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LadyEllen -> RE: Women Who Dislike Dominant Women (10/11/2006 7:43:07 AM)
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Men and women are different - they each possess different qualities as a result of their biology. The difference is heightened by cultural models of how each should be. We can easily violate the cultural models nowadays, but the biology remains.
That the Bems research showed that men and women clustered around a central line, albeit on different sides of that line, shows that differences, in healthy individuals, are normal between most men and women.
What the research did not show, was that being on one or other side of the line was good or bad, or better /worse, superior/inferior etc.
Of course men tend to do better in some activities - for biological reasons (size/strength) and for cultural reasons (ie they were brought up to believe they should do x "male activity" and so have practised at x and so achieved better than normal proficiency).
Of course women tend to do better in some activities - for the same reasons. But just as if a man is brought up to believe he should do y "female activity" and has practised it and achieved proficiency, so a woman can achieve proficiency in the male activity x, by the same aspiration and application.
There is no better or worse, superior or inferior in all this. There is no ability or inability in all this. There is only different relative proficiencies brought about by biology and cultural influence.
All in all, we have to move away from this idea that the white, heterosexual male is the natural superior to all, which is what several centuries of a certain culture have left us with.
A relationship as well as greater society can only function at its best, when each person contributes in the way for which he/she is best suited. If both partners in a relationship do this, it is a marriage in the sense of the bringing together of complementary partners whose contributions make up on each side any relative deficiencies in the whole. If all in society do this, then the members each complement and support the others and the whole.
In any machine, what is more important, superior or better I wonder? The nut or the bolt? The answer is easy - they are each a vital part, complementing one another. In the absence of one, the other will fail, but together they work well.
Some people are nuts (well, we knew that maybe) and some people are bolts. What sex we are or what gender we portray does not determine whether we are one or the other.
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