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SirDaniel -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/15/2006 6:28:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: marieToo
Valid points.  If I order a pizza, I think nothing of the delivery guy knowing my name and address. But the pizza delivery guy hasnt been having delusions of granduer about tieing and whipping me either. 


Really? How do you know?..>:)




RedSavageSlave -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/15/2006 6:33:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SirDaniel

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ORIGINAL: marieToo
Valid points.  If I order a pizza, I think nothing of the delivery guy knowing my name and address. But the pizza delivery guy hasnt been having delusions of granduer about tieing and whipping me either. 


Really? How do you know?..>:)


Now if only I could find a guy who thinks like you do SirDaniel.. LOL




slavejlb -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/15/2006 10:30:14 PM)

my husband and i sign up for skytalk and with that you call though the computer even over seas
and still in real life id is a keep quite
take care and be safe
Master Mawgan slave java




diamonddreamlove -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/17/2006 4:20:11 PM)

I have given out my cell number and with the exception of a recent drunk Dom (He was my first bdsm r/t experience) it has been a good experience.  In this particular case the Dom decided He wanted to collar while i was not interested in doing such.  He promptly got drunk and stayed drunk calling me every 2 minutes for 2 days.  I threatened to turn Him in for harrassment and the SOB tried to blackmail me.  On day 3 He got sober and called and left yet another message apologising for His behavior and would i please give Him one more chance.  This was His second chance with maturity problems and so my silence i hope will scream NO WAY!!!! or atleast until His next binge.  Either way i am finished with the relationship.  I was trying to end the relationship with Him because i have found the One i believe i will be happily collared to within the next year. 




uchoose -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/17/2006 5:28:10 PM)

Hmm this girl rarely gives her number out over the net.....there has to be a really good vibe first and many important character questions asked and answered first ....some Doms expect a number to be given just because it is asked for....and become angry when refused.....usually thats when this girl knows she did the right thing in refusing.....this girl believes it all comes down to gut feeling.....when this girl did finally call a certain Dom because the "feeling was right" the conversation lasted over 7 hours the chemistry and connection was there and time flew by before it was noticed by either of us.....when looking for a partner its important to be selective....especially so in this lifestyle
uchoose




RiotGirl -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/17/2006 7:59:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Giving out your phone number. Is it right or wrong. You hear that you should never give out your phone number. Then you hear if they wont give you a phone number then they are hiding something. I've been on the internet since the beginning and have never giving out my phone number. If you want to talk use a computer mike . They are cheap and you dont have to pay for the call.


Heck i give out my cell number, i dun care.  Whats the worst that can happen?  They call me non stop?  Bah its already happened.... and ignore...

and ignore..

But my house number.. nah.. only a few ppl i trust are getting that.  Thats my "home" and not many are allowed to enter




marieToo -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/17/2006 8:06:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SirDaniel

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ORIGINAL: marieToo
Valid points.  If I order a pizza, I think nothing of the delivery guy knowing my name and address. But the pizza delivery guy hasnt been having delusions of granduer about tieing and whipping me either. 


Really? How do you know?..>:)


Come to think of it.....He did look at me kinda weird last time....




Leonardo -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 7:19:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
A little different question. why would a woman give out her number on the net to a perfect stranger. If she met that same person on the street and he asked her for it she would say no.

That's not necessarily true.  I've given my number out to people I've just met online for a variety of reasons, but mostly because it felt right to me.  And so far, it's been fine.

I'll also say- I don't have a landline, all I have is my cell.


In today's society, we're all so afraid of our own shadows. I hand out business cards with MY (not some corporate office) phone number on it all the time. I publicly advertise my phone number (oh, look.... it's even in the phone book).


Leonardo




juliaoceania -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 7:23:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Leonardo

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
A little different question. why would a woman give out her number on the net to a perfect stranger. If she met that same person on the street and he asked her for it she would say no.

That's not necessarily true.  I've given my number out to people I've just met online for a variety of reasons, but mostly because it felt right to me.  And so far, it's been fine.

I'll also say- I don't have a landline, all I have is my cell.


In today's society, we're all so afraid of our own shadows. I hand out business cards with MY (not some corporate office) phone number on it all the time. I publicly advertise my phone number (oh, look.... it's even in the phone book).


Leonardo


You may not be so nonchalant about it if you were a single woman or even a single mom and meeting people on alternative sexuality sites.. just an observation, although I might be wrong and you would hand it out to every man with a flogger in a 100 miles radius.. I certainly wouldn't. But I do agree that we can take it too far




Nimkii -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 7:37:35 AM)

need to be comfy at all times. ya wanna talk here or on the phone. its all about comfort level and your gut feeling




popeye1250 -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 9:38:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: angelic

i agree with you juliaoceania.  If someone wants to meet me, they better be prepared to give up some personal info.  my personal safety comes first if the other person has a problem with that, then we are not going to get along in any event.

Angelic, I wouldn't have a problem with that.
I'd give out my phone number, address, plate number of car etc once I got to know someone online.
I guess you'd have to figure that someone who (wouldn't) give those out had something to hide.




Dnomyar -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 11:19:47 AM)

Would you also give out you social security number over the phone??




WhyteRavenne -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 12:56:12 PM)

I think half of Calgary has my number.  I refuse to meet anyone without talking with them on the phone first.  I usually will meet someone either at my home or close to it.  The reason for this, I have very close neighbors, that are discrete, but caring, a dog that is very well trained (collie) and my bestfriend who helps me filter through people that might be undesirable (he stays on another floor, and checks in on me, occasionally.  What a lot of people don't realize, is that giving your email address is actually more revealing than your phone number.  A phone number can be traced to your house, an email address exposes your inner ego, any sites that you have given it to and sometimes links to blogs etc.
I think, as with everything in life, if you have to take caution and follow your inner voice.  (of course, if you are as trusting as I am, it's good to have a couple of back up burly men to watch over you!)




Sinergy -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/18/2006 1:16:50 PM)

Hello A/all,

Everybody and their dog has my cell phone number.  I must have 300 numbers in it from people I work with; we share them so we can check in or call people on break and go "Dude, the ship left, go home."

I am seldom home, and I check my home messages about twice a week, so I dont normally give that out.

Neither of my numbers has my address listed.

People I am going to meet get my car license plate number and my california driver's license number to give to their safe call.  Police know how to use these numbers to thwart any hanky panky.

I cannot think of a valid reason to give a person my social security number. 

Just me, etc.

Sinergy




Leonardo -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/19/2006 9:46:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Leonardo

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
A little different question. why would a woman give out her number on the net to a perfect stranger. If she met that same person on the street and he asked her for it she would say no.

That's not necessarily true.  I've given my number out to people I've just met online for a variety of reasons, but mostly because it felt right to me.  And so far, it's been fine.

I'll also say- I don't have a landline, all I have is my cell.


In today's society, we're all so afraid of our own shadows. I hand out business cards with MY (not some corporate office) phone number on it all the time. I publicly advertise my phone number (oh, look.... it's even in the phone book).


Leonardo


You may not be so nonchalant about it if you were a single woman or even a single mom and meeting people on alternative sexuality sites.. just an observation, although I might be wrong and you would hand it out to every man with a flogger in a 100 miles radius.. I certainly wouldn't. But I do agree that we can take it too far


Well, at least giving out the phone number to a man in here, there is a good chance that you'd know he has a flogger. When you go shopping at a store, you even give your driver's license to a cashier you don't know... you give your credit card to a McD's employee... you give your telephone number to the Wally World cashier... along with your name, and driver's license info when you write a check, etc.

There's folks in here so afraid of their own shadows that they're afraid to post their pics even in here... as if they were some famous celebrity or something that doesn't want the paparazzi to see their pic in oooo collarme... heaven forbid. Or maybe it's like this one woman I knew who got all upset because I took her picture (along with everyone else in the group) while coming out of a liquor store and she was so scared that her church would find out that she was a lush.

Returning to the telephone topic, though... it would be safe to surmise that some of the folks I have given my phone number to engage in 'deviant sexual behavior' of some sort or another.  And I have had some bothersome telephone calls made to me in the past... mostly from telemarketers and politicians (they have your number, as well and the 'do not call list doesn't work for local telemarketers, including politicians), who are pretty aggravating. When you quickly hit them with a criminal or civil harassment action, it usually takes care of the problem. If a person is afraid of being seen or afraid of running into a nut case, then maybe it's best to stay hidden behind the computer (oh, no, even so, you aren't hidden since these days you can be found if a person wants to go through the trouble and expense). Perhaps ya'll need to constantly look over your shoulder to be sure you aren't being followed on the way home from the mall or the supermarket and even then you can't be sure someone is not watching you.

I'm not going to sacrifice my quality of life by being afraid of my own shadow... even if I display deviant sexual behaviors since I get bored with the missionary position.

Leonardo




juliaoceania -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/19/2006 2:28:56 PM)

You are a man so I would expect that you would not feel as vulnerable as we women do. Unfortunately women have more to fear from men than vice versa. I am not afraid of my own shadow, but I do not leave myself completely open to harm either.. it is called common sense and street smarts, women who have them are victimized less than those who do not.




kinkyohiocpl -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/20/2006 1:20:59 AM)

We give out our cell number but for some reason it always ends up in the hands of girls who will never call us :(




OhReallyNow -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/20/2006 5:14:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

You are a man so I would expect that you would not feel as vulnerable as we women do. Unfortunately women have more to fear from men than vice versa. I am not afraid of my own shadow, but I do not leave myself completely open to harm either.. it is called common sense and street smarts, women who have them are victimized less than those who do not.

this slave was raised in an area overridden with gang activity 20 years ago, it is ten times worse now. She learned the hard way about protection of one self; yet, she finds your comment here offensive.
Many women are extremely careful about protecting themselves, yet, just because they trust their INSTINCTS does not mean that they lack common sense or street smarts. Let's face it, common sense and street smarts rely on instinct more than anything else.
 
of course this slave could have misread your words, in which case she apologizes.




spankmepink11 -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/20/2006 5:42:13 AM)

I'm a single woman, and mother, but have never considered myself a potential victim of anything worse than being taken advantage of by car mechanics or other "fix it" types who view us as easy targets for inflated prices or unneeded repairs. (i've recently found the resources and kajones to help avoid even this...go me! [:)] )   No one i've met,  via the internet, or spoken to over the telephone has ever given me cause to seriously regret the contact, nor has caused me to be fearful. Maybe i'm an anomally...or maybe i'm just lucky...or maybe yet still,  it's the fact that most i talk to know that  i have large...well muscled...very protective sons.
I generally avoid putting myself in dangerous/unsafe positions, and i don't believe that giving ones phone number qualifies as such.  This does not mean that i am not choosey about who i share the numbers with, i simply follow my instincts.




Leonardo -> RE: Giving out your phone number (9/21/2006 10:07:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

I'm a single woman, and mother, but have never considered myself a potential victim of anything worse than being taken advantage of by car mechanics or other "fix it" types who view us as easy targets for inflated prices or unneeded repairs. (i've recently found the resources and kajones to help avoid even this...go me! [:)] )   No one i've met,  via the internet, or spoken to over the telephone has ever given me cause to seriously regret the contact, nor has caused me to be fearful. Maybe i'm an anomally...or maybe i'm just lucky...or maybe yet still,  it's the fact that most i talk to know that  i have large...well muscled...very protective sons.
I generally avoid putting myself in dangerous/unsafe positions, and i don't believe that giving ones phone number qualifies as such.  This does not mean that i am not choosey about who i share the numbers with, i simply follow my instincts.


Actually, very well said.

People can get your telephone number if they want to... even if you have an unlisted number (look at telemarketers). It's very easy to do. So, I fully agree that giving out your telephone number doesn't actually qualify as putting yourself into a dangerous/unsafe position.

As for the other person earlier posting that her seeing as I was a man, I was not as sympathetic to fear positions that women have and that men usually don't have as much fear as women, I would disagree wholly in that such a comment is gender-biased stereotypical. I have met many a woman that was way more courageous than many guys, and I have met many guys that fear their own shadows, as well (though some wouldn't admit it).

Leonardo




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