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EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Why all submissives are all about sex?? (9/30/2006 2:33:13 PM)
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Original: LaTigresse
I had followed the other thread that created the idea. Then things got all off track, focusing on a subject that was not the original intent, at least that is my take on it this morning. Now, I still feel the way I do about photographs. I am of artistic bent and love erotica. Yes it is sexual but not necessarily a precurser to sex. Which leads to how my tired brain got off track.
since you saw the original thread that prompted me to bring up this question, i'm sure you can see my reason for doing so. however, where the original intent of the query got *derailed* was when the topic morphed into my photos, or me, or my profile. when in reality, i was drawing a correlation between sub men bitching about *ALL* women wanting tributes, yet you hardly see women dominants bitching about men *always* approaching them for sex. it does happen, but not in the same abundance of the sub males asking about why women always want tribute. it was meant to show the idiocy of lumping *ALL* dommes or *ALL* subs into any one pot. but i think you got the jist of my original query.
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ORIGINAL: marieToo
Interesting argument that things like queening, cuckolding and assplay can be explained away as non-sexual. What Im picking up here is that it isnt the physical acts in question, but how they are processed by yourself and the sub. If Im correct, would it be a safe assumption to say that you wouldnt mind a sub who wanted to eat you out and touch your tits and ass, as long as it was being processed as 'goddess worship' and he didnt cum from the experience?
in the way i handle things.. it's not really about how the sub processes something as much as how it's processed and interrpreted by me and how i allow them to interact with me or my body. my slaves know that for me, body worship is sexually non oral. feet/boot/hand licking etc is ok, but no intimate parts of my body are to be licked- i reserve that for my Dominant male lovers. i'm sure they'd feel like it could one day be their lucky day or something, but it's not the basis of our worship. to play devil's advocate, i know women that totally construe those acts of oral sexual worship as part of their interaction with their slaves. and that works well for them... if that's what SHE wants, but it is she that makes the rules, just like i make mine. there simply isn't an all singing-all dancing definition for most things in BDSM that applies to everything or everyone.. to answer your question more succinctly- yes, i would consider tit/ass/pussy licking as sexual because it involves slave contact with an intimate part of my body. not everyone holds the same definition i do. and i can respect that. and intimate, oral or penetrative contact with my intimate body parts is not something i partake in with my slaves. they're slaves.. not my lovers.
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ORIGINAL: lunamor
Why should a Dom conceal or minimize her attractiveness? A Dom in beautiful fetish clothing will of course turn on a wanker as well, but it's completely unfair to blame the Dom for unsolicited sexual advances, or offers of exclusively sexual service when she clearly doesn't seek it or encourage it. Displaying her beauty and sexuality can be a wonderful source of power and energy for a Dom, it can inspire a slave to feel even more unworthy, even more adoring and submissive to a Dom's will. It's not always a not-so-covert invitation to coitus! A slave may hope to kiss a Mistress' hand or foot, he may dream of being ordered to kneel at her feet and pleasure her as best he can but he would never dare to expect or demand sexual involvement, he wouldn't even think of touching a Mistress without her permission. And that's exactly as it should be, in my opinion.
i wholeheartedly concur..that's precisely how i view it. sadly, that wasn't my intention of this post.. but it has certainly seemed to morph into that, so thought provoking discussion on pressing topics is always a good thing, even if unintentional. just because i enjoy my sexuality and take power in it.. doesn't mean it's encouraging anything sexual no more than a woman dressed sexily is encouraging rape. i for one love fetish and fashion that exhibits my personal tastes in fetish. i would say out of 20 emails i receive.. one or two of them would approach me the way you view things. and you know what? that's pretty damn good considering you have to stick you hands into many piles of shit before you pull out that accidentally swallowed diamond. if anything, my photos provide me with a barometer by which to judge and scrutinize men that approach me. if they only want to serve me because they find me lovely, then they aren't my sort of male. and they've effectively crossed themselves off my list. as a dominant female, i shouldn't have to minimize my attractiveness just because some males are incapable of controlling their urges or supressing them enough to serve me beyond that.
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ORIGINAL: michealGA2
well, for one thing...not all subs are seeking sexual activities. i AM submissive and i am happry to be of service to Dominant women without the expectation, need, want or desire for sexual contact. "IF" it ever happened, it would be by the Dominants choice, not mine. it (sex) is not something that i require at all. some say i'm a fake, phony or they say i'm lying about this...but i am not like other men. i don't subscribe to the constant neccesity for sex...hell, there's alot of things men do that i can't stand. the list is endless and not relevant to this particular forum.
i know not all males view their service as sexual or only sexual. my original intent of this thread was definitely lost along the way. probably lost upon the same ones that would see my pics and not be able to get past the *sexuality* expressed therein. i don't lump anyone into any particular category.. i was proving a point. men don't want to be viewed like all they want is sex, JUST like dommes tire of the same "all we want is money" scpheel.
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