anytime she likes none have tried though. Without trying one never succeeds. You are only as oppressed as you let yourself be. No matter what race, religion, sex, or creed you are. There are laws out there that do make it harder for a white male to get ahead then others because the corporate world is told to promote or hire a certain number of whatever. What happened to the best person for the job gets it? What happened to if you work hard you can have a good life? Why should everyone else get special go ahead passes and the rest have to fight tooth and nail for every bit they get?

As far as how a feminist would fit into my D/s relationship well I think it would work out quite well. The D/s relationship is defined by the two people in it. If they can not come to terms with the others beliefs or feelings they usually don't stay in the relationship that long.

And for all the spelling and grammar teachers out there. Who said that you have to spell it correctly in order to voice your opinion or even put it in proper grammatical context. It is rather petty and childish to point it out as to indicate a person’s intelligence level.

Nuff Said

M
"Everyone has their dark side. Some peoples are just more interesting then others."




catize -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 6:37:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: amayos

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ORIGINAL: catize

I don't believe that standing for gender equality is a hopeless struggle. Indeed, I have observed and benefitted from the successes in my lifetime.



Ah, "gender equality." That sounds so much...nicer.


I'm not quite sure what your point is here, (sarcasm?) so I'm going to go off on my own little tangent.  One of the most disturbing pictures I have ever seen is a print that hangs on the wall of the women's rest room at a local restaurant.  In it, a woman is walking down a street.  Her mode of dress and the cars lead me to guess the photograph was taken in the late 1940's or early 1950's.  There are 6 or 7 men surrounding her.  Their mouths are open, some of them are pointing at her, several of them are grabbing their crotches. It is broad daylight, she is dressed modestly.  The look on her face is pure terror.
I do not think the men intended to harm her in any physical sense.  I am sure they had no clue that their lacivious attentions were anything but 'just a little fun'.
I do not hate men; they are much too interesting in a variety of ways to shut them out of my life.  I do not blame men for all the ills of the world.  I will be the first to admit that sometimes women are their own worst enemies.
I am a feminist.  I am for gender equality.  I simply believe that a person's genitalia should have no bearing on their ability to walk where they choose, earn the same pay for the same work, whether their talents are encouraged and appreciated. 
A bit of sarcasm back at you; yes indeed, 'gender equality' is much nicer than the alternative.  Your contention that it is an unobtainable goal is only proven by such posts from 'naughtynick' and 'theassclown'.  But I do not despair. 








amayos -> RE: Are there any feminists out there? (9/11/2006 7:26:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: catize

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ORIGINAL: amayos

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ORIGINAL: catize

I don't believe that standing for gender equality is a hopeless struggle. Indeed, I have observed and benefitted from the successes in my lifetime.



Ah, "gender equality." That sounds so much...nicer.


I'm not quite sure what your point is here, (sarcasm?) so I'm going to go off on my own little tangent. One of the most disturbing pictures I have ever seen is a print that hangs on the wall of the women's rest room at a local restaurant. In it, a woman is walking down a street. Her mode of dress and the cars lead me to guess the photograph was taken in the late 1940's or early 1950's. There are 6 or 7 men surrounding her. Their mouths are open, some of them are pointing at her, several of them are grabbing their crotches. It is broad daylight, she is dressed modestly. The look on her face is pure terror.
I do not think the men intended to harm her in any physical sense. I am sure they had no clue that their lacivious attentions were anything but 'just a little fun'.
I do not hate men; they are much too interesting in a variety of ways to shut them out of my life. I do not blame men for all the ills of the world. I will be the first to admit that sometimes women are their own worst enemies.
I am a feminist. I am for gender equality. I simply believe that a person's genitalia should have no bearing on their ability to walk where they choose, earn the same pay for the same work, whether their talents are encouraged and appreciated.
A bit of sarcasm back at you; yes indeed, 'gender equality' is much nicer than the alternative. Your contention that it is an unobtainable goal is only proven by such posts from 'naughtynick' and 'theassclown'. But I do not despair.



Actually, the above-mentioned users, along with a few others in this thread, had some valid points, I thought.

So I guess I'll call myself a masculinist.
And I stand for gender equality. *Bright smile*

Btw, the I think the image you are referring to was taken by Ruth Orkin. It's called "American Girl in Italy."—if it's the one I'm thinking you're describing. Excellent shot. She was a wonderful photographer, and an influence for me in the early years of my own work.


Edited to add: I seem to recall another image that fits your above description, but I can't recall it at the moment.




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