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Slavery - reality vs fantasy - 10/11/2006 1:15:45 PM

MistressDraconis

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I received a new question today. Here it is along with my answer.

"Hello Mistress . . . I believe that to truely understand and live slavery there can never be any return. you can no longer be a person. Just a slave whose owner has total power and control. The owner sets all limits and slave has no say on any issue.

Is this just a fantasy? could this be real?"

This person is a submissive who has never experienced live in slavery. Well, here is what I believe: Please understand I have written this as a female Mistress in relation to a male slave - but it can work in many other different roles.

Slavery: reality vs fantasy:

For those that are submissive and have never experienced 24/7 slavery, it can often be a huge fantasy. Often times, though, their fantasies revolve around the sexual, BDSM basics and they don't take the time to think about the every day reality of serving as a slave. The reality isn't glamorous. The reality isn't 8 hours a day of floggers and crops and Mistress walking around in high heels and garters. The reality is that a slave must work, both in the house to provide financially for his household and he must work in the household, doing chores, seeing to the comfort of his Mistress and the upkeep of Her castle. The reality is that a slave must make many sacrifices he doesn't have to make when he is a submissive. His personal wants become void - they mean nothing next to the needs and wants of his Mistress. He must go through a complete psychological change that moves him mentally away from the self and focuses his entireity onto his Mistress. For many submissives who are used to serving one mistress for a few hours and still going home and deciding what they want to eat, wear or watch on tv - the sudden realization that they no longer have that option can be devestating. Or very freeing. It depends on the individual.

My household is a poly household. For many submissives poly is something else that can be hard to grasp. Many lifestyle Mistresses a poly household are also slaves to a Master. Although this is something my submissives don't like to hear - I am not only a Mistress, but a slave too. But this is a reality that many male slaves have trouble enduring. There is a tendancy to put a Female Dominant on a pedestal, to expect her to be the perfect Dominant Goddess. I am human, as are all other Dominas. We cry, we feel, we bleed, (at least once a month for a few days!) and sometimes (thanks to that once a month!!! LOL) we want to lay on the couch in our sweat pants and watch sappy movies all day. And that doesn't fit into the fantasy. It is part of the reality.

But - once you seperate the fantasy from the reality, you come to a place of peace, perfect, selfless acceptance that is truely the freedom of a slave. There is no training trick, no intensive session that can be done to force that mind set. It is a conscious mental shift between the selfish id of the ego and the selfless need to please. Once you feel that mental shift, and you'll feel it hit like a ton of bricks dropping on your soul, then you'll know that you have entered into a place that has become real - for you.

Mistress D