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Emperor1956 -> RE: Why all submissives are all about sex?? (10/3/2006 10:22:53 AM)
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Off the direct topic, but I think this has to be said:
We all should take responsibility for the "messages" we send. That being said, there is NO rational thought that allows for sexual assault (verbal, online, physical, etc.) based upon the victim's "message". The "message" -- no matter how inviting -- never gives permission. NEVER. The ability to understand that and control ourselves makes us adults (and I might add, defines, in part, what it is to be a man, not a child or an animal.)
I get very tired of this view, that individual responsibility should always rule. Sometimes it is incumbent upon a responsible person NOT to act in the face of invitation. To believe otherwise is really just an intellectually gussied up way of saying "she asked for it." If a sixteen year old (gender is unimportant) flirts, preens, pouts, dresses seductively, does that give Me permission? Of course not. I would hope all of us see that. If a 34 year old does it, again, does it offer me permission? Of course not.
E.
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
If a woman dresses in a manner that she feels comfortably fits her personality wether it be construed as "sexy" or not, should still not be an open invitation for sex. If so, then all the rapists that have used a similar argument for their defense would have a valid point.
Noah: Oh please. Can't we take responsibility for the messages we send very clearly in the vernacular of the culture we inhabit?
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