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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:13:15 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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ORIGINAL: LRODANDMASTER

U DO'NT KONW THAT SEX WITHOUT A CODNOM IS HIGH RISK?  U NEED TO GET URSELF EDUCATED U CAN GET LIKE AIDES AND DIAHHREA AND STUFF.


LROD!  Where is your tag line, dumass?!  New people don't know.  You have been gone for way too long! 
Missed ya babe!
(FYI)  LROD posts ridiculous responses using poor grammer, worse spelling and always types in caps.  He is the alter ego of  another regular poster (can you guess?) who uses this ID when feeling frisky and irreverant!

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 9/9/2006 8:17:47 PM >

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:16:44 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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ORIGINAL: Kahri

The more men I know, the fewer I believe to be truly heterosexual. So many "straight" guys are actually bi.

I wish I could believe that those "straight" guys who are having sex with other men were taking proper precautions to protect themselves and their unwitting female partners, but I think it's unlikely. Because if they start taking precautions, that means that they have to admit that they are actually planning on and intending to do these things with men. And if they do that, they may just have to face the fact that they are not straight, but bi. And they can't face that reality.

It makes me sad, when it doesn't make me angry on behalf of the women who are being exposed to risks they know nothing about. it's also why I believe everyone should engage in safe sex with everyone - even their own long-term partner - unless they have such an open relationship that they know their partner shares everything because there is no reason to hide it.


And I am going to agree wtih Kahri, here.  Condoms a definite must.  But who can ever know when someone is on the down low.  In fact, that is why it is called the down low.  Secrets.
And condoms are not a guarantee.  I believe that anyone should be honest and allow a partner to make a personal decision as to risk.  Being on the DL does not allow that.
 

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:39:21 PM   
LeMis


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My understand of being on the DL or down low is men who purport to be heterosexual and have female partners but secretly have sex with men on the side.


oooooopsss.... I thought DL stood for driver's license...   

Thanks for the lesson...

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:41:13 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Actually, I didn't have a clue that when she was talking about "protection," she was referring to safe sex.  I thought she meant how to protect a fem sub from physical damage.  If I had known what she meant, I wouldn't have even said anything about codnoms...I mean condoms...

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:44:06 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I'da thought someone could figure out that a post from a screen name called LRODANDMASTER isn't going to be too strong on spelling.

But I'll forbear because your little red corset is so gorgeous.

Maybe I should upload an avatar of the elephants fucking upside down...

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressTexas

Speaking of educated lrod, it's not only impolite to type only in caps, but theres a handy dandy lil spellcheck button right on the post box for things like "codnom." 

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:46:40 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

(FYI)  LROD posts ridiculous responses using poor grammer, worse spelling and always types in caps.  He is the alter ego of  another regular poster (can you guess?) who uses this ID when feeling frisky and irreverant!


Thanks Dusty :)

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:48:30 PM   
Owned1


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Actually, I didn't have a clue that when she was talking about "protection," she was referring to safe sex.  I thought she meant how to protect a fem sub from physical damage.  If I had known what she meant, I wouldn't have even said anything about codnoms...I mean condoms...


<gets out her slingshot and fires a condom/protection thingy at Lordandmaster>

Owned

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:53:22 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: Kahri

The more men I know, the fewer I believe to be truly heterosexual. So many "straight" guys are actually bi.

I wish I could believe that those "straight" guys who are having sex with other men were taking proper precautions to protect themselves and their unwitting female partners, but I think it's unlikely. Because if they start taking precautions, that means that they have to admit that they are actually planning on and intending to do these things with men. And if they do that, they may just have to face the fact that they are not straight, but bi. And they can't face that reality.

It makes me sad, when it doesn't make me angry on behalf of the women who are being exposed to risks they know nothing about. it's also why I believe everyone should engage in safe sex with everyone - even their own long-term partner - unless they have such an open relationship that they know their partner shares everything because there is no reason to hide it.


There are some times when you have to take risks in life in order to live it. I would rather get HIV then live in suspicion of my mate. In my current relationship we were both tested before we had sex without a condom and we protected one another until those tests were known. We started our relationship with a clean slate. I am not going to wear condoms with my exclusive partner. If it ends up he gives me HIV I will have to get treatment for it and hope for a cure (looks pretty close these days). I refuse to live my life without intimacy and trust in my mate.. I might as well stay alone


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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 8:53:31 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: Owned1

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Actually, I didn't have a clue that when she was talking about "protection," she was referring to safe sex.  I thought she meant how to protect a fem sub from physical damage.  If I had known what she meant, I wouldn't have even said anything about codnoms...I mean condoms...


<gets out her slingshot and fires a condom/protection thingy at Lordandmaster>

Owned


On one of those Discovy Channel programs.. they were show casing the AIDS  epidemic in Africa.  The educaiton is/was so poor about AIDS at the time, the men blamed the WOMEN for giving them AIDS. 

Couldn't blame that on drug IV use and transfusion.  Nope, probably one of thier "touch buddies" :)  ( love that term)


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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 9:14:51 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

There are some times when you have to take risks in life in order to live it. I would rather get HIV then live in suspicion of my mate. In my current relationship we were both tested before we had sex without a condom and we protected one another until those tests were known. We started our relationship with a clean slate. I am not going to wear condoms with my exclusive partner. If it ends up he gives me HIV I will have to get treatment for it and hope for a cure (looks pretty close these days). I refuse to live my life without intimacy and trust in my mate.. I might as well stay alone



I think men are a bit freer and looser about their  DL partners.  PLEEESE, someone correct me if I'm  wrong!!!!  I hope I am.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 9:27:42 PM   
MistressTexas


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'da thought someone could figure out that a post from a screen name called LRODANDMASTER isn't going to be too strong on spelling.

But I'll forbear because your little red corset is so gorgeous.

Maybe I should upload an avatar of the elephants fucking upside down...

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressTexas

Speaking of educated lrod, it's not only impolite to type only in caps, but theres a handy dandy lil spellcheck button right on the post box for things like "codnom." 



So how come you get to poke fun and I don't :

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 9:30:26 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		OK, now I'm confused.

Are we using "DL" as a euphemism for blowjob?

To most American males, "on the DL" means "on the disabled list."  Like when a football player shreds his knee ligaments.  It doesn't have anything to do with oral sex or wearing a condom.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 9:55:45 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

OK, now I'm confused.

Are we using "DL" as a euphemism for blowjob?

To most American males, "on the DL" means "on the disabled list."  Like when a football player shreds his knee ligaments.  It doesn't have anything to do with oral sex or wearing a condom.


No...being on the DL, means being on the "down low".  Exactly as explained above, it is men who publicly proclaim to be heterosexual but have homosexual liasons on the side and keep it very, very private.  Therefore, any ladies would normally not question an overtly heterosexual man as far as risky sexual behavior with other males.
All people should be tested, but even if a male if clear at that point, if he is on the down low, he may contract an STD like HIV, and his Lady would never know he was even engaging in unsafe sex with other males.
Yes...My opinion only...many males, especially if on the DL, fail to use condoms.  They prefer "bareback", thus exposing themselves to more risk.   In turn, this behavior exposes their partners to risk, unknown to the partners.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 9/9/2006 9:58:30 PM >

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:04:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong


Edited by me to restate the question:

What precautions are taken in this high risk behavior to protect a female partner?



My health and the health of my females is enormously important to me. I make certain to perform full blood screenings on any who enter my circle—and it is a very small circle, at that. Though there are times it seems I am too inflexible about my precautions toward possible transmissions of sexually transmitted diseases, I maintain that those who do not make screening and open communication a priority are asking for trouble—and will get it, eventually.

Condom use may protect you somewhat from unintentional pregnancies and some viruses, but it is in no way a panacea against infection. Many people tend to overlook that hepatitis, oral herpes or human papilloma virus (of which there are approximately 6.2 million new cases per-year) don't require unprotected sexual intercourse to transmit. The best precaution one can take is having a clear understanding of the viruses in existence and potential risks of infection, and obtaining solid proof that all are disease free before any form of fluid exchange takes place (including kissing). It is important to undertsand that some viruses have incubation periods in a host system, too, that can hide for months before a blood screen will detect their presence. These cautions tend to take the fun out of spontaneous interaction, but it is well worth it in the long run.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:09:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
To most American males, "on the DL" means "on the disabled list."  Like when a football player shreds his knee ligaments.  It doesn't have anything to do with oral sex or wearing a condom.

Where I come from "DL" means "on the down low" or something you don't want people to really know about.

If someone said something like "DL partner" in this sense, I'd assume they were having an affair.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:13:36 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
To most American males, "on the DL" means "on the disabled list."  Like when a football player shreds his knee ligaments.  It doesn't have anything to do with oral sex or wearing a condom.

Where I come from "DL" means "on the down low" or something you don't want people to really know about.

If someone said something like "DL partner" in this sense, I'd assume they were having an affair.


As it has been stated.. The Down Low in this case refers to heterosexual married men that seek sex with homosexual males.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:23:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster


To most American males, "on the DL" means "on the disabled list."  Like when a football player shreds his knee ligaments.  It doesn't have anything to do with oral sex or wearing a condom.


Heyy...i'm a girl, and i think DL means the disabled list too!!  Of course, i'm a Cubs fan, so i'm very familiar with the term this season.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:23:31 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Then going on the DL is a great way to go on the DL.

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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:27:48 PM   
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Then going on the DL is a great way to go on the DL.


Ha!  I love it.


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RE: On the DL - 9/9/2006 10:28:07 PM   
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