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RE: Anal shy - 10/31/2006 7:06:28 AM   
CrappyDom


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  From what i researched; the muscles in the buttocks are tight like a spring.  If you loosen them ( the anal muscles ) up with a little training (i.e buttplugs and anal vibrators) ; then you will have a much better time.



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RE: Anal shy - 10/31/2006 7:43:58 AM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		Somtimes anal sex hurt, your body just say no. The first time i tried it hurt so mutch, i dreaded it for years, but eventualy and whit some training i learned to love it, even when it hurts. Generaly relaing helps and calming your fears it is good your Master will not push to mutch for that can make the problem worce.

One thing, everyone say more lube is better, but i often find it to make it more painful as the penis have a tendency to swop in to fast instead of gliding in slowly, but that is probably just me.

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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 1:20:43 AM   
SlaveAkasha


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Status: offline 		All the advice is so much appreciated.  I am still dreading it though, can almost feel the burn as I type. 
 
He is going to be very patient with me, he is so very kind about it all.  He knows I am his to use as he wishes, but he would never hurt me on purpose. 
 
I will try to just relax and take it a step at a time..and try not to be so scared.
 
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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 3:59:29 AM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		Here is one idea, try to talk to one another, noet nessesary sex talk, normal talk to, while you are trying, so the the feel of the siuation will be calm and relaed, it is how my first suxsesful anal se happend.

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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 3:07:39 PM   
shadevarr


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Status: offline 		I have found that patience is the key and that the sub needs to be calm and willing to explore it. The initial discomfort can freak out some but I have found that after the 3rd time it seems that her body sorta gets used to it and it takes significantly less time for the pleasure to roll in.

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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 4:00:57 PM   
SweetCaleigh


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Status: offline 		This girl loves it! And would do it all day if i could, on my hands and knees and would get many orgasms. yummmmmmmmmm  

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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 4:19:42 PM   
BalletBob


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Status: offline 		I wish you luck. I LOVE BUTT PLUGS, though I have no Mistress now to tell me to do it for her.

Start out with a Small Plug. I used a small one to start, and it fell out all the time. I then made a Butt Plug Harness from some Red Vinyl to keep it in, till a friend told me the plug was too small.

I now use a medium plug and it feels so great, expecially when MADAM had me wear it to work. It feels so neat in all day, letting me know MADAM done that to me, and reminded me of it. Like LuckyAlnatross said, I too have to put the Medium Plug in, let it pop out, and then put it in again, till it feels right.

After you feel okay with the small plug, then go to a larger one.

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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 4:24:32 PM   
BalletBob


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Status: offline 		SweetCaleigh, Try walking around all day with a Butt Plug in. It feels so great, the way it MOVES around in there.....now that is YUMMY TOO !

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RE: Anal shy - 11/1/2006 4:31:37 PM   
MasterLarryPI


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Status: offline 		A few words of caution here.  If you are using a silicone butt plug DO NOT USE as silicone base lubricant.  You will feel extreme pain in the anus.  Ask any lubricant manufacturer about this and they will tell you the same thing.  In addition, it's the spincter muscle that is involved here, pardon the spelling if I got it wrong, and it needs to be relaxed.  The best way to do this is practice, start with a small size butt plug, with the appropriate lubricant, and work your way up the the larger sizes.  Wearing the butt plud daily is a very good idea, it will condition those muscles to having something there and ultimately anal sex will be more comfortable.

We have acquaintences that tell us that the orgasims experiences during anal sex far outweight the vaginal orgasims.  Our thoughts, GO FOR IT!

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RE: Anal shy - 11/15/2006 5:45:03 PM   
4UASUBSLUT


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Status: offline 		anal is wonderful.  let your master start you on your back with a small slim rubber butt plug and let him have full controll.  Plenty of jelly.  If he/she lets you you play with your ass.  Help them spread your ass open and put plenty of lub.  then get the big dildo and slide it in.  You will love it.  Try it with your hands cuffed and you cant move

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RE: Anal shy - 11/19/2006 12:32:55 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		I love anal, ive had twobad experiences in vanilla realationships where the man invovled felt fine to just whack it in with no warning !!! Suffice to say he didnt do it again after i took out my biggest dildo and returned the favour !!!
My only advise is loads of foreplay rimming and lube , poppers helped sometimes also lol and several bottles of red wine. I spoke to my friend who is gay and he says tht the key to it is relaxation and knwoing when topull back abit before pushing on.
My biggest fear used to be the 'what if i leave a mess' but then you have to think if your goin to put things up your bum then there is alwasy that possibility and it has never ever happended so far
Ive always found it gives me the most delicious orgasms and is one of the sexual acts that i find extremely intimate. The last time i did this the bloke involved hadnt done it before and was so gentle and slow at entering me by  the time he got fully in (a good ten/fifteen minuteslater) i was in happy tears havin a massive full body orgasm
Tonight i will be seeing my boy he hasnt done it before either and i am so excited   I will be giving him a nice pokey bum wank too first so he has an idea of how it feels and will proceed with the upmost caution and respect
As my friend keeps tellin me bum love is the way forward!!! ha ha

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RE: Anal shy - 11/28/2006 3:39:37 AM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		One time i almost tried it and it hurts like hell.....i have to say that it scares me alot.  I know that the time will come when Master will want this, but i trust him and will let things go.  A part of me is scared, but the other part is curious since i've heard that the anal orgasm are great and so different. 

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RE: Anal shy - 11/28/2006 4:18:29 AM   
timeoutgurlie


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Status: offline 		Sorry, I didn't read this entire thread, hope I'm not doubling up here.

For me what worked was what was listed by CrappyDom (for such a username, you're doing a damn fine job  lol), all of that is important, I think at least.

For me the penetration of Him was the real obstacle, finding a position that worked initially.  Traditional doggystyle, for me and a few friends, really, really, really is a more 'advanced' position.  We all agreed that being on top was definitely what worked for us. 

You may find that on your own though, for you it could be doggystyle and be perfection, but experiment a bit with some various ones, there will be one that'll suit your body and make it bearable, most likely very comfortable, and --hopefully-- enjoyable

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RE: Anal shy - 11/28/2006 8:23:58 AM   
MmakeMme


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Status: offline 		Don't start trying for anal right away. Get warmed up. And it would be wise if He would insert his finger or a well-lubed slimline vibe or dildo before putting himself in. Done properly it is a beautiful thing. Done improperly it's a pain in the ass.

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RE: Anal shy - 11/28/2006 11:21:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just wanted to add that Daddy and I have found that I am now able to have the most intense anal orgasms when He takes me in the missionary position and my legs are wrapped around Him.  For extra penetration, He puts my legs over His shoulders or has me cross my legs and they are kept between our torsos.  He likes to look me in the face as He takes me this way because He says that watching me have an orgasm this way, with Him pinning my arms down is sexy.  I don't know about that, my eyes usually "squench" shut when I come.  I know that I love having Him over me, holding my wrists down, and having tried doggy-style and missionary, I love both positions...  but the missionary tends to prevent "over-insertion" aka the ram-rod effect, and just lets me enjoy all the sensations and watch Him as He has me in the most intimate way I can imagine.

ps - missionary style anal sex also lets you do a little clit stim between your bodies, and there's absolutely nothing (as far as I'm concerned) like the feeling of having a well-timed clit inspired orgasm as you have an anal orgasm.  Sensory overload in the best way...  kind of what let us to buying a ball gag for me...  sometimes volume control on my own when that happens is just not possible.   

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RE: Anal shy - 11/28/2006 11:41:45 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		One thing you can do is play with your own anus when alone, relaxed and without any pressure to perform.  Explore your body, use your own finger... two... dildo, etc.  When alone you control the action, it's exploration not performance.  AND there is no law that says every woman has to give in to anal sex.  Like any other activity, it's not for everyone, but i really encourage you to try things on your own, get to know and love your body and its capabilities.

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RE: Anal shy - 11/28/2006 11:56:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		i have really found this thread interesting its not something i've tried thanks to the OP for bringing this up.
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RE: Anal shy - 11/30/2006 3:34:42 PM   
andreaC


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Status: offline 		Will have to try the position (leg over his shoulder).....thanks Daddysredhead  now i am looking forward to my first time.  Also, i am happy that it will be with Master......he knows all my fears and i will be very much prepared.  We both know that it might not work the first time, but we have lots of time to get it all the way

I too want to see his eyes......they already drive me nuts and i will admit that when i cum, i love it when he looks at me.........what a turn on

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