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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 12:27:47 PM   
Najakcharmer


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ORIGINAL: Nimkii

What the hell does your nick have to do with the person it is attached to. if you find the nick offensive then fine don't talk to them. but if this is how you base who you talk to on here then congrats you have taken shallow to a new level.


Because how someone presents themselves in this way is a big part of how they are asking others to view them and how they are choosing to introduce themselves, whether politely or crudely. 

If you choose to present yourself as "BigHard9Inchs" or "LikUrClit6969" or something equally crude, that says a lot about what you're looking for, what you expect and how you are asking to relate to other people on this site.  It is part of your approach, the same as an introduction in real life.

A total stranger walks up to me at a a party and the first thing out of his mouth is, "I have a big cock.  I can lick your clit."  I'm out of there; this is not someone I want to talk to AT ALL.  I think he's a total creep and I refuse to have anything to do with him.  And that's exactly what a guy is doing on this site if he has a crudely explicit nick. 

I do think that's a reasonable basis for choosing not to talk to someone.  They've made a choice on how they want to approach you, and you also get a choice as to how you're going to respond.  I respond to gross sexual crudity from a stranger by refusing to continue the interaction. 

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 12:37:36 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Are you kidding a nic mean anything besides finally finding something not already taken you can almost stand to be known by.  Ok i know many take forever deciding their nics.  Mine was chosen by the computer after i gave up on finding anything it would allow me to have without the numbers behind the name being too much to remember, yep i mean even a 1 or 2 is too many numbers for me.  I just have more important things to do or thought i did at the time.  So i love diamond, dreams, and being a lover.  Go figure how the computer put it together.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 12:42:22 PM   
aleshaDreams


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Status: offline 		Handles  to me are first impression, then the one sentence opener either kills it or makes me read more.  The consensus I have drawn from those that contact me and those I have contacted is that there handle is also at times a reflection of what they are seeking, perhaps this is a reason I am never happy with mine cause it never clearly defines what I seek cause I have not clearly defined that.

But alot of times, more especially at alt and aff the handle gives way to the intent and/or interests farily quick, imo.

< Message edited by aleshaDreams -- 10/15/2006 12:44:41 PM >

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 2:09:25 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nimkii

What the hell does your nick have to do with the person it is attached to. if you find the nick offensive then fine don't talk to them. but if this is how you base who you talk to on here then congrats you have taken shallow to a new level.


Because how someone presents themselves in this way is a big part of how they are asking others to view them and how they are choosing to introduce themselves, whether politely or crudely. 

If you choose to present yourself as "BigHard9Inchs" or "LikUrClit6969" or something equally crude, that says a lot about what you're looking for, what you expect and how you are asking to relate to other people on this site.  It is part of your approach, the same as an introduction in real life.

A total stranger walks up to me at a a party and the first thing out of his mouth is, "I have a big cock.  I can lick your clit."  I'm out of there; this is not someone I want to talk to AT ALL.  I think he's a total creep and I refuse to have anything to do with him.  And that's exactly what a guy is doing on this site if he has a crudely explicit nick. 

I do think that's a reasonable basis for choosing not to talk to someone.  They've made a choice on how they want to approach you, and you also get a choice as to how you're going to respond.  I respond to gross sexual crudity from a stranger by refusing to continue the interaction. 



I Was trying to get through the balance of this thead so I could reply to this same response from Nimkii.  Thank you for doing it for Me, Najakcharmer.
I don't browse profiles, but I will read any email I receive, and usually, look at the profile.  99.9999% of the time, the first impression is born through. 
Call it shallow if you will.  I consider it to be a timesaver.  A brief response, and I am on to the next mail. 

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 3:17:35 PM   
impishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		I generally read the email and that person's profile and see what they have to say to me before I make a decision on whether or not to respond to that person. I've exchanged emails and other correspondence with some people that have some very strange names before and they've been rather intelligent and able to have a well rounded conversation. I sometimes think that some have more imagination than others. Although I would say I would hesitate to yanno respond to some of the names that have been mentioned here lol

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 3:21:54 PM   
JustaDom


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Status: offline 		Jewel, I'm going to answer this from both the perspectives of being contacted because of my nick and from the perspective of contacting others.

One of the reasons why I chose the nick Justadom several years ago is that it conveys that I have a sense of humor about BDSM and it also shows a bit of humility.  (Also, when I first started researching and reading about BDSM I wasn't comfortable going by my first name.)  Now that I am comfortable, it is practically impossible to be the first one to register “Joe” anywhere or a lot of variations on my first name so on lifestyle sites so I've continued using Justadom.  I kept it entirely in lowercase (following the old school standard of making logins in lower case) until a few years ago when after being frequently asked “you're a dom, why isn't your nick capped?” for a period of six months I started putting capital letters in it just to stop that nonsense and nuisance.

I have found the nick I chose does help a little to make a positive impression.  I've had a few relationships start just because the nick struck them as witty, so they clicked on my profile and contacted me or read my email when they otherwise would not have have and things progressed from there.  What has helped far more than a clever nick is participating in forums such as this one.  I enjoy doing so, I rarely have the time to do it anymore between my new job and the vanilla projects I am working on.

Someone else's nick does have a small impact if I'll reply to them if they contact me and is a significant factor on if I contact them or not.  If a woman shows a bit of wit or cleverness in her nick I'll click on it and look at her profile.  Something generic or that has her name is usually neutral and if her nick implies she is a one-trick pony, then I'll rarely click on her profile unless that is some great trick.  Since I rarely contact women on this site or others (I contact a woman here maybe every other month at most) and I spend the time to write a unique, original email that shows I have read their profile and that I have given writing them some thought, those few profiles I click on due to the nick are often the deciding factor.

I fully understand this is isn't a great method, I'm judging a book by its title which is even less effective than judging a book by its cover.  I simply don't spend a lot of time on here, I've got a lot going on and I'm going to have to make some decisions soon about what I can keep doing and what I have to give up.  When I had less going on in my life, things like a nick mattered a lot less.

Joe

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 3:26:40 PM   
demistress


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Status: offline 		LOL  Just to share a little humor on My Nic.  I have had people assume (despite my detailed profile) that I am a black dominatrix, that I am from germany, and that I think I'm "THE" mistress.  All from my nic. 

FYI it stands for Delaware, ahh but the silliness of it all.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 5:17:29 PM   
MochaMistress


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Status: offline 		I ignore crude crass nicknames that email me. I found out from the first few weeks that most of their mail was just as vile as the name. I'm sure I'm bypassing a diamond in the rough out there by doing this but oh well.

MM

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 5:34:07 PM   
twicehappy


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ORIGINAL: becca333

That 'last chicken in the shop' look (thank you Red Dwarf)


OMG! Thread hijack......
 
How about this line from the Cat " i'm so sorry your faddah died but for all the worms it's party time".
 
You are the only person i've ever seen even admit to watching Red Dwarf, i loved that show, right after Dr.Who.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 6:48:07 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		IMO...No, I do not pay attention to screen names..because many times I think someone creates a screen name with tongue in cheek ie:..brattysub4u..could possibly be in actuality a most accomodating unbratty sub..remember the days when sometimes your nick name was the opposite of what you were?.....Tempting

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:39:05 PM   
Owned1


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Status: offline 		I must admit to taking a second thought before replying to a supposed female profile with a nic that is just plain nasty.  I often think these must be men pretending to be females as most females would not name themselves such ugly names.

Just my humble opinion though.

Owned

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 8:51:31 PM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Just out of curiosity... does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?
 
Jewel

Yep -- lewd names or those that advertise like "BigDickRick", "CrackLover" or things like that automatically get deleted or ignored.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 9:00:56 PM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		This soooooo reminds me of the joke whose punchline is: Why do you ask Two Dogs F*cking?

My bad.... somebody beat me!
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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 9:01:32 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		When people have these ridiculous screen names like C3PO or MF445LS, then yes, I have to say it makes me wonder how serious they are and makes me reluctant to get in touch with them.

Otherwise, I don't really care.  My only other pet peeve is people who misspell "feisty" in their screen name--you know, like FIESTYWENCH, something like that.  That's fucking annoying.

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Just out of curiosity... does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 9:14:00 PM   
cloudboy


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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

I have nothing to say to a guy who is presenting himself as "BigHardPenis" or "LickUrAssCrak". Any explicit sexual references in the screen name and it's an automatic trip to the circular file because I just don't want to hear about it.


Dammit, Najakcharmer, you're giving away all my best aliases!!

I'm puzzled too why you don't find these: "BigHard9Inchs" and "LikUrClit6969"

cleverly inventive.

[[[[shaking head]]]]]]

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/15/2006 10:47:56 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		yes it does. I've seen names like Daddyseeksutofck, and it's let me know it's someone who's interests isn't compatible with me, or urmyslutbitch, or let me degrade you. I'm not interested in someone who thinks all women are bitches , or someone who's clearly into degration.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/16/2006 1:03:45 AM   
julietsierra


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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Just out of curiosity... does the nicname a person chooses here have anything to do with whether or not you will contact them? Or if they contact you first, does it have anything to do with whether or not you'll reply?
 
Jewel


Yes, nick names can have a lot to do with my decision to contact them. I like creativity. I LOVE word play. So, when I come across someone who changes words up in his nick and it's done in good taste, it makes me smile. I've been known to send an e-mail just to tell him that I really like his nickname. My personal favorite was "SirLawrenceofherlabia."

Over the years, I've had some good conversations following those "I really like your choice of nicknames!" e-mails.

And at the same time, like so many others who've posted here, I am very turned off by nicknames that are overtly and crassly sexual. I also am not impressed by the "SirLordMasteroftheUniverse" names either. Back when I was looking, I figured that if someone had an ego that big, they already had someone's adoration and had no need of me.

Amongst women's nick names, the bratty, sammy ones turn me off as do the ones that are filled with woe-is-me references. But, that's just my preference for people who choose to live this life  because they love it, not because they're victims. I don't do sympathy very well at all - especially when I'm being manipulated to be sympathetic.

juliet

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/16/2006 1:06:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: twicehappy
How about this line from the Cat " i'm so sorry your faddah died but for all the worms it's party time".

You are the only person i've ever seen even admit to watching Red Dwarf, i loved that show, right after Dr.Who.


That's odd- almost all of my scene friends are also sci fi geeksters with a huge passion for Brit comedies and sci fi stuff.

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/16/2006 3:49:47 AM   
twicehappy


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy
How about this line from the Cat " i'm so sorry your faddah died but for all the worms it's party time".

You are the only person i've ever seen even admit to watching Red Dwarf, i loved that show, right after Dr.Who.


That's odd- almost all of my scene friends are also sci fi geeksters with a huge passion for Brit comedies and sci fi stuff.


MPT, every Saturday night!

Lol, it must be a a Baltimoron (yep i spelled that right) thing hon, meet me Dundalk for bingo? And after we can slide by Polack Johnny's on the Block for a dog.
 

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RE: Does a persons nic have anything to do with whether... - 10/16/2006 3:54:04 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I get a lot of responses from people who dont actualy put the time or effort into figurnig out wat my name means, but just assume since the word looks similiar it must have something to do with blood drinking and water sports...
I dont tend to worry about what a nic is, as long as it isnt over the top raunchy.
I just assume, like mine, that it was made as an attention getter and doesnt necessarily have much to do with a persons interests unless stated.

DV

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