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EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? (9/24/2006 1:43:32 PM)
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i'm fast replying.
ouch, this thread like burned my fucking eyes just reading it. yet, like a train wreck or bad farming accident, it's sorta hard to not keep reading.
i won't say anything pretty much not already expressed by the female dominants here, but i may add a few things here or there.
if someone says *most* XYZ about a group or whatever, obviously that's a generalizing statement based upon personal experiences. that's life. we all generalize. he or she or s/he, not guilty of generalizing can cast the first stone. we all do it.
but sometimes generalizations that stem from our personal experiences are just our observations. once again, that's life.
some dommes like sissies (i personally know of another ebony lifestyle domme in NYC that nearly EXCLUSIVELY takes sissies). honestly, i used to think she was fuckin nuts for only wanting sissies from my experience and drama that i had dealt with training them (notice how i'm saying MY experience.)
with that being said i currently have 3 CD/TV, i also have had a few in the past 10 years and i've recently acquired a new TV that's working towards total transformation. i typically use CDing as a form of humiliation on my male slaves as a form of punishment because they truly hate being crossed dressed. it's a wonderful tool for those that feel humiliated by it.
every now and then i will take a totally passable TV and own them. it's very rare they behave TOTALLY unlike the CD/TVs i've experienced in the past.
some dommes like them some don't. oh well. i personally prefer more masculine slaves and seeing how i'm not attracted to dominating or training genetic females i see little enjoyment from training a cross dressed male.
this part is direct towards sissifytoserve: (i know i'm opening myself up for a flame, yet this is as constructive as i can get)
i'm not coming down on you nor ragging on you, that has been done enough already (although admittedly, you really did bring a lot of it upon yourself with the manner at which you approached the situation). it's ok for people to make generalizations, instead of living up to the expectations that many women have about CDs you could have easily dispelled them or brought a civil discourse into it. there has obviously been some things in your past where you felt you were being abused or fell to predatory dommes and honestly, in my sincerest earnest opinion, i feel you sorta *dumped* it all on the women here. you took one word like *most* and translated it wholly as if it's the view of every domme here applying to every CD in the world. it really came off as way bitter and i feel if you wanted your side of the coin to be better accepted, you could have gone about expressing yourself in a much more civil and less antagonistic manner.
especially when in the beginning no one was attacking you personally. perhaps a domme that you totally vibe with will be the key to correcting that, but you sorta went off the deep end in terms of your aggression dear. not being judgemental, merely stating my observation.
i like masochists, i like edge players, i accept some sissies, i like rubberists..... i mean the list goes on and on. if someone ONLY wants one type of sub or another, it's really not productive to internalize everything some of the women said as being wholly directed towards CDs as a whole or worse yet, directed specifically towards you.
let's face it. some dommes DON'T want any dealings with CDs.. and that's their god given choice. just like some dommes don't want masochists or edge players for whatever reasons. we all have our reasons why. i personally prefer fetishists and i know Many dommes find fetishists to be sooooooo selfish and not so submissive (which is entirely true for the most part, however i am a huge fetishist myself so it works for me and mine).. but i wouldn't take offense to a domme that said all fetishist subs are this or that.. i would know she's talking about HER experiences.
i suggest you do the same.
you have to realize that some battles aren't worth waging, especially when the battle was pretty much nonexistent to begin with.
people are entitled to their opinions. if i run across a submissive that is not what i seek, i just move on. i don't rant or take things from message board to message board asserting my cause or attempting to stand up for the rights of all dommes of my ilk.
i will tell you my negative impressions of a fair deal of the CDs i've encountered. once again, what I"VE encountered.
-selfish, catty, egocentric, can't clean a house for SHIT, but they wanna prance around with the perfect maid uniform and a feather duster like that's really gonna do some shit around my house. they're very high to maintain, obssessed with cock/cock worship even to the point of wanting me to pimp them out.
then on the POSITIVE side i have run across CDs whom are:
-demure, respectful, courteous, respectful, feminine, good at house keeping, cultured, willing to be trained (not just get their rocks off by CD'ing and see their ability to CD as a reward as we will go shopping in public together while she's dressed etc).. they're endearing, we can swap heels & rubber so that totally cuts down on our fetish wardrobe expenses, i can practice make up on them for photo shoots or whatever. i view them as living dolls. and i truly enjoy the ones under my control. if i painted every CD/TV that approached me with the same brush, i wouldn't have a single one because the bad have definitely outweighed the good.
every type of submissive has good and bad qualities. but you can't say everyone is a fem supremacist or ignorant or rude just because she may not want that interraction with a certain type of submissive based on their own preferences or own experiences. what is life if we don't learn from our experiences or live by our preferences?
i would seriously suggest you step away from the forum for a bit and truly think about what it is you're trying to express, or prove, or what is the driving for behind your anger.
if, however, you want to jump and attack me, like i've seen you do several other innocuous posts.. then i suggest you approach me in private emai (or even if you want to discuss your feelings in generall, because quibbling with a submissive is a bit beneath me and obviously you have some unworked upon things in your past dealings with mistresses or a mistress that has caused you to respond thusly.
adieu
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