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RE: Intimacy - 5/4/2004 3:19:12 PM

Katmistress

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Interesting word - DomSpace...
I found that to be a very accurate description of how I feel when holding my slave after a caning.
I haven't received any real training in the art of caning but have been "working" on it. There is soooo much satisfaction doing that - feelings that I never imagined....
The emotional bonding during this time is beyond words!
Any suggestions on how to make this better?
Thanks...

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RE: Intimacy - 5/14/2004 1:45:00 PM

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I do most of the cooking in my relationships, and whats more, in my kitchen, who cooks, cleans.

An old submissive of mine once said I would make somebody a wonderful wife. I bravely tried to teach her how to not burn water, but was unsuccessful.

I tried the "who cooks, cleans" approach with her, but since I had to declare the kitchen off-limits I switched it around so who cooks doesnt clean, but since I clean up as I go, its not as if I left a huge mess for her.

I usually make up a bunch of pasta sauce, and infrequently "accidently" drop habanero and jalapeno peppers in it. Not enough to melt my nose, but people who try it are pleasantly surprised at the subtle zing.

My melt-yer-face chili is another story altogether, made much more lethal by my homegrown habaneros...

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RE: Intimacy - 3/20/2006 2:47:44 AM

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Ahh, the journey....At the turning out of the subdivision and getting on the onramp stage, D/s relationship and intimacy and emotions are important issues. Which has raised the question of whether one can have a slave and be in a loving romantic relationship at the same time? Which raises the question of What is the difference between a submissive and a slave? To my best knowledge, a submissive retains control over emotions and feelings, and the right to express them, and the right to control the amount and extent of their submissiveness, as opposed to a slave, who has no choice over any matters, including the right to express their opinion. Is there a category somewhere in the middle between the two, or do I have the wrong definitions? Can you have a loving relationship and intimacy with a true slave? We're struggling a little with defining exactly what our D/s relationship is and will become, we want to maintain all of our intimacy, but have slave behavior and absolute deferrence to Mistress's decisions about Everything. Is this possible?

The road was rather rocky for a very long time to the point where we both gave up on the journey.
Do I love you? Yes I do love you very much. Can I have an loving relationship and an intimacy wiht you being a true slave? Absolutely yes. I wouldn't even dream of entering such a relationship if there wasn't a strong emotional bond to begin with. For me this is not only possible but the way it must be.
Trust me, the more submissive you become the more dominate I will be and the deeper for you my love will grow and the stronger the bond will be. Once we free ourselves to be who we really are everything else will be honest and true between us.
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RE: Intimacy - 3/20/2006 3:34:04 AM

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G'day Voltare, Good to see you posting again,

On a general basis, I find that rituals tend to create theirown form of intimacy. On the reverse, I also find that intinacy generates it's opwn form of ritual/s. I do believe that this is more of a subconcious thing and probably works on the very human approach that if something works then use it again and again... The smart thing is to understand the ritual and how it works so you can design a variety of rituals which are flexable enough to alter variables to use in different but similar situations with the same result being hopefully achieved. We do this in our daily work and at home and certainlyit is a basic concepy in practical magick....

Just my views based on observations and practices through my entire adult and teenage life..

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RE: Intimacy - 3/20/2006 3:46:00 AM

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I dont have anything to say except, I realy like how you play your words Voltare.

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RE: Intimacy - 3/20/2006 3:47:37 AM

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(Klingon invisibility shields off, delurking!)

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Voltare: I usually also say that D/s is appealing because of the degree of intimacy is greater.

D/s is beautiful, not because it is D/s, but because it is a relationship - and relationships have the capacity for infinate beauty

Oh yes, yet thats not the reason I got involved in this since I didnt know it was a side benefit, but it certainly have kept me in! ;)

Amazing to see one more stating it is beautiful, and it was these ending lines of yours that made me delurk in on this thread. Now I am a twisted soul, as I like to see a happily smiling woman when I put on her cuffs or find the sight of a woman bound on the bed to be beautiful.

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........if it's actually a case of my being attracted to this stuff becuase I need more structure and security in a relationship before I can be deeply intimate.

Hmm that was one unusual one.
A bit of confession time perhaps: I got the interest for domination and to make someone my captive as long as I can remember, in Cowboys and indians games when I was in the early grades. The feeling I got from that was something I could not handle and I did actually stay away from that kind of games since I as a child worried about being 'weird'.
Met a girl in highschool, after living two years together it finally dawned to both of us that a bit of bondage wasnt just a change from ordinary lovemaking, but a true interst for both - well the rest is history

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Katmistress: Trust me, the more submissive you become the more dominate I will be and the deeper for you my love will grow and the stronger the bond will be.

I have made a journal entry myself on the subject on love in a BDSM relationship, but you said it a lot better than what I did. Kudos!

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RE: Intimacy - 3/20/2006 5:08:17 AM

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As a person who was never fulfilled with vanilla relationships, (in fact I gave it all up for a number of years) I have found the intensity of D/s to be the factor that I was seeking.
That I can be vulnerable and tough all at the same time is a dichotomy that I relish. That my sexual desire can be verbally disparaged yet celebrated thrills me. To feel emotions through physical pain has become an addiction.
The delineation of each role, the clear cut rules, the necessity for honest communication; all are aspects which create an environment where I am free to experience intimacy.

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RE: Intimacy - 2/11/2012 1:45:24 PM

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goodwoman sez:

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type 1
some of the male Dominants really LIKE & LOVE women, i can see it in His eyes, His smile, His touch.. This type of male Dominant seems to view taking a woman into subspace as both something He gives her and something He enjoys partially because the submissive enjoys it. His energy and joy in Dominating create such an amazing dance between the two. this type of Dominant man seems more comfortable with creating an intimate relationship.

Your comment is well-stated. I wont comment on the "type 2", for I try not to judge others, but I am most assuredly "type 1". There is nothing finer than to take the wonderous gift of submission and turn it into something to be treasured and to learn how to fly together.

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RE: Intimacy - 2/11/2012 1:50:08 PM

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NECRO THREAD! Sigh.

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RE: Intimacy - 2/11/2012 1:59:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: RogueBlackheart

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type 1
some of the male Dominants really LIKE & LOVE women, i can see it in His eyes, His smile, His touch.. This type of male Dominant seems to view taking a woman into subspace as both something He gives her and something He enjoys partially because the submissive enjoys it. His energy and joy in Dominating create such an amazing dance between the two. this type of Dominant man seems more comfortable with creating an intimate relationship.

Your comment is well-stated. I wont comment on the "type 2", for I try not to judge others, but I am most assuredly "type 1". There is nothing finer than to take the wonderous gift of submission and turn it into something to be treasured and to learn how to fly together.

You revived a thread from 2004!!!! Management frowns on dragging up threads more than 6 months old.

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