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behindmirrors -> RE: A Father's Reaction (9/25/2006 11:39:48 AM)
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This has been a truly fascinating read. I have no children of my own (I'm only 22 and I don't want kids), and I'm a submissive, but I will give the perspective I have- I do not breathe a word to anyone in my family at all about this. As far as they know, my Dom is this very nice guy that I love with all my heart, a boyfriend I've had for over a year, and that's that. They like him quite a bit. Now, were I to say to my parents: "Mom/Dad, my wonderful boyfriend is my Dominant and I'm his submissive", everything might change very quickly. Should my parents have ever tried to "peg" me as being Dominant or submissive, my guess would be that they would think I was a Domme, which I certainly am not.
Now, as a teenager, I bought a collar for myself at a local goth shop. I thought it was simply pretty and edgy, and I liked the way it felt around my neck. My mom forbade me to wear it, saying that I "was making a statement I didn't want to be making about myself." With this, I believe they know that this lifestyle exists, but that they do not approve. I know for fact my Dad is not the most monogamous man in the world (my parents, at this point, not only have separate beds but separate floors of the house as well), and that I run the risk of going to strip clubs and running into him. I've seen his personals ads in the local papers. We live only 20 miles away from my family. I think I could not be reproached by him per se, but that it would be uncomfortable, and that like all issues regarding sexuality in my family, it would never be discussed- I wasn't even allowed to take the sex ed unit of my high school health class. I prefer to leave what's mine mine, and let them do and think what they will. I think at this point they are still feeling greatful that I have found a guy I like, since they were scared for about seven years that I was a lesbian.
behindmirrors.
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