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An apology for a really stupid post - 10/29/2006 9:17:39 PM   
subartist4dom


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Status: offline 		I will begin with a short apology for a post that caused quite a bit of unrest and negativity within the community.  It shouldn't have happened, but it did.  Even I am very displeased by all this and even though I shouldn't be the one having to apologize to everyone, I am.  Why?  Well its an issue that does not need to be discussed, but in light of a certain post this issue now has to be discussed.  So I will try to make this as painless as possible.

Many here don't know of my rather recent past before I met my master.  I don't have it in my profile nor do I bring it up much in posts.  However it will be this time and hopefully it will be the only time.  Needless to say I was in an abusive relationship with my ex bf.  He was controlling and when he didn't get his way he became violent.  He has bit me, kicked me, hit me and even slammed me to the floor.  I was too stupid to get away and had a little one with him.  I got concerned for my little one that I placed her with family which made my ex very mad.  The abuse got worse as he tried to kill me several times.  In one attempt my tailbone was broken.  It was the last fight where I ended up with a black eye and stabbed.  Sadly it didn't end there.  I kicked him out and went to the hospital.  When I got home I found my apartment destroyed and stuff missing.  I got online and IMed my childhood friend who is now my master.  He came over immediately and anything I could save I did.  The rest was thrown in the dumpster.  I grabbed my little one and moved in with master.  It was supposed to be temporary, but well shit happens.  My ex however decided to start harrassing my friends to find out where I was.  One of my closer friends finally told him since he was scared that he would be killed.  I can't blame him for it.  So since my ex can't get to me, he decided to have some fun online.  Too bad I changed my passwords on him.  Well except the one here, but I didn't use a name I normally used.  Again a friend of mine that was in this community told my ex my name on here.  So he decided to post some BS in here and rile people up.

And it worked if everyone can't tell.  He guessed on alot of it and made the rest up.  Ok, I figured lets change the password and cure his ass.  And it did work.  So I figured I'd just let things settle down and let people forget this whole incident.  Yeah, well that was till I got a card from my ex bf.  In the card he wrote that he loves me and wants to be back with me.  Claiming his heart bleeds for me and that he's been calling me, but I don't answer the phone.  But I love this part.  He signs it love you always into eternity, forever your cuddlebug. 

After reading that I just wanted to puke.  He didn't care about me when I was with him.  He didn't care about our little one and well had he really loved me he wouldn't have been so abusive.  I can't help but shake my head and feel sick that he even exists.  Honestly I dunno whether to sit here and cry, or shoot his ass the next time I cross paths with him.  What he did here to the community under my name is absolutely unforgivable.  He mislead everyone and caused many to be upset.  This I am sorry for.  I know I was pissed over it and even after stating the truth, many still didn't know what to believe.  I don't blame you.  I'd feel the same way.  Hopefully everyone will have a good day.
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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/29/2006 9:23:05 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		And this is all supposed to make us MORE confident that you're telling the truth and trying to calm the drama down?

Trust me, the best thing to do is act like it never happened and either create a whole new name or only make posts that have very solid and very clear support that you are a mature and stable adult.

No one will remember that other thread in two weeks except for an occasional chuckle.  This sort of posts just keeps the drama going and doesn't lend any credibility to what you're saying now.

Please, just let it go- WE don't really care.  Please just get your life stable and secure.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/29/2006 10:06:22 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I don't even remember the thread now, never saw it

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/29/2006 11:37:07 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Didn't see the thread but i do care that you are safe now.  As for why you are posting this i think i understand and hope that it has given you some anger,hurt and frustration release.  Take care of yourself and little one.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 2:15:00 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I sincerely doubt that anyone was measurably upset...........it's just an internet forum and your *ex* hasn't done a thing to the *community*.  No-one cares to any extent, other than a minor diversion for a few minutes. Believe me.

You don't owe anyone here a thing.

agirl

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 3:48:20 AM   
imtempting


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Status: offline 		People would care as much about the post as they would care about abusing me.

Just forget about it...

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 4:07:16 AM   
SirLordTrainer


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Status: offline 		Only thing I can say is that you need to work on your jealousy issues. And apologize to that girl while your at it, and to your Master if you havent already. I feel for them both as well I couldnt own a submissive like you, let alone a ''slave''. Good luck

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 4:19:18 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		I don't have a clue which post you are talking about.

However I would suggest you pick your friends more wisely. Anyone who would give out information about you to an abuser is no friend at all.

If you are being abused, file an injunction. If you are being harassed by an abuser for info, do the same. If you don't do something about taking legal action against this guy he will be free to go out & continue this with others. Try living with that on your conscience.

Oh yeah... this little bit about receiving a note from him, why did you open it? By getting away from this guy you have taken back your life & removed his negative control... why the hell are you giving it back to him?

An injunction would prevent him from messaging you or emailing you & if he were to do so then he would be in violation & could be arrested.  


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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 4:33:16 AM   
Silvermoon


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Status: offline 		Nothing like digging yourself deeper and deeper and deeper.

Let it GO...You were wrong, end of story. Let's close the book

Silver.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 4:39:39 AM   
onlythewindknows


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Status: offline 		i would strongly suggest calling your local domestic violence hotline and see if you can get some outside support in all this. you have a lot to work through.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 4:45:49 AM   
Kalira


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

And this is all supposed to make us MORE confident that you're telling the truth and trying to calm the drama down?

Trust me, the best thing to do is act like it never happened and either create a whole new name or only make posts that have very solid and very clear support that you are a mature and stable adult.

No one will remember that other thread in two weeks except for an occasional chuckle.  This sort of posts just keeps the drama going and doesn't lend any credibility to what you're saying now.

Please, just let it go- WE don't really care.  Please just get your life stable and secure.

I pretty much agree with LA.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 5:00:45 AM   
Contesaluv


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Status: offline 		Bobby McFerrin said it best in the lyrics of his Song:  Don't Worry, Be Happy!

In every life we have some trouble, but if you worry you make it double.  Don't worry, be happy!  Don't worry be happy now!

Don't sweat the small stuff and what and how any post affects anyone here is small stuff.  We are each responsible for ourselves, at least we should be and we're all human so we're all proned to have our moments where others will think WTF was that all about.  Then we shake it off and move on.  So, don't worry, be happy and safe!

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 5:18:16 AM   
Aubre


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Status: offline 		Please do contact law enforcement and do have a restraining order filed on this person. I'm tired of seeing people take abuse after abuse after abuse, black eyes, broken bones, and still put up with it. Do it if not for yourself, for the child.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 5:22:45 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirLordTrainer

Only thing I can say is that you need to work on your jealousy issues. And apologize to that girl while your at it, and to your Master if you havent already. I feel for them both as well I couldnt own a submissive like you, let alone a ''slave''. Good luck


SLT.. I think she was stating that her ex filed that foolishness under her name.. There was no such incident if I recall the other post.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 6:48:23 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		A restraining order is a useless piece of paper.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 7:54:59 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Just keeps getting deeper and weirder.........

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 8:13:18 AM   
Lorelei115


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Status: offline 		I guess I missed all that "unrest" and "negativity". I think the post actually made more people shake their heads and laugh than anything else.


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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 8:44:52 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		You could allow the thread and your drama to fall back a few pages.  There are new people here every day and they don't know about your drama.  But if you want to keep reliving it, we'll help, we've helped others who can't allow their dramas to die down too.  This bump is for you.

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 8:56:55 AM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		deeper and deeper!  Throw away the damn shovel and start over. 

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RE: An apology for a really stupid post - 10/30/2006 9:09:35 AM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		I don't get it...  who blew who for how many jellybeans?

Yours,


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