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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily
I see. I suppose cheating on your wife is the 'grown up' thing to do...

I personally do not see what being whipped has to do with cheating. Since he is married, his best chance of finding a Domme is a pro. While I agree, most BDSM has an undercurrent of sexuality or sensuality, we aren't automatically talking about having sex. His wife would probably be made very uncomfortable at being asked to provide whippings for her husband. In a good number of vanilla relationships, the male is seen as the provider, protector and "source of stability." Anything that damages the woman's view of her husband as being good at those things, can be detrimental to the marriage.

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ORIGINAL: DiamondDiva

No matter what you use, if you are being "whipped" there will be marks.

Not so.. it depends upon the persons skin and the whip used. Some people bruise very easily and will mark with a slapper. If you are one of those, avoid any striking type play. I have a pair of Legree whips, one 2 ft and one 4 ft. The 4 ft one leaves marks, the 2 ft one only leaves marks if the tip wraps. It would make a great gift for a Domme. (roughly $70 for a 2 ft one.) It doesn't take any practice to be able to use it. Ask her to take a couple of swings at a pillow to get a feel for it first, of course. The first time you are to get a whipping from a new Domme, plan it for a time when you'll have a reason to not need to explain marks (such as going on a business trip for a few days, or after a game of football with the guys.) Also, accidental marks do happen so be ready to explain away one or two quarter size bruises. Most of the marking left by the Legree fades within two hours.




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ORIGINAL: aman2bwhipped

I have on many ocassions asked my wife and she has refused.
She has some physical restrictions that would make it pretty much impossible. She is not comfortable with but not apposed to me having this done with a professional.

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I find it very funny how a simple question on whipping gets so much attention. Very funny. I must be honest and say I enjoy it in a dark way

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ORIGINAL: WolfOnALeash
I think if you're married, your wife should be the one doing the whipping. I look on S&M related activities the same as I do "vanilla" sex. Even if no sex is involved, it's still a form of intimacy between two people that are giving each other pleasure in one form or another.

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But that's just my two cents' worth. Everybody's entitled to their own set of ethics and opinions, and I don't harass people who disagree with me.