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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 12:35:43 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		I am 33 and Master is 54. At first we both had reservations about age. After we met for the first time, we threw all those reservations out the window. We click together, have common interests and desires. I agree that age does not match maturity level sometimes. Its all about the individual and their maturity. When its right its right. Though, I have never been one to judge someone on age itself. I am about how the person treats me and others and whether or not we have common interests and click together. So many do get hung up on age.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 5:01:45 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Just because you are with a person your own age dose'nt mean your going to have a long life together. As they say shit happens.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 6:44:25 AM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		I'm 58 and have boyfriends more than 20 years younger and (when I was younger) nearly 20 years older.  Generally speaking, age means little to me, but the older I get...the younger a 30-something seems...most of the time (there ARE exceptions).  People too much younger than I am seem....childish, sometimes.  The way they talk, the music they listen to, the kinds of shows they want to watch...even the cloths they wear sometimes; sometimes it's a generation gap, pure and simple.  That said...I've been topped by a Dom in his 30s and was quite impressed with his maturity, his control, his dominance; so go figure.
 
Of course, as I age...a guy MUCH older than me might be too close to 'really old'; hahahahaha.  While I have known a couple pals in their 70s who were pretty damn hot, vigorous men, and still quite active; most of the time that isn't true, either.  I've known more men who, at 50...thought of themselves as 'old'.  I am not!  Perhaps that's part of my draw to WIITWD, the men here still have an interest in sex, play, life.
 
Still, I have a gal pal who is in her 30s who is married to a guy nearly my age.  While most of her friends are older; she does not like hanging with his older friends much...as she finds them 'too old and boring'.  And as she ages, I watch her do more and more on her own.  She loves her husband dearly, but I wonder what it will be like for her in another 15-20 years when she is just getting to my age now and he is on the far side of 70?  I think that's what julia is talking about; it might be okay when both are in the prime of their lives...but what happens when one starts to decline?
 
Happily, I have recently been chatting with a guy less than a year older than myself; a man who is looking for the same things I am...and I'm tickled pink!  He's close to retirement, we have so much in common, he's exciting as hell and doesn't live but a couple hours away; lordy I'm looking forward to meeting him...on Friday the 13th!  <sigh>
 
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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 7:00:50 AM   
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quote:

I think that's what julia is talking about; it might be okay when both are in the prime of their lives...but what happens when one starts to decline? 
 

 
That is partially it. Like I said in my other post, there are no guarantees in this life. I do want to try for many years of active living with my lover though. If I was looking for a different sort of relationship it would not matter as much. I have taken care of someone that was geriatric, and would do so again, especially for my lifemate.
 
 I cannot begin to convey how nice it is that my Daddy has unmentionables around the same age as my own. He knows from recent experience what parenting unmentionables at this point in time is about. We have similar values based upon being raised in the same region during the same era. I enjoy that.


I understand your point Bearlee. When my mom was in her 50s she was extremely active and youthful thinking. She worked with teens. Men her own age often could not keep up with her..like I said, it depends on what a person is looking for as to whether age is an important factor for them personally. If I found myself looking at 55, I would be probably be looking with a different set of criteria.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 7:26:44 AM   
beautyImurDaddy


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Status: offline 		Age means nothing as long as both are consenting adults.  my Daddy is 5 years YOUNGER than i am (He is 35... i am 40)... and i get inquiries all the time on how i can call someOne younger than myself "Daddy" ... Because He is the very essence and embodiment of the word.. He makes me feel warm, safe, cared for and loved.

I agree that it can be a bit ackward at times... i have an 18 year old daughter.. and We recently had a 21 year old sub living with Us.. but one has to seperate the 2 entities... they are not Your child... they are Your submissive....and while One may cherish them in somewhat the same respect.. it is a completely different dynamic

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 7:45:29 AM   
MrrPete


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Status: offline 		In searching for a lifemate I'm finding that woman generally are not interested
in someone over sixty.


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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 8:10:07 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		IMO if there weren't some legitimacy to the idea that age is an issue, we wouldn't keep having so many heated discussions over it.  Like everything, for some it is, for some it isn't.

Reposted:

Age matters as much as it matters to you.

On many levels, age doesn't really mean much when it comes to the individual.  There really are lots of mature, ready, and open younger people who fit in very well with mature, ready and open older people.

That being said, one's age IS something of an indicator about them- the culture you grow up in is a HUGE influence on your interests and perspectives, the politics, diseases, education style, music, fashion, art, books, they all get experienced in different ways in different times at different ages.

That's not a killjoy- I amaze people all the time by bringing up movie and song trivia from decades before I was born (my mother raised me right).  And for someone older who ENJOYS discovering new things, a younger person is perfect as a gateway into the next generation of cultural discoveries.

As well there IS something to be said for the stability of the old.  Younger people have to go through life stages- finding yourself, job, family, establishing yourself as an adult (a process which is much farther extended than in previous generations, again not a bad thing necessarily).  They often don't have the same problems and responsibilities as older people- ex's, kids, health care, etc.  There's an element of rapid change and instability in being with someone younger.

Finally, none of these has to matter to any great degree at all.  We ARE all still people and May'December relationships are a LOT more common than people believe, and they can work out just great.  It's not all just older men in mid-life crisis and younger women sponging.  We each individually have our own histories, quirks, problems, perspectives and joys.  Age won't take that away and it doesn't make it impossible for a relationship to work.

As long as you keep everything in perspective, and really examine things, as long as you can use the strengths that you have together and become a cohsive unit- then age can be just another part of the person, something you sometimes love and something you sometimes can't stand.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_550824/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#550893
Does age matter in a sub?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_441624/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#441638
Does age make experience?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_389399/mpage_2/key_age/tm.htm#389616
Age since weight is being done

http://www.collarchat.com/m_366036/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#366124
Should age matter for a sub?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_336445/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#336457
Yes another ? about age

http://www.collarchat.com/m_325491/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#325694
Does age difference matter?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_290637/mpage_2/key_age/tm.htm#291554
What is the oldest dom you would consider?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_220984/mpage_1/key_age/tm.htm#220997
What is it with girls having masters double their ages?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_209024/mpage_3/key_age/tm.htm#212527
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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 8:10:49 AM   
hypnoticblue


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Status: offline 		I am a firm believer that age is not a number, it's a mentality.  There are days where I feel 50 and the burdens of my life make me just feel like retiring...  Then I have days where I feel sexy and flirty and 16 all over again!  Hell, I even got carded at a local fantasy shop the other day!  I was in the same shop two days earlier and didn't get carded.  It's all about how you carry yourself. 

I think it's also about stamina.  I have a good friend that is 30 years my senior, and he can go like a teenager.  He's active and healthy and loves life.  And then I know people who are my age exactly who only last 5 minutes and are perpetually tired, sore and well... cranky.

Who really cares about age!  Give me a 45 year old that can keep up with me and I'm dandy!  :)

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 8:41:24 AM   
zebrastripes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterC46910
Would it not be better to just find someone that fits in with my lifestyle and fills in the little voids of my knowledge and experiences instead of worrying about their age?

BINGO!  


I second that BINGO

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 9:12:41 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		MrrPete your looking for love in all the wrong places.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 12:43:04 PM   
jesskitty


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Status: offline 		i think the only time age really needs to come into play is logic. for example you can't have a relationship with an 8 year old and a 40 year old. the 8 year old isn't able to comprehend what a relationship is. so to a less totally out there example i'll try to get abit closer. relationship speaking i'm a long term kinda gal, if i'm going out with someone i want to take awhile getting to know this person before i jump on boat with him or her and after doing so have that person realize that i date long term, not just for a couple of weeks. so say i get invovled with someone and it happens to last for 5 years. say we might get engaged for 1-3 years. then get married. that's 8 years in the process. so say i date someone that's 50, afterwards he'll be what 58? or 68 if i dated someone that's 60. i don't know about you but even  though people are still living longer i belive that most people tend to die around their 60/70s. therefore i'd find it illogical. i see most people here say that age really isn't a big deal, but those that say it's not a big deal tend to have an average gap of 20 years inbetween their partner and them and  if it really was the mindset we'd see people come up with more of a gap possibly.

i guess i'm mainly trying to say when it comes to age gaps relationship wise it needs to be thought of realisticly and that's the most important thing, that it's realistic and it makes you happy.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 1:22:32 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		I remember when *I* was 18.. I knew it ALL back then
 
There is a difference between knowing.. and wisdom.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 2:36:54 PM   
FirmhandKY


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

I remember when *I* was 18.. I knew it ALL back then
 
There is a difference between knowing.. and wisdom.


What's the old story?   When I was a teenager, my parents were dumb as rocks.  But by the time I had reached by 30's, they had smartened up a lot!

I do think age matters to an extent (LA post was excellent), but it's not the single most important defining factor - just one more possible indications of compatiblity.  And not even the most important one.

FHky (Fucky to benji)


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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 2:59:47 PM   
Bearlee


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uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... did you just say you were benji's fuckee?
 
Just curious, mind you...  I'm not being judgmental, just want clarification...
 
<grinzzzzzzzzzzzz>
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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 3:02:03 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		I'll answer that one.  No, he is not.

You, however, could be.

Yours,


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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 3:20:10 PM   
behindmirrors


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Status: offline 		There is an eight year gap between my Dom and I- he is 30, I am 22. Though some of my friends thought this was "a lot" at first, I never saw it that way, and most of them regard him differently now, that he's not that much different, haha. Perhaps they saw it as such because they are all near my age, and most date people they meet at their universities or jobs, people in the same age range. He and I listen to the same kinds of music (we even perform the same kinds of music, at that), have similar interests, and just work together well. I don't think that would have changed if he was older or younger than me- it's just two people that "click" together, same as anyone else.
Age shouldn't be a tremendous hang up unless the involved people want it to be, in my opinion. I've found most guys I've encountered that are my age are immature- they have little life experience in comparison to mine. I've also found guys that are twenty-some years older than me who are still immature, insecure, and not really on par with who I am- even some who listen to the same music I do! It is about the individual and their views, their ways of living life, seeing things, and relating to others. Should I have found someone that was perfect for me and much older, I would have gone for it if I felt it. I just picked based on how happy I was with my Dom and how well we got along. No need to complicate things more than that for me.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 3:42:06 PM   
Bearlee


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LOL...   gooddogbenji!

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 4:30:28 PM   
sublizzie


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ORIGINAL: MrrPete

In searching for a lifemate I'm finding that woman generally are not interested
in someone over sixty.



I think it depends more on the age of the woman. At my age, someone over 60 doesn't seem all that old to me!!

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 4:40:07 PM   
ScooterTrash


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ORIGINAL: MasterC46910


I often wonder why so many people seem to be opposed to a large age different in partners?
I wouldn't worry about it too much MC..when it happens, it will be mutual and somehow I don't think chronology will enter into the picture. I've seen extremes both way, some work, some don't, some are lifelong, some vanish in an instant...in reality, it's pretty much like any other relationship...it depends on who is involved. Good luck and may you find what you are looking for.

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RE: One Older Man's View on Age - 10/4/2006 5:06:07 PM   
losttreasure


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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... did you just say you were benji's fuckee?
 
Just curious, mind you...  I'm not being judgmental, just want clarification...
 
<grinzzzzzzzzzzzz>
bearlee


*laughs*   Oh no! 

Tis related to a comment made by benji that the "FHky" FirmHandKY uses to sign off on posts, phonetically comes out to "fucky". 

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