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FLsubmalecd -> RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? (12/6/2006 9:35:11 AM)
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It is just wrong to lump all cross dressers, Transvestites, transgendered males into a group. No different then it is to lump all Dominant women into a group.
I happen to be a cross dresser. I have been this way since about age 9. it is not a choice to remain or even start out to be what I am. Over the years, it has caused much stress in myself and in my earlier relationships. My first wife never even knew. it was a closely guarded secret that I did not share with anyone. So that is about 46 years of being a cross dresser. Now compared to about 12 years of finding and realizing my desire to be submissive, there is no contest as to the time I have been aware of both parts of who and what I am. But I can tell you this...As much as I now enjoy dressing and being fem, it is now taken the back seat to my need and desire to be a submissive. Another words IF I had to chose one, or give up one of these personality traits, it wold be my need to dress first. Maybe the two traits are somewhat related. I don't know. I do know that many of us cross dressers are also submissives. Most of us to Dominant women ONLY. But please, do not lump me in with those that are into themselves, their clothes, make up and fem selves more then I am to the one I love and serve. It makes no difference how i dress, I am first and foremost submissive to the one and only I serve. In fact, She controls when and how I dress. My cross dressing for the most part is only when She wants me dressed in fem mode. And believe it or not, I am very happy that way. it makes my dressing fem much more special to know She wants me that way on Her terms alone. Like so much else in my life, She controls this part of me too. Yes I do feel very lucky to have met a Domme that not only accepts my dressing, but likes it from time to time too. She knows it is part of me just like eating, drinking and breathing. It is not something we can give up easily. It is a drive, compulsion or need that from the start we had little control over.
So even among us that are cross dressers, we are very much individuals with different kinks, and desires. Sure, I have seen my share of cross dressers that seem to be narcissistic as hell; So much into themselves that they are not even fun to be around. some CDs call themselves sissies, but not all. I personally hate that term and do not identify as such. It has other bad connotations to me. Just like the term Mistress is not liked by my Domme. Again, other meanings ruin it for Her..just like sissy is not what I am about or who I am. It does not make it right or wrong, just wrong for me. I respect those that use that terminology about themselves or their submissives.
So my submission comes first. The wants, needs and desires of M' Lady come first. I live to serve Her and put my needs and wants second. To me, that is what being submissive is all about.
So to answer the OP's question...Yes, there are some Dominant Women that like cross dressers and there are some that don't. So simple. No different then my liking or not liking what some of us in the braod spectrum of BDSM or D/s ar einto and are not into. We are all different with different likes, dislikes, kinks and views on things within our lifestyle.
I am currently reading a book about the Goddess path. it even validates and explains one theory as to why some of us men dress and emulate woman. Why many of us men want to serve Women and submit to their will. Frankly what it says makes me proud to respect women and the Great Goddess so much that I am a submissve and a cross dresser. Look around, the male dominated world is a pretty screwed up place. it is long past time for the Women of the world to once again be our respected leaders as it was in the beginning when Women ( Goddesses) were worshipped. I n bneing a submissive man and a cross dresser, I am doing my small part. But we all have different sets of values and beliefs, and that's OK. I respect those differences, like who and what I like and ignore or leave alone what I don't respect of like. It would be a better world if we all did that.
So count me as one that is glad that SOME Mistresses like us cross dressers.
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