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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 7:54:22 AM   
LaTigresse


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Though I am not exactly looking for anything other than getting to know people, yes, the name does mean alot ESPECIALLY when they have not provided a nice face photo.  One good face photo, especially a relaxed candid one, tells me just about everything I need to know. However, if I get an email from (making these up) Isqueallikeapig, Imakittengirl, princesspink, toiletboy, ashtraygirl, etc etc etc......chances are I am gonna keep moving. Also the ones I call, romantic novel names......mistyravenshadows.....I just see that and think....back the boat up, too much drama ahead. And yeah, I am a picky bitch. A good photo and well written email and profile can tweak the initial impression of the name also.

And Michael, to answer your question about adult photo's. Any person that posted or sent me a photo of naked parts would automatically get ignored. I am not a prude but I do not want my prospective other to be showing my prospective property to the whole rest of the world. I like people with a little class and respect for themself. When I see a picture of genitalia I lose all respect for that person.


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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 7:59:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Just out of curiosity... does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?
 
Jewel

I will contact the person whatever the name is if they have written to me a polite and interesting letter.  I will always respond.
The only time I do not respond is if I get the lame postings of 'on your knees' or 'Hi'.
Although, recently, they are few and far between...
 
The name a person uses does influence my thoughts on them however.  If someone has what I consider being an interesting name - like using their everyday name or something with a bit more imagination - I will be more likely to engage in conversation why they chose that specific name in case we have similar likes.  It could be a historical name, or a mythical one.  That would increase my interest.
 
I am less likely to take seriously someone with a name I couldn't relate to, or one that I found derogetory in any way.  But then I am a snob...
 
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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 7:59:56 AM   
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Also the ones I call, romantic novel names......mistyravenshadows.....I just see that and think....back the boat up, too much drama ahead.



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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:06:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

i have a question about that...if CM ever finally allowed for us "adults" to actually show "adult" pics of ourselves...would that make a difference?

Yes it would make a difference.
If someone sent me a image of their genitals, it would entirely depend on the image.  A tacky colour image would put me off.  Your newest photograph would not persuade me to contact you or respond either.  But thats just personal preference.  A naked Black and white, tastefully done with a good background would say to me "...this person has imagination..." and entice me further, whether they were showing their genitals or not.  There is a lesbien submissive whos profile often pops up when I log in and she has a wonderful part naked image where her side is pierced and threaded with ribbon like a corset braiding... now thats beautiful.  A semi naked image with a flower background doesn't appeal to me in the slightest, but to someone else it may certainly press the right buttons.
 
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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:09:09 AM   
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Also the ones I call, romantic novel names......mistyravenshadows.....I just see that and think....back the boat up, too much drama ahead.

But ... but... but....
Does that mean I wouldn't be on your 'to do' list - even if I asked really really nicely?
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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:10:50 AM   
Steelriven


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Status: offline 		Nick names don't matter much too me, accept if they are rude because then they just make me laugh. However, it's interesting and provides a little insight if the person has a very creative nick name.

I always anwser emails once, even the rude ones. I figure if maybe I can shove a little comon sence up their asses they might, possibly actually become human.

This nick? I wanted to be origional, and it does mean something to me. My lil_twisted nick? Was given to me by some friends, it has double meaning. Thanks Doctor_T and PropMaster!

Adult photos? Well... Unless they are interesting like peircings, or too show off their last wax play, or what not I think it's a bit rude. I don't want to know what your naked bits look like.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:11:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with pretty much everything that has been said ahead of me here. And the only thing worse than a name with 69 in it, is a name with 3 or 4 69's - apparently trying to communicate quantity?

(and i think CrappyDom is the best nick ever. It is the first one I noticed here, and it conveys a sense of humor, and someone who does not take themeselves so damn seriously.)

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:15:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

i have a question about that...if CM ever finally allowed for us "adults" to actually show "adult" pics of ourselves...would that make a difference?


It would make me feel like I was back on alt and simply doing the "meat market" thing again..The fact that CM doesnt have that allowance is one of the reasons I am more comfortable here than there. But thats just me.

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I noticed the women give a resounding NO to the "adult pic" question.. but the men havent chimed in at all.. hmmmm veddy intervesting :)

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:15:50 AM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		For me Nicks tell a story.  The more graphic they are the less I take them seriously.  I happen to like the one's like Michaels.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:52:23 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		A nic will not be the final decider in whether I email someone or not.  FOr example, if someone has a nic of "Hugecock69" I will still respond to him if he writes a nice sincere message.

And if a guy has a nic of "NamasteShiva" and writes a one line wanker email, I won't respond.

So while the name does make an impression and goes on the clipboard, it alone will not be the decider.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:59:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Just out of curiosity... does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?
 
Jewel


I rarely get a chance to contact, but honestly, I would have to say some niks I don't even bother reading the profile.   As far as those that contact me, I don't discriminate because they have a nik I do not agree with, I do respond and give them a chance, but I have to admit it does put me on guard.   Some do not make a good first impression, such as those that exclaim how enormus a certain body part is

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 9:16:57 AM   
Nimkii


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Status: offline 		What the hell does your nick have to do with the person it is attached to. if you find the nick offensive then fine don't talk to them. but if this is how you base who you talk to on here then congrats you have taken shallow to a new level.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 9:47:28 AM   
SlaveAkasha


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Status: offline 		It doesn't make much difference to me, it's what is written in the profile I look at more as to whether I will write them or not.  With my old name, I got a lot of compliments, I think it showed I had a sense of humor, and didn't take the whole damn thing quite so seriously.
 
I don't want nude pics, that's for sure.  If it's something that is tasteful, like darkinshadows said, that is a bit different.  Just getting a color photo of a penis doesn't do much for me.  Heck, being a woman, I can just ask a guy and he will show me in person..not much mystery to be had there.  There have been men I have talked to for a long while, and I asked to see theirs, but it was more so I would know what I was "working" with when we met...lol.
 
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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 9:57:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sapphirepleasure
I tend to avoid nicks that have '69' in them!  And once on another site, some guy with a nick that was something like 'lickitandstickit69' got very offended when I didn't answer repeated emails and finally explained why.  He just didn't get it.


I'm with you on that one.  For Me, I find it kind of presumptuous to make reference to a specific sexual act in one's screenname.  I think it's crass and sends out a message to Me that the person is probably too sexually focused for My tastes. 
 
Like others have mentioned, I also avoid screen names that make reference to something that's a hard limit for Me.  For example, I probably would not respond to someone with a screen name containing "K9", or one like"adultbaby4u" as bestiality and infantilism are both hard limits for Me.
 
I also avoid people who have "cuck" or "cuckold" in their screen name.  While cuckolding is not an absolute hard limit for Me, it is only something I would want to explore long into an established relationship, if at all.  I find that the people who make reference to cuckolding in their screen name are usually seeking a cuckolding relationship immediately, which I'm not.
 
Someone also mentioned "sammy" sounding screen names that put out a red flag that the person is a brat, SAM, or considers themselves a challenge.  While some Dom/mes find them entertaining, I don't have time for their games and usually take a pass on these individuals as well.
 
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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 10:23:47 AM   
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Why would it?

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 10:33:40 AM   
demistress


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ORIGINAL: sapphirepleasure

I tend to avoid nicks that have '69' in them!  And once on another site, some guy with a nick that was something like 'lickitandstickit69' got very offended when I didn't answer repeated emails and finally explained why.  He just didn't get it......


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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 11:51:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave
I noticed the women give a resounding NO to the "adult pic" question.. but the men havent chimed in at all.. hmmmm veddy intervesting :)


I'll bite.

I don't mind adult pics unless they are blatantly crass.  An artistic, tastefully presented form is pleasant to look at, but a super close-up of nothing but genitalia is really a turn off.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 12:05:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel
does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?
 
Jewel
Yes, someone's nic will influence how I perceive them and whether or not I will contact them.   I will generally not contact anyone with a peculiar/specific kink name, unless I've seen his writings on the forum and he seems to be a social/decent human being from that.

I will usually give someone the benefit of the doubt and go read his profile if I get an email from ass worshipper for example.  The fact of the matter is that 100% of the time, when someone with a stupid nic (like heel slave or pu**y worshipper) has contacted me he has always turned out to be either completely socially inept and/or an one-hand-typing wanker.  So, while I will respond to all emails, it is fairly clear that mr assworshipper is going to be one of the frogs I weed through rather than someone I will actually meet in the long run.  Another observation I am beginning to make is that mr assworshipper is beginning to catch on that nic isn't working, and is changing nics to sincerely/truely/obedient/submissive/wonderfully/slave nowadays, but being a wanker just the same, lol.  It's almost the case of trying to verbally convince someone you are a lady.    M

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 12:12:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Just out of curiosity... does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?


Yes.  A rude, crude or explicit screen name gets blocked.  I usually don't even read the email, I just delete/block immediately on seeing unwanted crudeness in my mailbox.  I have no interest in interactions on that level with strangers.

I  have nothing to say to a guy who is presenting himself as "BigHardPenis" or "LickUrAssCrak".   Any explicit sexual references in the screen name and it's an automatic trip to the circular file because I just don't want to hear about it.  If his screen name is slightly less crude but still mentions a specific fetish (eg, FootWorshipper or StrapOnSlave) then it depends on how busy I am and how many other emails are in my inbox.  I don't have a lot to say to a random guy who is just looking for specific fetish gratification and presenting himself as a fetish object rather than a real human being who might be pleasant to have a conversation with.  Other than "wrong profile, dude.  Move along and stop wasting everyone's time bothering people who make it clear in their profiles that they're not interested."

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 12:12:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I find that I'm more drawn to people that don't have those key words in their names.
I'm cynical of the Masteroftheuniverse and Domlydomlords.  I prefer people who have names that are either just names or are more descriptive of their personality rather than their role.  Of course there are always exceptions.  And if their email strikes a cord with me I'll answer whether I like their name or not.

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