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boundfem -> Apalled- A Vent (10/9/2006 10:22:40 PM)
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In the last few months, I went with my Mistress to a weekend play party at someone's house.. He is a Master who hosts weekend long play parties on a very regular basis. He invites many in the lifestyle... Dommes, Doms, couples, single subs. To me, most of the people there were more of the type who play with anyone and everyone.. top one person while bottoming to another. For many, it was one big swinger kinky party. That is fine and to each their own, it just wasn't my particular thing nor my Mistress's. The thing that was shocking to me was that the Master who ran these parties felt he had every right to put his hands on me - a very clearly owned slave. There was NO question I belonged to my Mistress; when I spoke to the Master on the phone for directions and arrangements beforehand, I always introduced myself as Mistress X's slave. There was no question from our behavior, I was Her slave. NO question.
When we arrived, he gave us a tour of his dungeon and house. The first contact was done kind of slyly. He asked (yes the first time he asked) my Mistress if he could borrow me to show her a flogger and he then told me to stick my hand out and struck my hand a few times. I was quite shocked at his forwardness. I have NEVER been in a situation where another Dom put their hands on another slave unless invited to do so by said slave's Owner. It's just the way things have been in ANY situation I have been in. The only time that this was not the case was at clubs where people who were completely clueless and completely inexperienced in the scene thought it was like "Oh you are a sub, Me Dom.. me Dominate. You slut." But, this Master has been in the scene for over 20 years.
A few minutes later, he wanted to demonstrate a glass suction/cupping set (it was like cupping but instead of using fire, you use a valve that pulls all the air out of the cup). He merely told me to stick out my hand! Stepping over my Mistress's practically while my Mistress was sitting right there. I was kneeling at the time. I almost instinctively stuck out my hand, but then realized I was obeying a Dom who was not mine! So I pulled my hand back and asked my Mistress if I should.. She politely said yes but I knew She was bothered as well.. She does not share Her slaves, it is completely not Her style. But, this was this Master's house and it would have been awkward to do anything else.
So, he demonstrated two cups on me and that was it for the time being.
Later a couple of hours later, everyone was downstairs in his dungeon except for a few people in the living room/kitchen. My Mistress sat down in a chair and I knelt beside Her. She decided to bite me on the back of the neck (a penchant of Hers)- twice. The second time had me reduced to sobbing hysterics. The people who were not in the dungeon gathered around to watch and compliment - all fine and good. The Master then put his hands on the back of my neck and stroked my neck and hair. Are you kidding me?????? To put your hands on an owned slave??? He did not even ask this time, but it would have been completely uncalled for even if he did ask.. asking itself would be inappropriate. Aside from the fact that it was a very intense moment between my Mistress and myself. If my Mistress wanted someone's hands on Her slave She'd decide and invite someone, but She doesn't and didn't.
Again, there was no way to say anything - it would have been incredibly uncomfortable and awkward for Her especially in front of other people gathered around (and I of course could not say anything myself with Her there, if I was by myself, maybe but it still would be awkward). Believe me, both my body language and that of my Mistress's did not indicate that this was welcome.
Later on, my Mistress decided to play with me in the dungeon. She had me strapped down completely and blindfolded. She was talking with someone right by me and the Master came over and again put his hands on me, running his hands all over my back, through my hair and over my neck where She bit me. He then KISSED MY NECK! My Mistress came over and tried to subtly get his hands off of my by putting Her hands on me and subtly, subconsciously pushing his hand away, but the whole situation was freaking unbelieveable!
I have heard others in a sense whispering that they have had similar experiences with this Master both in his home and elsewhere... he can't keep his hands off of female subs it seems. But, generally, he and his parties have a good reputation. He even invited my Mistress and myself back but I doubt She is going for several reasons, but especially that. She is afraid he will be touchy with Her as well.
What does one do in that situation? We were there for two days and kind of trapped. It was his house and his show, there was no way to say anything that would have not been incredibly awkward. I also feel like I want to out him somewhere - like one other message board I read where he advertises his parties sometimes.
To me, like the #1 rule in the Scene at ANY public event is DO not put your hands on anyone who does not belong to you. #2 do not interrupt someone else's scene. Stand back politely and watch quietly.
I can not believe someone in the scene for twenty plus years behaves this way with no regard for respect, ownership and just basic common courtesy!
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