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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/8/2007 2:05:31 AM

CollegeConundrum

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I won't pile on like the others did; I can certainly understand why a man might be leery of meeting a woman off the internet. Considering all the horror stories we hear and all the urban myths, I can't see how so many are still eager and willing to meet so quickly. On the other hand, if you protect yourself properly and arrange public dates, there's no reason you couldn't meet after reading that first email.

My personal preference is the latter. I would much rather meet, get to know, and judge a person face to face, as I've said many times. You get the true story looking a person in the eye that you can't get by reading emails

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/8/2007 12:01:24 PM

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This started in October of 2006, over a year ago, and her profile is gone. Let's hope she hasn't wasted another year of her life waiting on this guy to meet her.

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/8/2007 1:12:40 PM

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How long is too long......thats a personal choice.

I find its better to talk on the phone asap that alone can make or break a meeting. If the conversation goes well then I want to meet and get a visual to see if I want to put energy into getting to know the sub.

Unless your Master is in a different country. Hes not interested in meeting. Search for another Master with qualities you would like. Chat with other submissives for referrals, go to local bdsm events, search the net.

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/8/2007 10:22:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

Probably because the post is from October. Just a word of warning, "true Dom/me"s don't go over well on these forums. There is no one answer that applies to all. We are an incredibly varied and somewhat schizo group like that.

Actually it is post from over a year ago... it is sometimes weird to read my words after a year has gone by... so much has changed since I wrote that post... like the feelings I had for my former dom were still pretty fresh when I wrote that post on this thread... what a difference a year makes, huh?

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 2:47:22 AM

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Well, it depends what you want. If you were looking for a real time Master, you should have met in person before submitting, I think. But if you're cool with online only suplemented with occasional meetings, a year isn't too long to wait. Hell, if you never meet him, it doesn't make that huge of a difference.
In the meantime, however, I would only stay if I was allowed another Dom who could do more than /flog me.

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 6:37:48 AM

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 8:36:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: Imsosly4u

How long is to long?

when your quit waiting and move on... then it was long enough!

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 10:59:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: Imsosly4u
How long is to
long?

No way would I wait a year. Unless there were scheduling issues, I probably wouldn't wait a month. And what's with "earning it"?

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 1:12:37 PM

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I agree with most here... A year is too long. Gleaning is done online... meaning, is there enough there to want to meet face to face? It's only in the face to face meeting that you can truly feel if there is a connection. The more I'm feeling a submissive, the sooner I want to have a face to face, sit down in a public place. If we are still feeling the vibe we go from there.

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 1:58:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterNdorei

i am willing to wager he is married, but even if he is not...

If a Dom is managing to make other things happen in their life, but can not manage to meet a submissive who has already proven herself, the sub will never be a priority to this man.

If the Dom is unable to make time for anything else in his life, and the sub is falling into that category, chances are they do not have the kind of time a relationship would need anyway.

There is no easy way out. i am sending best wishes and hugs your way...

Master's dorei

Yep...i know this thread is older than dirt. But i'm going to throw myself into the "that guy was/is soooooo married" hat.

A year? What a crock. Precisely why i have specific notes on my profile about wanting something REAL TIME versus this virtual...well...i'll be a nice submissive and not say what i *really* think of this online crap... (smiles sweetly)

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RE: How long is to long to wait to meet r/t? - 12/9/2007 3:29:12 PM

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Imsosly4u,

good nick!
post your profile
now to the advice, there is something missing, has there been an escalation in the relationship? ie screen to phone?
when in the same state and only 7 hours away,I suspect a problem, have you exchanged pics?
Personally I am in favor of extended building relationships before real time solely so she is fully acquainted with my demands and I with her needs.

My vote is your being played by someone who is not what he suggests he is.

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