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RE: Whipping - 1/28/2005 8:01:18 PM

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I am just looking for some info on bdsm my life is really none of your business.
Laughing harder that hell now.
You need to chill out .

aman2bwhipped

You made your life 75,000 people business the moment you posted about it on this board.

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RE: Whipping - 1/28/2005 8:21:19 PM

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Thank you.
You have a point?

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RE: Whipping - 1/29/2005 2:57:56 PM

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aman2bwhipped,
I have reviewed your profile and I see that you do not indicate that you are married in your essay. It might be a good idea. I have also looked at your interests.
As a P/T Pro Domme, I would only take you as a professional client. There are many aspects to D/s and BDSM that you do not list. If you truly wish to learn to be submissive you can begin at home. Being submissive to your wife is easy. Begin to do special things for her such as breakfast in bed, a foot massage, a nice bubble bath. She might be more appreciative than you think. I would temper these suggestions with the caution that if you are only willing to do these things for her in the hope that you will get some special kink satisfied, then you are not a true believer in "Female Supremacy" as you list.
So, if you are stricly into fulfilling some kinky fantasies, such as you list, then best to seek out a Pro Domina. I can understand that approaching your wife with a desire for Watersports, Forced Bi, and Strap-on play could be a bit over the top for her. And whipping definitely takes a special touch and the appropriate experience.
There are many here who disapprove of any married male participating in any D/s or BDSM activity behind a wife's back. I don't have that problem, but I will not have a personal relationship with a married man. Only a professional one.
Only you can decide what you mean by the phrases in your profile as follows:
"I am a sub male seeking a Women to dominate me and introduce me to a life of servitude.
I believe in Female Supremacy and long for it in my life. I would love to be whipped and receive a strapon . "
If you are truly seeking a woman to dominate you and introduce you to a life of servitude, begin your training yourself at home. Is your wife less worthy of your servitude, or is it just the kink you are after?
I do not say this to get your dander up, so to speak. I am just trying to put it into perspective, at least from My point of view, and what I would draw from your profile and interests.
Best of luck to you.

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RE: Whipping - 1/29/2005 7:46:28 PM

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No matter what you use, if you are being "whipped" there will be marks.

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RE: Whipping - 1/29/2005 9:32:04 PM

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Only you can decide what you mean by the phrases in your profile as follows:
"I am a sub male seeking a Women to dominate me and introduce me to a life of servitude.
I believe in Female Supremacy and long for it in my life. I would love to be whipped and receive a strapon . "
If you are truly seeking a woman to dominate you and introduce you to a life of servitude, begin your training yourself at home. Is your wife less worthy of your servitude, or is it just the kink you are after?
I do not say this to get your dander up, so to speak. I am just trying to put it into perspective, at least from My point of view, and what I would draw from your profile and interests.
Best of luck to you.

Amen sister, Amen...

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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 5:23:03 AM

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Hello

I appreciate your long letter and responce it is always an honour to get any contact from any domme. I must humbly tell you that you are greatly in error.

I am a man seeking knowledge on whipping. I am have someone who is well aware of my personal situiation fully and is willing to proceed.

I appreciate your concern but you do not know the circumstances and details in my life and you probaly will not ever. I will probaly never meet you. You are very strong willed and I sure love that. You are most definately what this world need to turn it on the correct path.

But humbly Ma'am making any conclusions on anyone without knowing the facts can be very dangerous.

You have made assumtions about me that are incorrect as you do not know all the facts.

You do not know the details and you have made some big assumptions
BIG ones that are incorrect.(humbly Ma'am)

I wish you long life and happinest Ma'am.
The world is a better place beacuse of you. I live for the day when women are totaly Dominant.

My first dominant partner taught me something I will never forget
never react, always act. I try as hard as i can to obey her even today years after she and I have parted.

There is a song by totto called Pamela In there is a great line.
May I humbly suggest it to you Ma'am

"Maybe your the one who is wrong this time?

There are many jewels in you letter Ma'am thank you.
I will treasure them always.

Humbly and respectfuly
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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 5:39:23 AM

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Thank you for your responce Ma'am.

I guess I just might as well come out and say it.

What made you think that my wife has no knowledge of this?
How did you come to this conlusion?

You probaly assumed that because I don't want marks so she won't find out. Maybe that is wrong Ma'am (Humbly and respectfuly).

I find it very funny how a simple question on whipping gets so much attention. Very funny. I must be honest and say I enjoy it in a dark way.

I am greatful as always for that you have taken time to give knowledge and wisdom to me and I am greatful with all my heart.

But I must be hounest your assumptions are way off.

Respectfuly and Humbly It would be nice if you could stay on topic Ma'am.
It is just a question, just an answer is required.

I quote back to you the same as I have to another Wonderful Domme that gave me a wonderful responce.

Maybe your the one who is wrong this time.
Totto Pamela

Most humbly and respectfuly
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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 6:52:24 AM

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The original quote that started this all:

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I am married and have met someone recently and I desire to be whipped. Is there a way for me to be whipped without leaving any marks?

terry

Though a miriad of sarcasm, and some good stuff, this thread has digressed to this:

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Thank you for your responce Ma'am.

I guess I just might as well come out and say it.

What made you think that my wife has no knowledge of this?
How did you come to this conlusion?

First of all, don't call me Ma'am. You haven't earned that privledge. I came to that conclusion because of 1) the nature of your original post, and how you said NOTHING about your wife knowing about this situation and 2) you made no attempt to rectify this in the subsequent posts, when several of us included in our responses that we felt you were sneaking around. So, if you don't say otherwise, what else could we possibly think?

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You probaly assumed that because I don't want marks so she won't find out. Maybe that is wrong Ma'am (Humbly and respectfuly). I find it very funny how a simple question on whipping gets so much attention. Very funny. I must be honest and say I enjoy it in a dark way.

Your pleasure or humor, is surprisingly of no consequence to me. Though your disrespect when you publically laughed at me, and now with the sarcastic, insincere 'humbly and respectfully' has been dually noted. "Humbly and Respectfully" are just words if they are used to be nasty or in an insincere manner, as yours have been. Using them in such a way not only disrespects me, as a person, it disrespects all the other submissives out there who use these words sincerely.

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I am greatful as always for that you have taken time to give knowledge and wisdom to me and I am greatful with all my heart.

Terri, I have this bridge in Brooklyn I'll sell you on the cheap.....

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But I must be hounest your assumptions are way off.

Of course they are...as you've stated before. And as I've stated, this is your fault, not anyone elses. I'm a lot of things....clairvoyant ain't one of them.

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Respectfuly and Humbly It would be nice if you could stay on topic Ma'am.
It is just a question, just an answer is required.

This translates into "Just give me the answer I want so I can go do what I want...." Sorry, it doesn't work like that here at the CM boards.

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I quote back to you the same as I have to another Wonderful Domme that gave me a wonderful responce.

Maybe your the one who is wrong this time.
Totto Pamela

Most humbly and respectfuly
aman2bwhipped

Thank you Terri, for the tongue in cheek attemt to put Ma'am in her place. I'm not here for your approval. Nor, am I here to be laughed at and made fun of as you saw fit in several of your previous posts.

Backtracking as you have in this post about your wife, is fairly obvious. In a lifestyle who's cornerstone is honesty, you have failed to be convincing that your wife knows about this. If she did, then why would you be bringing this issue to a bunch of strangers, so to speak. But I've been down off the turnip truck long enough to discern the differance between 'Knowledge" and "Consent". So, if you have allowed, from your original post, to have others infer that you are doing this behind your wife's back, it's clearly a communication problem on your part and no one else can be accountable for inferring otherwise.

Again, I'm not sure what handbook you are working from, but I have yet to see one that says 'you want to be taken seriuosly? Laugh at the Dommes.'
So while you are trying to find a very specific answer to the question you posed, perhaps if you articulated it in such a way that gave everyone the facts, you might get more useful answers. But then again, as it's been stated of late, there are many of us who aren't interested in men who are sneaking around on their wives. If this is not the case, then I would suggest that you be more specific in your details from the get go.

Lily

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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 10:13:57 AM

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You probaly assumed that because I don't want marks so she won't find out. Maybe that is wrong Ma'am (Humbly and respectfuly).

I find it very funny how a simple question on whipping gets so much attention. Very funny. I must be honest and say I enjoy it in a dark way.

I am greatful as always for that you have taken time to give knowledge and wisdom to me and I am greatful with all my heart.

I've just sort of been sitting here watching the progression of this thread. And I have to say that whether intentional or not - your profile sounds duplicitous - and your wording in this thread sounds duplicitous. I do not have a problem working with a married sub (under certain guidelines and constraints) what I DO have a problem with is duplicity.

You are correct when you say that we do not know the facts. That isn't "dangerous" for us. But it is potentially dangerous for any domme that you end up with - if you are as forthcoming with her as you have been here.

If your intent is not to be duplicitous, then fix the error. Simple as that.

You do not state in your profile that you have 'found' a domme - and you are here to learn and gather information. Your profile states that you are 'seeking' a domme. And you neglect to mention in your profile the simple statement that you are married.

Whatever your reasoning is for that omission, it comes across as being very sneaky.

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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 12:31:48 PM

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I have read you responce and I find it very funny that you are so upset.
You know nothing of me so your view point and comments are is meaningless.
Please try to stay on Topic.

I just want to learn about whipping. You seem to have a problem with that. You must be able to at least grasp that concept. maybe you have to much time on your hands?

signed
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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 12:34:58 PM

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Well I m greatful for the responce. Thank you
I am just trying to learn about whipping.

If you have any information on that I will be happy to listen.
But as for this type of imature comments. No thanks.
Again try to stay on topic.

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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 2:24:51 PM

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What made you think that my wife has no knowledge of this?
How did you come to this conlusion?

I came to the same conclusion because i was in that situation with my first dom and had to be careful of marks since Hubby didn't know. I did get bruises one time from a riding crop and had to hide my ass from Hubby for a week.

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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 3:35:56 PM

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I personally go with whatever I feel at the moment: If I feel strongly about something I will either agree or disagree publically, if I don't feel that strongly about it, but disagree, I will tend to skip it and not respond (sort of "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing"). M

Good plan. That has been my approach since I have returned to these forums. Let's see how long I will keep it up before the bossy opinionated ME is set free again! <grin>

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RE: Whipping - 1/30/2005 4:02:09 PM

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Alright, whether the original poster likes it or not, I'm highjacking this thread :p

I mean, Eden and a few other Dommes gave him his answer and now it's time for him to do his homework as he does not wish to have anymore of our opinion <cheeky grin>.

I'm interested in a post by GoddessDustyGold:

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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
If you truly wish to learn to be submissive you can begin at home. Being submissive to your wife is easy. Begin to do special things for her such as breakfast in bed, a foot massage, a nice bubble bath. She might be more appreciative than you think. I would temper these suggestions with the caution that if you are only willing to do these things for her in the hope that you will get some special kink satisfied, then you are not a true believer in "Female Supremacy" as you list.

So, if you are stricly into fulfilling some kinky fantasies, such as you list, then best to seek out a Pro Domina. I can understand that approaching your wife with a desire for Watersports, Forced Bi, and Strap-on play could be a bit over the top for her. And whipping definitely takes a special touch and the appropriate experience.

Dusty, it totally makes sense!

I don't do professional domination therefore every relationship I have with a submissive is personal. But within that, there is a variance of intimacy. I rarely deal with married men (usually brushing them off the moment I had knowledge that they were married) and therefore haven't had to reflect on this much. But your approach is brilliant. I hope you don't mind if I use you as inspiration if I ever need to!

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RE: Whipping - 1/31/2005 1:53:14 AM

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I hope you don't mind if I use you as inspiration if I ever need to!

- LA

I am most flattered Lady A, and please do be My guest. It is good to see you back on the boards!

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RE: Whipping - 1/31/2005 4:23:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

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I hope you don't mind if I use you as inspiration if I ever need to!

- LA

I am most flattered Lady A, and please do be My guest. It is good to see you back on the boards!

Thank you! And I just noticed now that a thread on married male subs was going on... :)

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RE: Whipping - 1/31/2005 11:31:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: aman2bwhipped

Well I m greatful for the responce. Thank you
I am just trying to learn about whipping.

If you have any information on that I will be happy to listen.
But as for this type of imature comments. No thanks.
Again try to stay on topic.

aman2bwhipped

This -is- on topic for these boards. You will rarely, if ever, -just- get exactly what you're looking for. I find that we prefer to explore the question, rather than just churn out an answer.

I'm willing to bet there are other more skill-oriented forums, unfortunatly, this isn't one of them.

Also, being mean to the posters generally doesn't get you answers you're looking for.

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RE: Whipping - 1/31/2005 11:52:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic
This -is- on topic for these boards. You will rarely, if ever, -just- get exactly what you're looking for.

Anyway, what fun would it be if we all answered and then shut up? Tangents are such more fun!

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RE: Whipping - 1/31/2005 3:31:34 PM

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Thanks for the responce.

I must say I pretty much disagree with every thing you say, bit that is my right.

Thanks again

Terry

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RE: Whipping - 1/31/2005 3:33:50 PM

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Terri, I have this bridge in Brooklyn I'll sell you on the cheap.....

No thanks I am sure you made a major investment in buying it for your self .

Terry

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