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sugarcoatedscamp -> A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 10:44:19 AM)

Dear single submissives,
 
I realize that the search for the dominant of your dreams is sometimes a long, and frustratingly uphill battle. I can't wiggle my nose and make all your fantasies materialize, leather-clad and trailing a whip, but maybe I can help you a little bit in your search. First of all, it's really nice for a prospective partner to be able to see a photo of you. If you have a web cam, you can pretty easily have a picture. Here's how:
  1. Start your web cam in messenger, but don't invite anyone.
  2. Find the print-screen key on your keyboard ("prt scrn" on mine) and have your finger on it, but don't push the button.
  3. Pose for the camera, or just sit there and look stupid, or whatever, but I suggest looking mildly attractive. *wink* Oh, and don't point the camera at your crotch. Really. If someone wants to see a picture of your crotch, and you're willing to show them one, let them ask for it.
  4. Hold your pose and hit that button.
  5. Open your favorite graphics/photo editing program (if you don't have one, go to Start>Programs>Accessories>Paint).
  6. Press Ctrl+V (paste).
  7. You'll see an image that looks just like your desktop did at the moment you pressed the button. Crop it down to just the "picture" in the web cam display window.
  8. Save the file as a jpeg image, and voilĂ ! A picture of you, ready for upload.

Secondly, an introductory email speaks better of you when you use complete sentences and are attentive to spelling, punctuation, and capitalization, etc. For example, it's much more important to capitalize the beginning of the sentence than it is to capitalize words like "You" or "i", as some prefer to do. Where spelling is concerned, if it's not your strong suit, use a spell-checker. I realize that some websites don't have one built into the email interface, but you can download one that will work on almost any site. Make a point to note the places where your spelling was incorrect, and practice using the proper spellings. Punctuation is important as well, and especially when you come to the end of a sentence. Remember that this moment is your one chance to portray the expression behind your words. If you're asking a question, for example, the recipient of your email would immediately know it, because there's a question mark (?) at the end.
 
Another thing to pay attention to is your grammar. Some may argue with me on this point, but if you're unsure, I suggest writing things just like you'd say them. If you're more likely to say, "Me and my sister are going out to eat at 6," then write it that way. There's no point in writing, "My sister and I are going out to eat at 6," if you're not going to practice the same grammar when you're actually speaking to the person. It's obviously beneficial to be correct, but more important, in my opinion, to be real. If you want to improve your grammar, practice good grammar in your speech and your writing. If someone you're corresponding with points out an error, make a point to absorb what you've learned and then put it into practice. (If someone takes the time to help you in this way, it's nice to thank them.)
 
I can't speak for your personality, play experience, or BDSM lifestyle qualifications, but I can hopefully help you better convey them to a prospective dominant. I truly wish you success in your search.
 
Sincerely,
Miss Stephanie

p.s. If you're looking for a good spell-check program, I recommend one called ieSpell. It's free, which is also nice. If you need a picture, but don't have a digital camera, scanner, or web cam, take a snapshot of yourself to any Kinko's location. They'll scan it for you and put it on a disk.




TigerPurrs -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 2:05:04 PM)

You're singing my song! I would also add to those submissive men, that there are many more of you looking for us dominant women then there are dominant women seeking a submissive male.

Your one line introduction email, "I'm in your town, let's hook up," isn't going to get you anywhere with most of us. You need to stand out from the flood of emails we get, and show us why you should have our attention.

Something in your profile besides, "I'm submissive and want a femdom" is also helpful.

I couldn't agree MORE about spelling, punctuation and grammar. They are the first impression I have. They are the first indication I get from you about what kind of effort you are going to be willing to put into a relationship. If you can't be bothered to run spell checker, then chances are high you just really don't put much effort into anything.

Personally, I appreciate someone who cares enough about my eyes as to not ask me to read a poorly written, punctuated and spelled email or profile.






MASTERRocker -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 2:08:45 PM)

RATS!! So a free lunch is out of the question.......?
I agree with both you ladies - but it can also be true the 'other way' as well.......
MASTER Rocker




sissifytoserve -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 2:33:28 PM)

Of course...sometimes..it doesn't matter how well thought out your profile
or introductory letter is.

There isn't a dominant close by who shares your kink.

That's been thee case for me




belkincp -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:19:58 PM)

dont beleive anythign these so called dominat women say..its all BS....thay dont know qnything about men..and r clueless to what itsl ie kto be a man...to work hard endlessly to ask girls out and never get laid....they dont know how much rejection a guy goes throguh..and girls get hit on al lthe time and asked out..they dont know shit....if ur a guy..and u want a girl...u get write too much for 1 girl ..its a waste of time..ultimatly she wont care waht u say anyways..its how u look....
if brad pitt look a like jsut said..hi im in ur area......... and a danny devito look a liek said 5 pages of love and funny and witt..the girl would pick the brad pitt so just do what u got to do and dotn listen to dumb girls...just cus some guys r ur bitxches and r retards..doesnt mean ur smart or kool or even respected...respected is an aura one has that can bee seen by anyone  not just ur subs..or shall i say guys with no self esteem or dignity or brain...thx have fun




MASTERRocker -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:24:23 PM)

ummmmm wees men dooose not alls spellie likey thata




MsKatHouston -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:24:24 PM)

What a lovely person you seem to be.  Be well.




orfunboi -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:31:33 PM)

Wow, you've been on collar me for 2 days and you already know all the Dommes and how they are going to act. i don't understand why they are not knocking down your door...all the Dommes i know love whiney men who join the sight and then begin pissing about how badly they are treated by ALL the women. Heres a clue...maybe its not the Dommes, maybe its you.




amaidiamond -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:35:53 PM)

Can someone please translate, I couldn't even READ that guys post let alone understand it....




sissifytoserve -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:36:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: belkincp

dont beleive anythign these so called dominat women say..its all BS....thay dont know qnything about men..and r clueless to what itsl ie kto be a man...to work hard endlessly to ask girls out and never get laid....they dont know how much rejection a guy goes throguh..and girls get hit on al lthe time and asked out..they dont know shit....if ur a guy..and u want a girl...u get write too much for 1 girl ..its a waste of time..ultimatly she wont care waht u say anyways..its how u look....
if brad pitt look a like jsut said..hi im in ur area......... and a danny devito look a liek said 5 pages of love and funny and witt..the girl would pick the brad pitt so just do what u got to do and dotn listen to dumb girls...just cus some guys r ur bitxches and r retards..doesnt mean ur smart or kool or even respected...respected is an aura one has that can bee seen by anyone not just ur subs..or shall i say guys with no self esteem or dignity or brain...thx have fun



Not very becoming of a supposed "officer in the armed forces".

I thought the credo was "Honor , courage, commitment"?

Have they taught you nothing there at the Academy?

You aren't going to find a domme with the attitude you have...or the poorly put together paragraph you just wrote.

I guess the Hollywood myths of "officer and a gentlemen" only apply to a select few.

BTW...you would be suprised what women know about men/males.

If you are looking for sex.....you arte DEFINATELY in the wrong place.

try match .com...fill out a profile.

That seems like it would be right up your alley.


Quick edit:

Your hair is definately not conforming to military regs.





MsKatHouston -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:37:17 PM)

I believe it was something negative.  Just ignore it.  It will go away eventually :P




TigerPurrs -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:37:55 PM)

Translation - he hasn't found the love of his life in two days, so he's frustrated and wants the world to know it.






amaidiamond -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 4:46:50 PM)

Ah is that all? Damn and theres me thinknig it's something worth reading.....




koimizu -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 5:04:51 PM)

It is with great appreciation that i extend my thanks to ms. sugarcoatedscamp for such a lovely and well written letter.  Even though at times it seems that such things should be obvious to many, sadly in an age of 'txt spk' and web chat, basic grammar is as rare as a dodo.

Which incidently was spotted just off the coast of an underwater volcano and the sandy beaches of antartica.

Safe Journeys!




sissifytoserve -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 5:06:17 PM)

You could thank Sugarcoatedscamp for giving you tips on your collarme profile entry.

Theres a start.

edit: Ooops...you got there befor me Koimizu








HCWT1 -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 5:31:43 PM)

Come on people,isn't it a touch unrealistic to exspect all the pond life,to make an effort to swim to the surface.This is mankind,planet earth,your dealing with afterall.




Lashra -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 6:54:33 PM)

Were your parents close relatives or what? Geez guy your never going to get a woman being nasty like that. Change your attitude and learn to spell, or at least use spell check occasionally.

~Lashra




FLsubmalecd -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/9/2006 6:58:00 PM)

Very well said Miss Stephanie. I applaud you for your efforts to help some of the clueless guys that expect any Domme or woman for that matter, is interested in Reading about the things they are into sexually. I feel sorry for many Dommes that have to sift through hundreds of e-mails and profiles to find just one guy that really understand what submission and respect of a Woman's dominance is really all about. As we know, it is not about sex.
A quick but true story. The Lady of my dreams had added me to Her favorites list. Not that She was interested in me, but because She wanted to use my profile as an example of a well written profile that said a whole hell of a lot about me beyond what my kinks and sexual interest were. Of course I did not know that at the time. So when I read Her profile and felt very flattered, I wrote to Her. As it turned out, we hit it off and found that we shared much in the way of common interests and were both looking for the same thing. In time, I fell deeply in love with Her. She was feeling love for me. Perhaps not as deeply.
 Due to some issues,, She released me and broke my heart. But as I write this I am happy to say that we are talking and maybe there is hope to save our relationship. I hope so because I definitely found my true Goddess on earth in Her. I love Her more then life itself. Even with the 1000 miles that makes it hard to be together as much as we both would have liked. But a move by one of us was in the plans from day one.  Please wish me luck in being Hers once again.
But back to the topic.... A well written, sincere, open, and  honest profile detailing what it is you are about and looking for in the way of a relationship does work. It worked for me right here at Collarme. I honestly feel I am among the few that got lucky enough to find the one and only I love. Had it not been for my full open and honest profile, She would have never noticed one more submissive male wanting something. I wanted and found a loving caring D/s relationship. I did not list my sexual interests. They should be considered ONLY after you find other common ground. It is the last thing to talk about. And then only when and if each is comfortable and interested in the other. What I see way to much of is subs that go right for the sex and kink interests and ignore what they are about as men or even a person. To me, it seems like so many men have not got a clue on how to be a gentleman and approach a Lady at all. not only a Domme, but any woman.  My search began and ended with a good profile and then a sincere follow-up letter to Her.
Maybe I should be glad most guys are clueless and go for the quick kink interests, sexual interests almost before saying hello, how are you.  If not, She would have never paid any attention to me. Even with a broken heart, I am happy I met the one and only for me by doing what Miss Stephanie tried to outline for all of those single sub males  that are looking. But it makes me wonder????? Do they really want a relationship or just a fling? I stated exactly what I wanted and found it And I did it by taking the time to think out what I wanted and who I was looking for...the one in a million for me. And I did it with out pictures of my privates and one liners or saying what my sexual or kink interest were or are. And like most of us here, I have them. lol 
 
Oh for the record, that spell check that Miss Stephanie recommended is great! I use it all the time. But I just found out it does not work on this site in the forums. Even in preview mode.  But look above this window that you post in, and there is a spell check for this site. It's the ABC with a check mark icon above.
 
Not sure I added much, other then to compliment the OP on a great thoughtful post to help single subs.  




sugarcoatedscamp -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/10/2006 8:05:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: belkincp

dont beleive anythign these so called dominat women say..its all BS....thay dont know qnything about men..and r clueless to what itsl ie kto be a man...to work hard endlessly to ask girls out and never get laid....they dont know how much rejection a guy goes throguh..and girls get hit on al lthe time and asked out..they dont know shit....if ur a guy..and u want a girl...u get write too much for 1 girl ..its a waste of time..ultimatly she wont care waht u say anyways..its how u look....
if brad pitt look a like jsut said..hi im in ur area......... and a danny devito look a liek said 5 pages of love and funny and witt..the girl would pick the brad pitt so just do what u got to do and dotn listen to dumb girls...just cus some guys r ur bitxches and r retards..doesnt mean ur smart or kool or even respected...respected is an aura one has that can bee seen by anyone  not just ur subs..or shall i say guys with no self esteem or dignity or brain...thx have fun


First of all, I'd recommend that you refrain from posting until you figure out what it is that's made you such an angry person and work through it.  None of us want to fix your complex, which is probably why you're not having much luck.

Secondly, I never mentioned that my post was directed at men.  I wrote it to ALL single submissives, as a way to help them express themselves better to us, as dominants.  I, personally, would turn down Brad Pitt and Danny DiVito, because I'm kinda gay like that.

Breathe, sweetheart.  Get a grip.  Don't go looking for a relationshp when you're too bitter to contribute positively to one.

~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~   ~*~

To koimizu, sissifytoserve, FLsubmalecd, and any others who expressed your thanks:  You're all very welcome.  I feel that when the only medium you have with which to express yourself is words on a screen, the impression those words make on your reader is very important.  If I can help anyone to get their words across in a way that helps them find what they're seeking, it's been a good day all around.




MissyRane -> RE: A letter to single submissives (10/10/2006 8:16:57 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sugarcoatedscamp

Dear single submissives,
 
I realize that the search for the dominant of your dreams is sometimes a long, and frustratingly uphill battle. I can't wiggle my nose and make all your fantasies materialize, leather-clad and trailing a whip, but maybe I can help you a little bit in your search. First of all, it's really nice for a prospective partner to be able to see a photo of you. If you have a web cam, you can pretty easily have a picture. Here's how:
  1. Start your web cam in messenger, but don't invite anyone.
  2. Find the print-screen key on your keyboard ("prt scrn" on mine) and have your finger on it, but don't push the button.
  3. Pose for the camera, or just sit there and look stupid, or whatever, but I suggest looking mildly attractive. *wink* Oh, and don't point the camera at your crotch. Really. If someone wants to see a picture of your crotch, and you're willing to show them one, let them ask for it.
  4. Hold your pose and hit that button.
  5. Open your favorite graphics/photo editing program (if you don't have one, go to Start>Programs>Accessories>Paint).
  6. Press Ctrl+V (paste).
  7. You'll see an image that looks just like your desktop did at the moment you pressed the button. Crop it down to just the "picture" in the web cam display window.
  8. Save the file as a jpeg image, and voilĂ ! A picture of you, ready for upload.

Secondly, an introductory email speaks better of you when you use complete sentences and are attentive to spelling, punctuation, and capitalization, etc. For example, it's much more important to capitalize the beginning of the sentence than it is to capitalize words like "You" or "i", as some prefer to do. Where spelling is concerned, if it's not your strong suit, use a spell-checker. I realize that some websites don't have one built into the email interface, but you can download one that will work on almost any site. Make a point to note the places where your spelling was incorrect, and practice using the proper spellings. Punctuation is important as well, and especially when you come to the end of a sentence. Remember that this moment is your one chance to portray the expression behind your words. If you're asking a question, for example, the recipient of your email would immediately know it, because there's a question mark (?) at the end.
 
Another thing to pay attention to is your grammar. Some may argue with me on this point, but if you're unsure, I suggest writing things just like you'd say them. If you're more likely to say, "Me and my sister are going out to eat at 6," then write it that way. There's no point in writing, "My sister and I are going out to eat at 6," if you're not going to practice the same grammar when you're actually speaking to the person. It's obviously beneficial to be correct, but more important, in my opinion, to be real. If you want to improve your grammar, practice good grammar in your speech and your writing. If someone you're corresponding with points out an error, make a point to absorb what you've learned and then put it into practice. (If someone takes the time to help you in this way, it's nice to thank them.)
 
I can't speak for your personality, play experience, or BDSM lifestyle qualifications, but I can hopefully help you better convey them to a prospective dominant. I truly wish you success in your search.
 
Sincerely,
Miss Stephanie

p.s. If you're looking for a good spell-check program, I recommend one called ieSpell. It's free, which is also nice. If you need a picture, but don't have a digital camera, scanner, or web cam, take a snapshot of yourself to any Kinko's location. They'll scan it for you and put it on a disk.


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