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What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You do it? - 10/23/2006 6:22:16 PM   
knees2you


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Status: offline 		What does Submission mean to You?
How does it make You feel?
Why do You do it?
 
Was at work today and was wondering,
these questions.
 
Do You do it because You feel alone?
Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?
Or because It always felt it was Human nature?
quote:

 
"I Found a Buisness, and Buisness is good."

 
Ant, & LilBecque
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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 6:29:55 PM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		great question knees~

my personal knee jerk response is, i was born this way.  Although like many here, i was born submissive; however, in my day-to-day living, (i do not have a Master and i am a 24/7 single mom), i have to be in control at all times.  i have to be the one in control in order to maintain my home life, my family's home life, my job, etc.  Even though i control every aspect of my life, i do it as a submissive because i am a submissive (if that makes sense).

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 6:35:42 PM   
juliaoceania


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From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		The word has two connotations for me

It is partially who I am, I am a submissive. I have this tendency and orientation even when I am not with anyone...

It is also my role in a relationship. I have chosen this over any other sort of relationship paradigm because it fits my nature.

It means I give deference to the dominant in my life. It means I enjoy and feel fulfilled by being guided and directed by my lifepartner. It means that I like to give control over to another in a power exchange.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 6:40:47 PM   
Supershovel83


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Status: offline 		Hey,
Being submissive to me, is like being very real.. i love to please my Master, and He looks out for the best of me... Submission has a very long heritatary line to it... my family where farmers... i was brought up in a yes mam yes sir kind of way... i am definitly a pleaser and go out of my way to make people happy. Having my Master gives me goals and a better means in which to strive for. Not only does my Master look out for our sake, but He look to improve me... submissives have several roles in this world... What do you think your true calling is.

    i'll go to quote somebody i really respect on this site. Have stable friends, not a stable of friends..
    Know your own heart and follow it..
Thanks,
pet

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 6:41:59 PM   
slaveaurora


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Status: offline 		Being submissive is who I am, it is my life.   I could not be anything else.
 
It makes me happy to please another, it fills my heart with great joy to see the smile on His face, knowing that I pleased Him. 
 
I need and long for the power exchange, for the mental control, the physical control, and the great amount of trust that requires is profound.
 
I am who i am, and I am most happy serving and pleasing another.
 
~aurora~

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 7:22:58 PM   
LaMspeach


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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?
How does it make You feel?
Why do You do it?
 
Was at work today and was wondering,
these questions.
 
Do You do it because You feel alone?
Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?
Or because It always felt it was Human nature?
quote:

 
"I Found a Buisness, and Buisness is good."

 
Ant, & LilBecque


Submission means that i get to be myself.  I dont  do it because I am lonely, afraid or because I cant to do it myself. I am submissive because it is who I am .

< Message edited by LaMspeach -- 10/23/2006 7:24:39 PM >

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 7:24:14 PM   
SlaveAkasha


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quote:

What does Submission mean to You?

It means that I give myself over to service to my Master.  It means that I put his needs first and do my best to please him in every action.  It's a giving of part of myself to another.
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  How does it make You feel?



It makes me feel good about myself, it gives me a peace in life, and an ultimate freedom.  I know that it helps complete me, by allowing these feelings I have to find a purpose. 
 
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  Why do You do it?



Why would I not?  It's a part of who I am, and what makes me feel more like myself than ever.  I love to see the smile on his face, and hear the pride in his voice.  To know that I mean so much to him, and he understands my needs and wants in a such a way.
 
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Do You do it because You feel alone?


No.  I guess before Master I was alone, but that is not my only reason for being with him.  I can be alone with myself and I am fine, but having Master enriches my life.. so why would I not be with him?
 
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Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?


Though I do appreciate very much that Master guides me, it's not a reason for being submissive.  My life would have went someplace, that is up to me.. no one can fix that in a person, nor should they feel like they have to.  I know that my Master will make sure I reach my full potential in everything, but the sun would have rose and set, even if I wasn't owned.
 
quote:

Or because It always felt it was Human nature?


Not sure I would say human nature.  I do feel I am submissive in relationships, though not in my vanilla life at all.  Although I do feel that this part does make my life better, because it adds to the other parts pretty well.  It sort of makes me a more well rounded person.  I can be in control of things outside of my relationship, yet give total submission to my Master in the relationship.
 
Akasha


 


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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 8:41:17 PM   
Owned1


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From: Toronto, Ontario
Status: offline 		I am slave to my Owner/Master. 

This is who I am ~ a submissive who has grown to be an owned slave. 

Why~ because once I found this dynamic and realized who I was and where I fit it Rocked my world.  Now with Master it makes me weak at the knees ;)

Finding my place has simply enhanced my entire life, it completes me.

Owned

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 9:17:14 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?

 
It simply means I serve as he determines I should ... not how I think I should or how I think is best.

quote:

How does it make You feel?
 
Grateful. Satisfied. Content.

quote:

Why do You do it?
 
Personal growth, being myself, discovery and exploration,to enhance our lives together as an M/s couple, to seek out new life and new civilizations, to boldly go .... oh, er.. n/m.


quote:

Do You do it because You feel alone?
 
No.

quote:

Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?

 
No. My life was and is fine. I'm very focused and had established myself long before we got together. I do believe it was part of his attraction to me in the first place.

quote:

Or because It always felt it was Human nature?
  
 
I don't know that it's human nature, but it's certainly part of my nature.

Celeste

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/23/2006 9:21:19 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Answering vicariously for Angel (hes on the phone with me at the moment)
He serves becasue he feels more comfortable when there is someone else making the decisions, and having the final say.  He does not have the personality type necessary to take the lead in a relationship, and prefers to be with someone who can mold him to what they want and make them happy.

To him submission is doing as I wish, becasue that is what comes naturally for him.  My happiness is what is important, and it is not hard for him to ensure it.  His only responsability from here forward, since he has ben given his collar, is to make me proud and happy. He does it well, and he knows it, but he is always striving to do better.

DV

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 6:38:13 AM   
realisticone


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Status: offline 		For me, submission is about strength.  Through submission I have learned to accept parts of myself I previously denied because I thought of myself as a "good girl".  Having a Master who knew me better than I knew myself allowed me to open up more to new ideas and accept myself for who I am.  There was nothing wrong with me before, but I found a new level of strength.

I believe a submissive needs to be happy with themself and happy even when alone long before they are ready to be submissive to someone else.  If a person becomes a submissive simply because they want someone in their life and will do anything to have it, they will end up with the wrong person.  If a person becomes a submissive simply because their life is going no where, they will find out that unless they find this before they get involved, a dominant will not be a cure all for all their problems.  Instead, there will be more problems to deal with.  A submissive needs to first be happy with who they are, have a fullfulling vanilla life and be strong, stable and self sufficient. 

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 7:09:53 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		Hello knees2you,

quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?
It means that I defer to someone else's authority, basically.

How does it make You feel?
Often... frustrated, irritated, annoyed, cross and appreciative.

Why do You do it?
Because I operate better with this dynamic and with this person. It's simple, it's clear-cut, it makes sense in this situation and it works. I'm not oblivious to the conditioning that's occured over time but it's all beneficial, exciting, frightening and challenging. Also.....of all the people I've ever come across in my entire life, he's the only one that has really *got a handle* on me. I probably do it because *he can*.

 Do you do it because You feel alone?
No, I AM alone and prefer alone, overall.

Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?
No, not really. I don't *need* guidance but I WANT *his* guidance because it's proved to enhance my life.

Or because It always felt it was Human nature?
No, it's not my *nature* to *be* submissive.....I have the capacity to subjugate my will , despite not liking it a fair amount of the time. I can see that I'm better off in this type of relationship with HIM.

quote:

 
"I Found a Buisness, and Buisness is good."

 
Ant, & LilBecque


Regards, agirl

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 7:19:06 AM   
imtempting


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Status: offline 		Well my submission means I can trust that person beyond any doubt.

It makes me feel good. Feels relieved.

I do it because I feel an urge to submit.

I do not feel alone. I have had many partners and I have many friends, In and out of the scene.

I do not need guidence persay. I would only let a partner direct my career if it was someone I was going to spend the rest of my life with otherwise I will still be in control of that sector of my life.

Due to having to do speech therapy I have always had to listen to women and obey their commends. As when I completed my speech work correctly i'd be rewarded and when I misbehaved i'd be punished.

I'm actually seeing a consuller as I have problems during sex as I only focus on the ladies pleasure not mine which sounds good in theory for women but when your partner does not orgasm it really F%^$k's up the relationship.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 8:05:52 AM   
Kalira


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From: Fort Wayne Indiana
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quote:

What does Submission mean to You?

I call it a giving over of myself to another.
quote:

  How does it make You feel?



Content, settled, happy, serene, complete.
quote:

  Why do You do it?

Because it fulfills a need within ME
quote:

  Do You do it because You feel alone?



Nope.
quote:

  Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?


Nope
quote:

  Or because It always felt it was Human nature?



Nope

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 8:20:55 AM   
Caitriona


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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you
What does Submission mean to You?


My submission is an act of love.  It means that I trust My Lord explicitly and am willing to give myself to him completely.  In the details, submission for me is also service.  I keep the house tidy, cook, tend to his needs, ect.

quote:


How does it make You feel?


Loved.  Protected.  Cherished.  Blissful.

quote:


Why do You do it?


It is a part of who I am, shared on a deeper level with only him.  It enhances my life and our relationship.
 
quote:


Do You do it because You feel alone?


I have never felt alone - far from it.  His collar is his touch on me when he cannot be present.

quote:


Is it because You need guidence because Your life was going nowhere?


I entered into this dynamic when my life was probably at its best and it has helped me get through some very difficult things in the last year of my life. 

quote:


Or because It always felt it was Human nature?


It is within my nature to be submissive.  For me, it is natural - it's not an absolute with everyone.


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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 8:43:50 AM   
sydney007


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i am a new guy from Nigeria and i will love to know a little about this forum so pls kindly reply me to my inbox here so that i will be able to know that u have read my forum,,,,,,,,,Thanks
Saheed.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 9:42:39 AM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

What does Submission mean to You?

 
 
it is the manner in which this slave relates to the world, and specifically, as Master's slave, the way this slave relates to His will and Our relationship.

quote:

How does it make You feel?
that she is fulfilling her purpose

quote:

Why do You do it?
 
it has been this slave's mode of reaction and ongoing training for as long as she can remember---anything else feels uncomfortable, an "act" or just plain wrong.

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Do You do it because You feel alone?


no, loneliness has never been an issue related to this slave's submission.

quote:

Is it because You need guidence because
Your life was going nowhere?


no, this slave's life has always been going somewhere!!!

quote:

Or because It always felt it was Human nature?
  
 
it has always been this slave's nature.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 9:50:50 AM   
daddysprop247


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From: DC Metro area
Status: offline 		like other have answered, i was just born this way. i didn't choose to be submissive...it doesn't turn me on...it's not a fun roleplay...it's just me. and i'm grateful that i discovered a lifestyle which allows me to just be me, without the persecution and senseless pain that accompanies being submissive in the vanilla world.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 2:24:11 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Submission means to me, is that i feel secure enough in my sense of self to give over control of that to another.  I was also born that way.

It make me feel happy content and very loved and gives me a chance to do what  i crave.

I would rather be alone then choose the wrong Master, i would not choose a Master just not to be alone.  I just happen to have a wonderful Master.

My life it totally on track i am going to college to get a degree having Master just makes life sweeter.

Nature is nature some are subs some are Doms make of it what you will.

Matt's littleone.

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RE: What does being Submissive mean to You? Why do You ... - 10/24/2006 3:19:56 PM   
wouldlike2


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Status: offline 		for me it is an act of Love...

i do cause it turns me on, excites me, makes me wet, set me in a wonderful state of insatiable desire, lust and freedom... and i am free to be what i am.....

and no - even when i may do disappoint some - i am not a born submissive and i will probably never become a slave ,-))

i am very strong and independent in my life

i do submitt cause i want it...

not cause i need it... and can not live without.. i want it.. like i want this One with every breath i take..

sounds may greedy.. but at least is happiness i am glad to share with an open heart  ,-))

pet

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