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what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:18:13 AM   
mons


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this was ask in a post in the humor forum. i thought about this and right away i know what age i was now ok being a domme i am strong a caring and always in control. but as i writen before i was abuse in my lose memery i did not remember it at all but i always felt strange when i went o therpay ( do not knock it, it works ) but i found our the craziest thing in my inner child i was about 5 this is when the abuse started but my sister, i stay this way for many years i was acting like i was 5 but i took care of my fmaily and did the things i know but in therpay i was so different queit scare. when i left i was age 7.
i am back in therpay i am not age 15 lol and it is so strange to have to inside of me does anyone know about this. i may stay this way but it is funny and ok my therpist told me i am ok with how i am . and yes i found out the abuse made me a domme i need to prpoect me from my brother but i now angry at men i am mad at my borhter.
 
i am proud of who i become i came thorught a nightmare childhood to be a kind and caring i am know to everyone in my niegohood as the one who you can come to for help i had a littleone   when his mother hit a child with her car  now his father was awake and righ up stairs but he came to get me. i am trust and yes loved by many here so therpay is working well. i hope this is in the right place
 
any hthought or advcie is welcome
 
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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 9:28:16 AM   
GeekyGirl


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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 11:27:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I completely agree. I cannot figure out where the question or statements are because your grammar and spelling suck. Please figure out how to use a spellcheck. They're not too difficult.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 11:41:15 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Dear mons, they obviously don't understand your learning disability and how to read "thru" it to the meaning of what you are asking. Aside from that..........

I have known of others that have the same situation as you, inner child of the age they began to be abused with an exteriour persona that protects the inner. With some people it can be very destructive, fortunately it sounds like you have been able to channel everything into a positive force. Very awsome!

It's funny that you brought that up because I had a long talk to someone that I have known for a very long time the other day. As they were getting ready to leave they said something so funny to me about myself. How they find it so interesting that I can "enjoy the moment" without letting the fear of what others might think, much like a child. )Ex. stuff like a snowball fight, carnival rides etc..)  I also do a great job of being a highly functioning adult.  Yet, they have always said I have an old soul also. I don't think about it much because it's just who I am but they find it an intriguing combination.


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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:14:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Dear mons, they obviously don't understand your learning disability and how to read "thru" it to the meaning of what you are asking. Aside from that..........

I have known of others that have the same situation as you, inner child of the age they began to be abused with an exteriour persona that protects the inner. With some people it can be very destructive, fortunately it sounds like you have been able to channel everything into a positive force. Very awsome!

It's funny that you brought that up because I had a long talk to someone that I have known for a very long time the other day. As they were getting ready to leave they said something so funny to me about myself. How they find it so interesting that I can "enjoy the moment" without letting the fear of what others might think, much like a child. )Ex. stuff like a snowball fight, carnival rides etc..)  I also do a great job of being a highly functioning adult.  Yet, they have always said I have an old soul also. I don't think about it much because it's just who I am but they find it an intriguing combination.



Most are unaware of mon's situation, as am I. Not that it is something to be aired here unless she wants to speak of it.  I agree, it's often hard to understand the points, but if people would have a little patience to re-read mon's posts as I often do, they might be able to come to a possible understanding of what she says.

Being a very nice person that I've noticed, people need to take a bit more care in what they say to mon and others.  Try mulling over in your minds as many possibilities as you can as to why a person comes off as they do.  Instead of jumping to conclusions and being rude as all get out while saying you're not trying to be.  Some people are for various reasons not as capable with words as other people are. (And yes, some are just lazy, which mon is not)

I'm certainly guilty of saying "I'm not trying to be mean/rude"....but at least I try to temper my statements that follow to not come off as a complete jackass.  (Not saying that the person up there who said it was a complete jackass because I don't think she is from her previous posts elsewhere)  I'm just point that out in general that many have been complete jackasses and probably will continue to be after my response here in reference to mon's posts.

Anywho, not to hijack the thread, which is not my intention at all.

After reading LT's response, I myself have a better and more clarified understanding of mon's post.  I had an idea and it seems I was close.  I relate very well to what LT said because it's how some people have viewed me over the years and it is something I've tried to keep hold of.  Being able to enjoy life and situations as might a child would, is a great way to keep one's self grounded in life.  Keeps us a little more sane and in tune to things other than the stressful things in the "adult/grownup" world we all live in.

At the same time, as LT said, some people have what some call an "old soul". That was more evident in me when I was a teenager, and in the past few years, my own inner child has been rearing.  It's interesting to see how much and how often some of us display those different parts of our personalities and at what times in our lives.


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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:26:47 PM   
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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:33:16 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		unfortunately there is no "rude and snarky" check button............

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:41:26 PM   
Aine


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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

I don't know of any learning disability that keeps a person from clicking the "spell check" button. If there is one, please enlighten me. 


Maybe I'm one of the few that have gotten quite fed up with the spell check button.  Sometimes it's utterly useless.  And seeing as there is no spell check button in the format of this forum,  honestly how many people really spend the time to open up another program and flip back and forth in order to respond with "perfect clarity" to appease people such as yourself?

Not many.  Though, yes, I have known a few.  I do believe that they were mild OCD, or even undiagnosed.

Have you really even tested the spell check and grammar check buttons?!  Those things don't work on context whatsoever.  If you let one of those things go rampant without checking -yourself- along the way, it will change up words all over the place that it "think" that are trying to be spelled and you end up with something that makes even less sense than before.

Yes, I've done it and yes, I am a geek :D


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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:41:29 PM   
Sinergy


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Status: offline 		Hello A/all,

While I have certainly been guilty of slaughtering the messenger, I try to approach my responses with two things in mind.

1)  Is what I am saying true?  Additionally, is it something that
actually needs to be said?

2)  Is what I am saying as kind or nice as I think I can make the
statement.

While I did find it difficult to understand what Mons was posting, she did not immediately come out and preface a bunch of inarticulate gibberish with the comment that "As a professor of Literature at college, marble grumble and we; erk, mangle."  Spell check is a good idea, although I couldnt even tell you where the button is on here.  I gave up using them when I was told that I misspelled words like peurile or rede and gave me no correct spellings found.

To get back to Mons' post, my other job has given me a great deal of experience in listening to other people's stories.  I would say to you that if you have found a way to heal or at least deal with your past in a positive manner, I would say to keep doing what you are doing.

I am not certain about the whole Old Soul thing.  I have been referred to as such by any number of people in my life, yet when I am asked how old I am I usually think of my propensity for goofing off and taking time to smell the roses and respond "Emotionally, probably about 9."

9 was a good year for me.

There are any number of real or apocryphal stories of itinerant people in both Eastern and Western traditions who had immense wisdom and yet took time to interact with other people, children, animals, and the world around them.

So my response to the question would be "How do you define age?"

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:43:05 PM   
Aine


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Status: offline 		And whatever happened to "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." ?

Backed up with a nice backhand to the mouth.  But again, I think that's just me sometimes.


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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:47:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aine

Backed up with a nice backhand to the mouth.  But again, I think that's just me sometimes.



Backhand slaps hurt my knuckles if I hit cheek bones.

Whereas a nice front hand slap (face cradled in the other hand to prevent rotational momentum and coup/contre-coup brain injury) seems to drop the people I do it to into subspace faster than anything else I do.

Of course, I only hit people I like, so...

Just me, etc.

Sinergy

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:47:33 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I agree with benji's crush. Aine, you just put a smile on my face, thank you!

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 12:56:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aine

And whatever happened to "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all." ?

Backed up with a nice backhand to the mouth.  But again, I think that's just me sometimes.



Well....no, its not just you.  It still works on me.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:03:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am glad your work with your inner child has helped you overcome the things that happened to you as a child, and your therapist is right.,.. you are more than ok the way you are, in fact it sounds as though your experiences made you into an extremely responsible person.

When I was overcoming things that happened to me as a child it was like I was reliving some of those emotions, sometimes we have to go back before we can go forward

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:05:40 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		alright i'm knackered and nothing at the moment is making much sense, but it seems like an interesting topic.  So yeah, i'm attempting a reply. 

Spell check, ect - bah.  It doesnt like my words like hmmmmmmmmmmm and ummmmmmmmm and it doesnt like when i repeat words like really REALLY really tired.  I prefer to save "good" writing for when it matters.  IE an essay, a job thing, something for school or when i'm so utterly pissed off i want what i'm saying to be in the most clear and concise manner so the reader can fully understand the depths that i am insulting them.  OR of course when i am trying to educate some one on the fallacies of their ways. 

Mon's the way i deal with ppl who have issues with the way i write on the boards is simple.  Screw em.  If they arent intelligent enough to read into what i am saying then they probably wont have a very intelligent answer.  If they're too lazy to figure it out, they'll probably have a lazy answer.  AND if they just simply dont care - then their reply is meaningless. 

So w/e

As for what i think the topic is (i fall into the catagory of too damn tired at the mo)  i realised i had an interior and and exterior at about 16.  Wrote a story about it.  Couple of years later a 3rd personlity type came round.  Which was really when i sort of split into two.  The 3 were.. the little girl, the protector, and the evil one.  Basically being the little girl = good, the evil one = opposite of the girl and the protector the middle man.  Not that its a split personality thing, just a personal way of viewing ones self.

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:06:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

I don't know of any learning disability that keeps a person from clicking the "spell check" button. If there is one, please enlighten me. 


Trying to humiliate people nonconsensually maybe your kink, but I do not share it...

Why do people have to be so mean?

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:10:24 PM   
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Why do people have to be so mean?


It's easier to be mean.  To be nice sometimes requires that you think about the other person and look at life from their viewpoint.  Unfortunately many people seem unable to do that.  sigh.


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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:36:01 PM   
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quote:

Why do people have to be so mean?


i think i can answer that one for you julia.. because some people are just impertinent assholes.

flat out.

let's not sugarcoat the obvious.

people, especially on public fora, often lack even the SLIGHTEST modicum of civility that one would presume comes with a bit maturity.

not trying to be rude or anything, but i think i'll just leave it at that.

*note*
when i preface a statement with 'i'm not trying to be rude' it usually means something rather rude would ensue. let's face it,  if  anyone is sincerely not meaning to be rude, then they wouldn't need to broadcast that they're not.




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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 1:55:18 PM   
Sinergy


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ORIGINAL: EbonyFtshGoddess

*note*
when i preface a statement with 'i'm not trying to be rude' it usually means something rather rude would ensue. let's face it,  if  anyone is sincerely not meaning to be rude, then they wouldn't need to broadcast that they're not.



Hello A/all,

I would like to take this idea a step further.  In my experience, people who insist on broadcasting personality traits they have seldom actually have those traits.  It almost seems as if some part of their psyche goes "I know what I am doing, so I better let them all know I am a nice person."  I see this in profiles all the time, and it always seems like it should come in the shape of a Buick, with it's own marketing guy in a red plaid jacket and tie.

I try to be more of a lead by example sort of person.

Just me, etc.

Sinergy

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RE: what age are you - 9/18/2006 2:04:27 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Well ouch, based on that theory I should stop telling people I am a mean, evil, nasty, old batich if I want them to believe it, huh?

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