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The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:07:00 PM   
Rumtiger


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Status: offline 		Lemme give you guys a scenario.

Your a sub, you have friend who is also a sub and of the opposite sex. You've known her for years, one day her master who shes been with for lets say 6 months comes along and tell you that he dosent want you talking to her anymore or seeing her ect.

So...is it right that I told him to fuck off and eat my shit?

Or should I have dropped him then and there? Still a possibility next time I see him outside.

Who the fuck does this guy think he is to say this shit to me, I dont think many male doms are like this right?  



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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:12:12 PM   
Sab


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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:12:52 PM   
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So...is it right that I told him to fuck off and eat my shit?


Its not necessarily right, but that is up to her to address who orders her around. If she will not talk to you anymore I suppose she made that decision
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Or should I have dropped him then and there?

This is called assault and usually an ill-advised thing to do in my experience.. one, you may lose the fight .. two, you may go to jail

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Who the fuck does this guy think he is to say this shit to me, I dont think many male doms are like this right?  
Nothing gives him the right to tell you what to do I suppose, but she gave him the right to tell her what to do... really it is up to your friend to decide this...


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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:13:41 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Why did he say that?  Is there more to the story?

What does she have, if anything, to say about it?

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:15:31 PM   
Silvermoon


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Status: offline 		Been there, done that. Think she needs to seriously re-evaluate her relationship with this fellow. I"m betting he starts cutting her off from all her male friends. Red-Flag.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:16:36 PM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		He might think he is her Master.  They've been together 6 months and now he doesn't want you talking to her.  Would you care to share the rest of the story?

Maybe had you kept your cool and asked why, the two of you might could come to a solution.  But as yoiu lost you cool in that way, he probably walked off thinking yep, don't need him around.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:20:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know about assault, I just gotta hope hes not so much of a pussy hed actually go back after being confrontational with me aand then call the cops. I'm not a pacifist (though it does take quite a bit to get me angry enough to actually get physical) so I believe certian people need a good ass kicking when they deserve it.

as for your first reason, thats not much of an issue.

And as for him telling her what to do...in this case I dont know if its the rule of a master telling a sub what to do...more like a dickhead boyfriend telling a girl whats what. Thats how it looks to me, but the circumstances kind of make things a little...blurred.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:25:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think if you want as close to objective opinions as you can get, you need to tell us the story

Generally, if she agreed to a certain amount of control, then not much you can do about it.  Is she still communicating with you?  But if she objects to this and will not comply and he won't bend then they have bigger issues.  Be supportive in whatever decision she makes and if all goes south, be there as a friend to help put the pieces back together again.

I would not restrict friends or family usually in my relationships.  But if I felt there was a negative influence, there might be some serious discussions.  I would say that if there was no reason for it other than he wants to isolate her, it's a red flag.  But then...I don't know the whole story.  Good luck.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:26:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, more to the story.

I knew about the boyfriend, but I dident really ask about it too much whenever I talked to her, I mean cmon, why would I wanna know about her male dom? So the friendship just simply went the same way it always had, then one day he sees me in the market, confronts me like this, and the rest is history, no rhyme, no reason, no foreword by her, just outta nowhere Im picking up some oranges and this douche tells me he dosent want me seeing my friend anymore.






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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:27:30 PM   
jamesthehumanrug


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Status: offline 		greetings, rum tiger,
ok its not your top but you must respect your friend ,as a slave ,and, respect her or his top like, another god;
;not unlike yourself; i presume,to this friend;
but, if this guy is a lush criminal ;drop his b .s. ,  and , deck him ,and, rescue your friend ....

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ORIGINAL: Rumtiger

Lemme give you guys a scenario.

Your a sub, you have friend who is also a sub and of the opposite sex. You've known her for years, one day her master who shes been with for lets say 6 months comes along and tell you that he dosent want you talking to her anymore or seeing her ect.

So...is it right that I told him to fuck off and eat my shit?

Or should I have dropped him then and there? Still a possibility next time I see him outside.

Who the fuck does this guy think he is to say this shit to me, I dont think many male doms are like this right?  




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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:28:06 PM   
Rumtiger


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Status: offline 		in snippets where she did mention him, it dident really seem much more then just boyfriend and girlfriend who where into BDSM....its not like shes a slave after all.

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- Quentin Tarantino.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:29:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		If all you told him was to eat shit, you're a calmer person than I am. No one... but no one tells me I'm not allowed to support my friends in any way they may or may not need me. It almost sounds to me like he hasn't told HER she can't speak to you, but instead came to you and told you to break off teh friendship. Thats even more malevolent in my eyes. (may I note please, I'm trying a new painkiller and am VERY paranoid right now, so forgive the conspiracy theories) and frankly, if billy the butt-faced boy is so cowardly as to tell *you* not to speak to his gf, as opposed to telling her, then he seems exactly the type of pussy to go to the cops if you lay him out. And tiger darling, while you are certainly tiggerriffic, I believe you may lack the cleavage to get out of an assault charge.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:30:00 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		I agree with those before me that have asked what it is that you are holding back....there has to be a reason, even a seemingly ridiculous one for why he would choose to cut her off from you.  You do have to remember that when SHE gave her will up to him....it meant exactly that....she gave it up.  He makes the call....only she can decide if your friendship is enough to cause a rift with him.  IMHO, if she stands with his decision...you can only wish the best for her and move on. 

The situation sucks no matter how you slice it.....

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:30:13 PM   
Aileen68


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Talk to her and tell her your concerns.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:31:49 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: Rumtiger

in snippets where she did mention him, it dident really seem much more then just boyfriend and girlfriend who where into BDSM....its not like shes a slave after all.


Ask her about it, if she refuses to accept your calls or talk to you.. well there is your answer

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:35:06 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		Give this one some thought.....perhaps she is pushing his buttons.  Perhaps leading him to believe your friendship is perhaps a little more friendly than it really is or was.  His actions do seem to be of a jealous nature.....perhaps she planted that seed.  Hate to say it, but some girls are like that. 

Food for thought.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:36:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressTexas

If all you told him was to eat shit, you're a calmer person than I am. No one... but no one tells me I'm not allowed to support my friends in any way they may or may not need me. It almost sounds to me like he hasn't told HER she can't speak to you, but instead came to you and told you to break off teh friendship. Thats even more malevolent in my eyes. (may I note please, I'm trying a new painkiller and am VERY paranoid right now, so forgive the conspiracy theories) and frankly, if billy the butt-faced boy is so cowardly as to tell *you* not to speak to his gf, as opposed to telling her, then he seems exactly the type of pussy to go to the cops if you lay him out. And tiger darling, while you are certainly tiggerriffic, I believe you may lack the cleavage to get out of an assault charge.



Maybe if I did it in the market sure i'd be in trouble....if we where just walking around on the streets however, it wouldent cause that much of a mess, you gotta love Vegas...cops round here got better things to do you know? why bother em? People round here know how to mind thier own business.

Just gotta be a good boy on the strip or downtown or you'll get metro on your ass...and you dont fuck with metro.


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- Quentin Tarantino.

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:40:09 PM   
Rumtiger


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- Quentin Tarantino.

If they cant take a joke, fuck em.
-Tucker Max

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:42:33 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		First...don't deck the guy.  Keep control of your emotions.

But, I agree that it sounds as if he may not have told her anything.  I'd ask.  No sense getting worked up until you have all the facts.  Then you can make decisions from there once you get on with it. 

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No one... but no one tells me I'm not allowed to support my friends in any way they may or may not need me.


Agreed.  It does sound a bit like a jealous boyfriend who is flying off the handle. 

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RE: The right thing - 10/3/2006 4:45:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		You don't say how old they are, but he does sound immature and insecure.

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