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Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:17:37 PM   
WhyteRavenne


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Outside of the people that probably write to everyone, trolls, goobs, noobs, how many have found what they have been REALLY looking for.  Not just settling, but, honest to goddess, "this is what I want".

I feel like I'm playing poker and holding out for a good hand, but, it's getting more and more tempting to play with what's already there.  It's not skill, it's gambling!

Oh, any anyone who checks my profile, please leave me a pm saying what you thought.... preferably NOT on here.. lol...

You are all beautiful, and deserve the best!


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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:27:45 PM   
DOM33416


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Status: offline 		Once , but to be honest with you I was seeking a "goob" at that time.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:31:19 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Any relationship is a risk. Even so, if you "settle" you will never be happy...you will most likely come to resent the parnter for not changing into what you wanted all along. Be patient...and look at more ways than collarme to meet potential partners.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:35:04 PM   
raiken


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Status: offline 		What Master Fire said. *grin

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:37:11 PM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		I really have to agree on Fire. In the past I have settled and settled and settled and it end up being a tease.  I know what I want and I dont want to settle for less.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:39:04 PM   
akisha


Posts: 2071
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Status: offline 		In any relationship there are going to be considerations and compromises made.

The One i'm seeing now is probably the closest match to what I'm looking for that I have ever met. But we're still in the learning each other phase and things may get better and possibly move forward to a commited relationship or we could very well decide that we are not what the other is looking for and move on.

I'm enjoying the time i have with Him now and not worrying about the future.

Now i've been moving between vanilla and DS relationships for the last 15 years. I'd go back nilla every time i got overtly fustrated with the inability to meet someone in the lifestyle. After the last ended nilla relationship I realized not being true to onesself was a waste of precious time and energy.

Some people are lucky and find thier perfect (or as close to as possible) match right away and others are like myself and take a decade or more to do so. Everything happens for a reason and in its own time.

Am i happy? at this time, extremely so and I wouldn't change a thing *S*

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:41:33 PM   
Bearlee


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From: South Central CO
Status: offline 		Settle?  Why on earth would a person do that? 
I believe we shouldn’t be looking for a partner until our lives are in order.  I don’t want a partner because I’m afraid of the dark, or can’t afford my house payment, or don’t know how to entertain myself.
I want a partner to share life with; as two whole persons off on an adventure together.  I’m in no hurry; when it happens it happens...in the meantime, I have made some really good friends, though. 
I will say, however, that I’m a bit dismayed at how many people come to places like Cm and are NOT interested in finding anything other than a temporary pastime.  <sigh>  Sometimes it amazes me what people do to other people.
beverly

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:42:39 PM   
CrappyDom


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From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		I have found what I was looking for at the time but we grow and our needs change.

In my current incarnation I have not found what I am looking for but my standards are high as are my expectations and I am more than willing to wait.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:44:14 PM   
slavejlb


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Status: offline 		i have to be honest the answer is no, and the funny thing all i seek is a master who has time for me, this does not do well be a doll sitting on dust old shelf. I dont think what i am seeking is anywhere to be found, so i avoid

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:44:29 PM   
WhyteRavenne


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Status: offline 		Thank you, thank you!  I'm so glad to see differing opinions!  I love to see success stories, stories with unhappy endings and all the in between!  Also, thank you all, who wrote to me.  You are sweet as honey!

(Yeah, I write too much, what of it?)

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:45:15 PM   
Frank01


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Status: offline 		It's always better to stay in a comfprt zone-than disrupt it,  just to have another body around.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:50:06 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I can only answer in that I MAY have found what I want. I have known the person for two and a half years. At the beginning of it neither of us had a clue as to what we did want. We have gotten close then drifted apart several times. Never due to a lack of interest but moreso our own fears and cluelessness. I feel that we are cautiously headed down the right path this time but who knows.

I am not in any big rush. I would rather be alone than settling.


< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 9/25/2006 12:51:01 PM >

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 12:50:43 PM   
MASTERRocker


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Joined: 9/19/2006
From: Kitchener-Waterloo, ON
Status: offline 		In the past - yes; I had found what I wanted to the degree that W/we were both comfortable to commit - but now I am seeking total commitment  and union - that is a whole different ball of melting wax... 'smirks'

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:01:15 PM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		Nope...I missed what I wanted by a country mile. I did, however, find what I needed. I had no idea that there was such a great disparity between the two. My eyes have been opened in more ways than one and I really get happier as we progress. I have even learned to appreciate the not-so-perfect times for what they are...growth.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:06:29 PM   
Emperor1956


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quote:

WhyteRaven:
I feel like I'm playing poker and holding out for a good hand, but, it's getting more and more tempting to play with what's already there.  It's not skill, it's gambling!


As a mildly successful poker player (real life and online), I can tell you that you don't ever go in just because you are frustrated and waiting for some cards.  Throw in your hand, cash out, and get up and walk around, miss.  That advice is probably good for CM too.

As a Dominant who has been on here for a bit, yes, I found what I wanted and I am deliriously happy with my lovely girl.  Hold tight, miss.  Good things do happen.

E.

(and when she reads this, I'll probably be made even happier *smile*)

< Message edited by Emperor1956 -- 9/25/2006 1:07:43 PM >

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:08:03 PM   
secretstar1


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Status: offline 		I have found what I wanted and I have never been happier, I found the Master for me, I lost him once not knowing what I had. I am lucky to have him back in my life and I will do anything to keep him there. I will obey, him and worship him.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:08:25 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		If we did'nt settle there would be no relationships.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:09:44 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Not yet but hopefully soon.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:19:09 PM   
MistressWolfen


Posts: 578
Joined: 6/20/2005
Status: offline 		Yes I have in almost every respect (at least the ones that count)...unfortunately he is not incredibly wealthy with a dodgy heart :) but 9/10 isn't too bad.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 1:33:09 PM   
BuxomGoddess714


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Joined: 2/20/2006
From: So.California
Status: offline 		Like in Poker, If you seek a King it may be acceptable to hold with a Queen or Jack and you still may have a winning hand.  Don't settle for a prancing Two with a paper crown on its head carrying a popscicle stick or you will surely lose.

Goddess

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