lilyophelia
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ORIGINAL: MistressTaboo Nor is it ok to test the crops on each other in the store. I make it a rule that the vanilla world shouldn't know what you are up to...no making people uncomfortable with your kink. Oh, but tack stores have such good deals on crops, and how can you really buy something without at least, just, tapping it around? All the rest is just plain, not very nice and rude, but...playfully swatting someone with a riding crop in a tack store could be done by just about anyone at all (or am i so removed from the vanilla world that two non-BDSMers aren't likely to playfully smack each other with leather instruments just for the sake of cuteness?). Anyway, i'm guilty of having been a smackee at one time or another, but it was never obscene, i don't think. Wow, this is so tough for me to ponder. Anyway, i do agree that public play isn't very nice if you take it somewhere were it becomes out of context, or innappropriate. Taking a pony boy to a play party is one thing, for example, but it would be best to look perfectly normal until you got there. It's really out of place when a mother at Wal-Mart has to explain to a four year-old why the 22 yo woman in vinyl has a 55 yo man, wearing a wig and lipstick, on a leash. Now, i don't think it's innappropriate to be obviously a kinky person in public...i mean, if you want to dress in a way that expresses who you are...like wearing a collar in public...or wearing very fanciful (but respectable) clothing out in public, then i think that's quite acceptable, as long as people go, "wow, that's interesting," instead of shielding their eyes and muttering obscenities. i wear very pretty gothy clothing (sometimes period) out just to go shopping sometimes, and it gets attention, but i don't think it's bad. The comments i receive most are, "Wow, you look so beautiful!" or, "Did you just come from a ren faire?" i think one difference comes into play when you're using people's nonconsensual reactions to fuel some sexual kink. That's really wrong... -lily
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http://lilyophelia.blogspot.com/ - Currently in the middle of a giggly-blushy lesbian story between a Lady and a younger girl.
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