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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 6:42:21 PM

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I havent found what I want yet, but I'm gonna keep lookin til I do.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 6:44:07 PM

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it took this slave almost 8 years before she found what she wanted In those 8 years she could have settled for less, but chose not to.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 6:45:54 PM

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While I enjoy the forums and all that I learn here, I'm also here to be available to see what happens. It would be nice if I found what I was looking for by way of a Dom life partner. But I have found useful information and advice to help me as I am looking.

So, I've found what I need in information and I'm still open to finding whom I'd like to meet.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 6:47:41 PM

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oh hell idk.

i found something i could finally get involved in - which is unusual for me. i found some one that will work WITH ME to make it work and not take off and run like everyone.

i tend to not get involved with ppl easily because i know others dont stick through the hard shit. They dont want to put the time and effort in. So i became like them and i drop ppl at the dime of a hat. Like this guy i tend to call Mr. Cream (cos when ya look at him u just want to creaaaaaaam) I liked him until he proved himself shallow and had issues with a friend of mine because she was "bigger". Because of ONE statement i would never get involved with this person on any level beyond "casual amusement when i'm bored"

So while i have no clue what i want any more other then to live each day to make it a good day.. i have found some one who will fight, work and never give up to GET what WE want. No matter the odds, no matter what. No matter what i do and no matter he does - neither of us is giving up on the other. Which IS something i want.. its a rarity. God knows i've seen enough ppl in my life who walk out when things get a bit tough.. hell i see half of the ppl on here who preach "walk" on a general regular basis to anyone who posts anything tough. Look at the thread "second to the ex"

So yeah.. i guess i did get what i want. i finally found some one who doesnt mind trying EVEN when i've given up. i actually gave up not to long ago and even though i did, they atleast had the strength to pull us through. Cant ask for much more in this life i think.. some one to carry you when you're at your end and some one that allows to be carried when they're at their end.

i always said.. i want some one who can walk into a dark alley with me and when we get jumped fight with me.. instead of tuck tail and run.... which is of course an anolgoy of dealing with shit thats tough in life...

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 6:52:20 PM

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You know how you go to some job you got the first day; and man; you really needed that motherfucker..............

Excited as hell, and relieved, and everything is gonna be ok.

Then, at some time in the future (some jobs, like about the next week), you take them four hour showers, and goin'............I am going to go in to work today and punch that cocksucker dead in the face.........

I don't need this shit.

A life partnership, as most of us who have been around the block a couple times can tell you---well;

It's not just a job; it's an adventure..............

So, yeah,

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 6:54:15 PM

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Exactly. What you said!

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 7:00:26 PM

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I have not found the fairy tale that I want. But I've come close. And on some days that gives me hope that the impossible standards I set for myself and a possible Dom may one day yield something. Maybe one day. Hopefully.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 7:05:49 PM

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I think I have.
I cant be sure, its still entirely to early, but sometimes you can just get a realy good feeling about someone.
He has his collar, and we have plans for the future... so we shall see.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 7:09:11 PM

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I know that she's looking for me as hard, or harder than I'm looking for her...

We simply haven't crossed paths yet....but I'll know her when I see her....and when I do...I'll tell her I love her.

And she'll know me.

(Because I'll know her).

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 7:19:54 PM

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I have found what I needed and wanted, but never at the same time with one person. My expectations and standards are set pretty high and I'm willing to wait. Currently, I'm in the process of getting to know someone with alot of potential...time will tell.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 7:34:10 PM

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Right now I think I have found what I want, we have been together a little over 6 months and its been great so far. I have learned so much and grown so much in the short time that we have been together that I find it hard to think he isnt the one for me.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 7:52:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DoctorDubious

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ORIGINAL: WhyteRavenne

I feel like I'm playing poker and holding out for a good hand, but, it's getting more and more tempting to play with what's already there. It's not skill, it's gambling!

Dear Whyte.... and all gentle love-gamblers...

Regarding your poker metaphor....
the best players play "tight" and "aggressive".

Tight means you wait for the right hand,
no matter how long you have to wait.
Most poker players settle far too fast for the superficially appealing.

Aggressive means that when.... at long, long last,
a really great hand comes along, you throw all caution to the wind,
and make huge committments with much (but not all) of your resources.

Could this be useful as advice for love? Hmmmmmm.....

DD
Ps... good metaphor you chose.

So what happens when he is playing tight and she plays aggressive....?
She loses her shirt, and yet neither one wins.
But he DOES get to say she is just overly needy.
Damn, there goes that word again.

Interesting......

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 8:01:32 PM

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Many know that I am deeply in love with my Master, who has been my best friend, confidant, and lover for more than three years. I could not have asked for someone more complimentary to who I am as a person. I have definitely found what and who I want...

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/25/2006 8:17:04 PM

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Yes, I have found what I was looking for. But it was not on CM. It was on another site. I was involved with local lifestylers and looking online.

I do believe that using all the resources available heightens the liklihood of finding what it is we want.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/26/2006 3:55:15 AM

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I haven't found what I want, doubt I will but Im still here giving people the benefit of the doubt. Im on another site too, I met someone on this other site but they only knew Me from a chatroom, we were going to meet but when I told her I had a few limitations she disappeared.

It's hard to be seen as attractive, unless you're -physically- attractive since profile pics are the first thing people look at, if they like what they see they read the profile. In the real world more or less the same things happen-you check out someone's appearance then decide if they're are worth bothering with.

It also helps to be socially acceptable;reasonably intelligent,nice to talk to, funny, neat and tidy, clean, smelling nice and wearing clothes that suit your body type.

Otherwise, My advice is don't hold your breath.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/26/2006 4:23:01 AM

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Fast reply:

I have not found what I seek, but I blame myself for that. I know that my profile is not clear about what it is I am looking for..I do that on purpose. It is clear on one aspect though.. I am NOT looking for guys whose primary goal is kinky sex. I think it is also clear that I am not looking for someone who is wanting to romanticize a D/s relationship. I was actually "brought to task" with ideas of how to correct my profile that may make my search easier. I have no reason to make my profile one of those Do's and Dont's lists. I am not looking for someone who is going to decide if I am right for them by going down a checklist. My goal is NOT to find someone practiced in BDSM..(although it will be a factor later on in the negotiating) so I really dont care if you are into X, Y, and Z... what I want is to find out if you have the knowledge and ability to control someone in a consensual D/s relationship.... arghhh!!!! <getting off soapbox>

can you tell I had a bad night last night?

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As far as the profile checklist, I KNOW I am guilty of turning down others based on what they have on their profiles. Unfair I know.. but sometimes life just sucks.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/26/2006 7:32:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: agirl

*What I wanted* didn't find me, but what was *best for me* did. ...lol

agirl

Frankly, that is what i want, for the one i need, the one who is best for me to find me. Has it happened? no. Will it happen? *smiles* statistically i have better odds of being abducted by aliens but then i suck at math. *grin*

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/26/2006 7:44:23 AM

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Not yet... but what I want is pretty specific and also pretty definite; I'm not inclined to compromise; so I knew in the beginning it would take me a long time to find what I sought. It just takes patience.

Which is not to say there aren't days when I feel frustrated and impatient and sick to death of wading through the trolls, wannabees and gamesters... but eventually I regain my perspective and keep on with the search.

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/26/2006 9:04:10 AM

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yes.....unfortunately She isn't incredibly wealthy with a dodgy heart...but 9/10 isnt bad

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RE: Have you found what you want? - 9/26/2006 9:19:22 AM

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Well, CE found what she wanted…me…heh. Seerrrriiiioooouuuussssly, (CE read now), yep, I found what I wanted. It was actually AOL, but it continued here as it went real time and it has been a couple of years now.

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