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How do I leave Master - 10/17/2006 11:27:45 PM   
sassiefire


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Status: offline 		I've talked to him, tried to make him understand it's not working for me. He says I am slave and it doesn't matter what I want, He will not release me. He has been my online dom for 9 months with no r/t and He knew from the beginning I have to have r/t. I am tired of the arguing, I just want to be free. What can i do? Please help!!!
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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/17/2006 11:29:29 PM   
spanklette


Posts: 882
Joined: 2/22/2005
Status: offline 		Hit the power button. Really.

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/17/2006 11:35:00 PM   
behindmirrors


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Joined: 8/5/2006
Status: offline 		I don't think it really matters if he releases you or not- in this case, you can definetly release yourself. Give yourself the permission and go for it.

behindmirrors.

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/17/2006 11:37:55 PM   
SirDaniel


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Joined: 1/1/2004
From: Las Vegas
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sassiefire

I've talked to him, tried to make him understand it's not working for me. He says I am slave and it doesn't matter what I want, He will not release me. He has been my on line Dom for 9 months with no r/t and He knew from the beginning I have to have r/t. I am tired of the arguing, I just want to be free. What can i do? Please help!!!


You are going to get a different answer from everyone that you ask. Key word and trickt phrase here "On line Dom" Bottom line is a slave serves from her heart, yours is not in it. You are no more collared and property of him than you are of me. Tell him sorry. It is not our time and move on.



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and you will be found.
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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 12:08:57 AM   
Lashra


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Joined: 2/9/2006
Status: offline 		Come on your an adult. You tell him goodbye and delete him from your life, block him if necessary. A slave has ONE right (so many say) and that is to leave. If he acts this way online be glad you didn't get involved with him IRL.

Good luck,
~Lashra


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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 2:07:59 AM   
BitaTruble


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Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
Status: offline 		You argue with him, you have asked for release and been denied. You refuse to accept the denial and have posted here most likely seeking validation for a decision you've already made. No one but you can decide to take the actions which will free you. You know what a slave must do.. and you are the only one who knows if you are a slave to this man.

In my narrow little corner of the world, a slave would not be in a message forum seeking this sort of advice... that said, I have zero experience with cyber slavery so have no idea what sort of protocols the two of you have in place.

If you have given your consent to slavery conditional upon a no-release clause, then you have one of two choices.. break your word and renounce your slave status or endure. Choose wisely and choose well .. and next time, if it's r/t you seek.. don't settle for an online "Master" .. get out into the real world and go toes to toes with some flesh and blood.

Good luck with your decision - I wish you well,

Celeste



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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 3:28:31 AM   
KatyLied


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Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		Cease all contact with him, I think that will give him a clue as to your intentions.

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 3:54:39 AM   
MistressMaamNH


Posts: 211
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Status: offline 		He's right....he doesn't have to release you even if you don't want him to.  But seeing how this is just an online thing, it's all a fantasy in his head anyway. He can go on thinking whatever little fantasy he wants...and all you have to do is ignore him.  If you are truly tired of the arguing and just want to be free then simply do it. 
You've always had the power Dorothy..just click your heels....

MMNH


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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 4:03:05 AM   
DivaDuchess


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Joined: 8/17/2006
Status: offline 		You never changed your profile to reflect that you were 'owned' (online means nothing to me actually, I'm not interested).  Somewhere inside of you, you didn't feel owned.  I've always felt you cannot own, what you cannot touch.  Tell him you are breaking your 'contract' and next time ...

If what you seek is IRL ... then don't sell yourself short just to be 'owned' and settle for online, most don't even view that as real slavery.

My 2 cents



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Courage is not the absence of Fear,
But rather the judgement that,
Something else is more important than Fear.

The Brave may not live forever,
But the Cautious do not live at all.

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 4:11:03 AM   
SirLordTrainer


Posts: 820
Joined: 5/6/2004
From: Indy
Status: offline 		I dont believe in 'online' D/s.. it can serve for learning purposes and/or meeting people, exchanging thoughts and ideas and such but thats it. Shed that velcro collar and fly girl!

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 4:29:09 AM   
gypsylee


Posts: 293
Joined: 9/18/2006
From: Melbournia, Australia
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

...If he acts this way online be glad you didn't get involved with him IRL.


so you're interested in a r/t relationship and he isn't? but he thinks he has the right to enslave you? is that right? if so, what a pussy! and Lashra's dead right. sounds like a control freak not a Dom. pop yer collar babe.

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 4:34:31 AM   
Squeakers


Posts: 489
Joined: 10/3/2006
Status: offline 		Block him from messenger, block his emails and change your phone number.   

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 4:51:40 AM   
Iskander


Posts: 264
Joined: 9/26/2006
Status: offline 		Take the first line of your profile and make it your mantra.. "A slave must first care for self"...
Repeat this to yourself as you purge him from your mind and contacts...

Iskander...




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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 4:52:41 AM   
mstrjx


Posts: 2045
Joined: 11/27/2005
Status: offline 		The first phrase of your profile reads 'A slave must first care for self'.  This is called self-preservation, which, aside from what Lashra said as having the right to leave, is one of the things you must retain as a slave.

It doesn't sound as if 'you' are being 'preserved' in this relationship.

I, like the others, say to leave the relationship, but I wanted to point out that your profile had given you your own answer as well as any of us.

Jeff

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 5:30:35 AM   
LotusSong


Posts: 6334
Joined: 7/2/2006
From: Domme Emeritus
Status: offline 		 
Try the block option.  If you gave out your number.. there is a block option available also. He's a pixel for pete's sake.!
 
Unless there is something more to this situation that you have told so far.

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I'm not your type.
I'm not inflatable.


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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 5:32:20 AM   
mistoferin


Posts: 8284
Joined: 10/27/2004
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sassiefire

I've talked to him, tried to make him understand it's not working for me. He says I am slave and it doesn't matter what I want, He will not release me. He has been my online dom for 9 months with no r/t and He knew from the beginning I have to have r/t. I am tired of the arguing, I just want to be free. What can i do? Please help!!!


When I first read your post I thought it must be some kind of joke. You are a 47 year old woman according to your profile, so I am not sure I understand why you feel so "enslaved" by someone whose only contact with you is through a computer screen. As someone else here replied....hit the power button...or block/delete. Heck you could just ignore. Or better yet....just don't sit in front of the flickering light.

A few things from your profile that caught my attention:
quote:

I am married

Is your husband aware and consenting?

quote:

You can’t give away what you don't
have

Nope you can't. And you can't own what you don't have....which means you can't release what you never had either.

quote:

I had the right to remain silent.... just not the ability.

Find the ability, exercise that right. I am sure he will find that it is difficult to have a "relationship" with someone who doesn't type back.

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I must learn how to keep my mouth shut!!  

....and your fingers off the keyboard.

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If you pay attention  
long enough, life will teach you some truly valuable lessons.

Very wise...learn your lessons...from life....real life....not an online fantasy.

quote:

Damn, it was only a dream.

Yup....that's exactly what online is...wake up.



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~erin~

There are no victims here...only volunteers.

When you make a habit of playing on the tracks, you thereby forfeit the right to bitch when you get hit by a train.

"I did it! I admit it and I'm gonna do it again!"

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 5:32:42 AM   
Kalira


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Joined: 10/9/2006
From: Fort Wayne Indiana
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sassiefire

I've talked to him, tried to make him understand it's not working for me. He says I am slave and it doesn't matter what I want, He will not release me. He has been my online dom for 9 months with no r/t and He knew from the beginning I have to have r/t. I am tired of the arguing, I just want to be free. What can i do? Please help!!!

Umm, turn the computer off?
Block him?
Ignore him?

There are quite a few options open to you here

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 5:45:47 AM   
happypervert


Posts: 2203
Joined: 5/11/2004
From: Scranton, PA
Status: offline 		I suggest you try to find a real time dom who can slap some sense into you.

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 6:50:23 AM   
raiken


Posts: 868
Joined: 10/18/2005
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sassiefire

I've talked to him, tried to make him understand it's not working for me. He says I am slave and it doesn't matter what I want, He will not release me. He has been my online dom for 9 months with no r/t and He knew from the beginning I have to have r/t. I am tired of the arguing, I just want to be free. What can i do? Please help!!!


You know the mind can be a powerful creator.  i am sure you and he both have lived your fantasies with each other together in your heads.  But being stuck in your head (gosh don't get lost in there!) will not help you get back into your body.  To do that you need to move away from the tube and take a walk to the next munch or event, and interact with real folks who want to keep RL company with you.  Step out of that fantasy and say good-bye to it, and him, learn and move on. 

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RE: How do I leave Master - 10/18/2006 7:11:14 AM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		If there is no r/t then leaving is very simple.  Change screennames.
There is no release necessary if he has not taken the time to physicaly collar you. The beauty of the digital world is that if things arent working, and the other party refuses to acknowledge it, then you can just disappear. It will not be easy, since you are mentally connected to him, but once you break the communication the mental connection will fade as well.

DV

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I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

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VampiresLair

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