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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/14/2006 7:14:01 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: SaintAllie

I prefer not to feel targeted really, that coralled feeling is non event! .If they can make speed with less haste, that is preferable. After all, there is no rush is there?

Allie

edited to add a 't'

What do you mean that you don't wish to "feel targeted"?  I hear most women saying that they WANT the message to be targeted directly to them and not be some impersonal tripe.  Am I interpreting what you're saying in the wrong context?

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/14/2006 11:11:46 AM   
Misstoyou


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Status: offline 		Personally, I'm intrigued by 1st contacts that are sincere and funny.

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/14/2006 11:24:55 AM   
dicipline2


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Status: offline 		Well.... I try to be very curteous and respectful and prefer to talk of other interests besides the obvious one that we are all here for. I think it makes things more comforting and tends to result in a more nuturing environment between partners, so to speak.

Humor is a wonderful icebreaker, if you are willing to laugh at yourself, it sets an enviroment that will be comfortable for your prospective partner.

Overall, you need to see if other interests match. If you are of totally opposite polarities, it doesnt imply a doomed relationship from the start necessarily but it helps if you find more common ground than just BDSM.


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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/14/2006 12:08:08 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		If being crude and bluntly talking about those things you mentioned is what is necessary for me to connect with a dominant woman, I'm never going to connect with one, and I'm probably better off not even trying.

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/14/2006 12:46:00 PM   
SaintAllie


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Status: offline 		By "targeted"  I meant  the " I want to lick your pussy" style of approach.. My post was mainly about the speed everything goes at online..I just prefer to slow things down..I hope that has made sense ..

Allie

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/14/2006 3:25:16 PM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SaintAllie

By "targeted"  I meant  the " I want to lick your pussy" style of approach.. My post was mainly about the speed everything goes at online..I just prefer to slow things down..I hope that has made sense ..

Allie

Gotcha.  You meant something like "Confronted with The Crude" rather than how I took it that you want the approach to be NOT targeted towards you specifically (as in more general.)  Thanks for the clarification.

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 1:51:23 AM   
needstheOne


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Status: offline 		Ok, so the asking permission is out and it was 25 lines not a one liner. Second no cut and paste for me. I gave her what she wanted and pointed out some of our likes and and common ground. It took me the better part of a day to make it.

Not so good she put up after that she was pro. DOH!!

I will find one again!!!

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 4:54:13 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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ORIGINAL: needstheOne

Ok, so the asking permission is out and it was 25 lines not a one liner. Second no cut and paste for me. I gave her what she wanted and pointed out some of our likes and and common ground. It took me the better part of a day to make it.

Not so good she put up after that she was pro. DOH!!

I will find one again!!!


It happens.   The good news is that the more you stack the deck in your favor and behave appropriately, the more likely you are to eventually find a Domme.  And surely that will be worth it.

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 5:27:44 AM   
MstrssPassion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Ladies --  Do you prefer a gentleman or a pig on his approach to you?  In other words, would you rather him be respectful, complimentary and more interested in you as a person up front, or is him being crude, bluntly talking about pussylicking and crack worship and neanderthal-like in his manner ok (or even sexy) to you?
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What good is it to be approached by a gentleman when in fact he is a pig in disguise?

Regardless to whether he is a pig or a gent... I want to be approached in the truest representation of their natural being, this way I can determine personality compatibility right from the start.



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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 5:29:45 AM   
UnvailedPurpose


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Status: offline 		Littlesarbonn:
"I'm probably better off not even trying."
I could not agree more. What I believe is of infinitely more importance is embracing those social skills we consistently hone each day of our lives and the expressing of no sense of urgency emergency or desperateness surrounds us.
That we are driven by ethics integrities and honor codes primarily, that the gallantry and the charismatic deportment we cloak ourselves in is simply a social sophistication that in the final analysis will play a functional roll in subjecting ourselves to the authority of another.




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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 7:45:12 AM   
PoeticPrincess


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Status: offline 		Really enjoyed reading these posts today!!  I want a man who is a gentleman through and through, until we get indoors. Once he knows I want him as my Sub, he should know that I will not tolerate reticence.. at that point he should at least feel he is present at the feast, and will be expected to have a good appetite...lol!!  I have had a disturbing number of approaches from Dom men who think that because I am a woman I will somehow fall at their feet and become a sub...interesting lack of self-knowledge...!

Love this place, enjoying it immensely.

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 2:09:02 PM   
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"I'm probably better off not even trying."
This, in my opinion is not a winning attitude, and will ultimately not bear fruit, but I could be wrong.  I don't know many people who are better off within any aspect of their lives without even trying.   I believe lady luck favors folks at times, but most of the time, I believe success comes with trying, and a sprinkle of strong desire coupled with good judgement.    M

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RE: His Demeanor on Approach - 10/24/2006 2:18:56 PM   
MistressRENA


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Status: offline 		The consenus seems to be and I agree; a little manners go a long way.

It sure does for me. The swines usually reveal themselves soon enough.

Ones approach is usually indicative of the way one usually follows.

A biggie for me is consideration; if you show it when you are trying to impress me; you'll show more of it when you get to know me and really want to impress me.

Mistress RENA


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