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Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 11:57:20 AM

littleone35

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My Master recently had a tooth extracted and there was an infection and his mouth is very sore and he has some swelling. I hate seeing him in pain and even though i hate pain i would take this pain from him if i could.

Do any other subs/slaves wish they could take any pain their Dom/mes has as ther own to take it off them?

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:00:05 PM

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Absolutely without question. I handle pain much better than he does, but even if I didn't, I love him, so seeing him in pain makes my stomach hurt.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:02:22 PM

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I don't think this wish has anything to do with Ds or Ms...it deals with us not wanting those we care about to hurt. Sometimes, though, they have to. Drive me crazy, I tell you!

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:07:37 PM

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Again, this isn't a master/slave thing- this is wanting to give to those around us and prevent harm/pain to them.

I have often told my partner that there are days when, if I could, I would reverse his divorce with his ex-wife, be their therapist and help them have a lifelong happy fulfilled marriage- even knowing it would mean not having all that we have together and being who I was before we became involved. I do this because I know his divorce was and is still very hard for him, hurts him deeply and would prefer him to be happy and settled rather than have my own pleasure.

And then on other days I tell him how grateful I am that his wife made the worst mistake of her life by letting him go and come into my arms and I'm way too selfish to let him go from me.

Whether it's taking the pain from my cat who is suffering from a tumor, my mother when she endured her cancer treatments, my nephews when they fall down...yes I would take it on myself. Sometimes I do- but I've learned to be careful with that sort of thing as it can actually be worse for us both in the end to actually take away someone's pain.

What the meaning of pain and suffering is in our life and how we deal with it may be the endless unanswered question, and I don't know if I TRULY had the choice whether I'd give up my partner to his ex-wife to save his suffering- but I think having grace for others is a very good trait to have.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:15:01 PM

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Nope. I could see myself caring for him, bringing ice packs and scotch (or whatever it is you do to ease the discomfort). But I don't want his pain.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:21:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35
Do any other subs/slaves wish they could take any pain their Dom/mes has as ther own to take it off them?

As others have said, it's not necessarily about being submissive so much as caring about another person. People who love their parents or their children or their pets may have those same feelings about seeing them in pain. A dominant can feel that way about his or her submissive.

For me that urge comes from my dominant nature. I feel a responsibility to protect those who look up to me. If I can, I will stand between them and harm even if it costs me personally. That's what a responsible alpha does. Even if it was physically possible to transfer pain from one person to another, I'm not sure I'd allow a sub to do that for me. I would be failing him as a protector if I allowed it, so I probably wouldn't unless there was a compelling reason that I needed to be functional right then to fulfill some other important responsibility.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:49:27 PM

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I know that is what people do when they care about others, but my questions was not about others i was asking this in a D/s sense.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:52:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35
I know that is what people do when they care about others, but my questions was not about others i was asking this in a D/s sense.

Matt's littleone

It's no different in Ds as it is in any other relationship where you care about the other persons well being as far as I can tell. There's a reason people always say "Even though I'm a master/slave/sub/insert label of choice, I'm still just a human."

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 12:59:35 PM

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Let's see, since I have been involved with sinergy he has had a skull fracture and dislocated his ribs twice. I feel very bad when he is hurting. He has also had some sort of virus once too, and if I could take it away I would. He loves that nurturing part of me that wants to mother him and coddle him when he is under the weather.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 1:10:26 PM

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Mmmm....

I don't know...

I don't think so.

He has really bad luck. He was born with a really bad case of migrane, he's always bumping against things, and he gets hit by runaway cars...

Nop... I rather cuddle his pain...

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 1:15:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
Let's see, since I have been involved with sinergy he has had a skull fracture and dislocated his ribs twice. I feel very bad when he is hurting. He has also had some sort of virus once too, and if I could take it away I would. He loves that nurturing part of me that wants to mother him and coddle him when he is under the weather.

Sheesh lay off the force play for awhile ;)

One of my ex's was what I call a "disaster story guy" in that he had a truly endless supply of awful and entertaining stories of hospital stays, illnesses, problems and breaks. He didn't believe me when I said I'd never had bronchitis and only had the flu once.

Of course the fact that I've known enough guys to have a NAME for that sort of guy might let you know the type I attract...

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 2:40:29 PM

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I have often told my partner that there are days when, if I could, I would reverse his divorce with his ex-wife, be their therapist and help them have a lifelong happy fulfilled marriage- even knowing it would mean not having all that we have together and being who I was before we became involved. I do this because I know his divorce was and is still very hard for him, hurts him deeply and would prefer him to be happy and settled rather than have my own pleasure.

And then on other days I tell him how grateful I am that his wife made the worst mistake of her life by letting him go and come into my arms and I'm way too selfish to let him go from me.

Sounds like me, on the one hand I know that when a marriage fails it is a bad bad thing, but then again if it had worked out I would not have him. The way I resolve that conflict, never be the cause of that kind of pain to him if it is humanly possible to prevent it.

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Sheesh lay off the force play for awhile ;)

It makes it worse that he is not a masochist like me, sure I will take his pain

(just kidding)

quote:

One of my ex's was what I call a "disaster story guy" in that he had a truly endless supply of awful and entertaining stories of hospital stays, illnesses, problems and breaks. He didn't believe me when I said I'd never had bronchitis and only had the flu once.

Of course the fact that I've known enough guys to have a NAME for that sort of guy might let you know the type I attract...

Well he has had one coma that lasted several days that took a few years of rehabilitation to overcome, much of which was self motivated and self started. He has had several broken bones also.

He is a very physical person and pain does not scare him much, his reaction is "It will hurt until it doesn't"... but he still enjoys special treatment when it hurts (don't we all?). I treat him special any chance I get anyways.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 6:38:57 PM

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Deffinetly not a D/s thing... There are a few people that I wish I could take the pain from if I could, and I know they feel the same way about me, My Master only beeing one of those people.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 9:40:34 PM

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quote:

I could see myself caring for him, bringing ice packs and scotch

Damn Katy, you can nurse me anytime!!

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 10:16:22 PM

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Littleone, I'm sorry He is in pain, but it won't kill Him :) It's not pleasant to see someone you care about in pain. Don't wish the pain upon yourself ... being a marter is not what it once was ... I'm sure He was prescribed some effective pain medication. We all know many men are a bit wimpy when sick ... (Let him milk the situation and play nurse to him ;) )

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 10:39:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Do any other subs/slaves wish they could take any pain their Dom/mes has as ther own to take it off them?

As much as I am sure Angel would love to keep me from having to experience pain, I would never ask him to wish it on himself. As active as I am in the martial arts, bruises, bangs and soreness is commonplace. I hurt most of the time, and when I combine that with the arthritis in my hips and spine and Hed have a lot of taking to do.
I prefer he just learn how to actualy make the discomfort less than wishing he could take it away.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/1/2006 10:39:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

My Master recently had a tooth extracted and there was an infection and his mouth is very sore and he has some swelling. I hate seeing him in pain and even though i hate pain i would take this pain from him if i could.

Do any other subs/slaves wish they could take any pain their Dom/mes has as ther own to take it off them?

Matt's littleone

littleone, your Master will get better in a few days....my Master will never be better, He is always in pain, 24/7. I do my best to help Him cope with it, and there are things we can do to ease it, but there are days when He has the grumps and I know it is not with me it is when the pain is really bad. That's when gentle hugs come in to play, which makes us both feel better.

Even if I could take the pain for Him He would not let me. I am under orders not to get sick

and to take care of myself so that I am able to be the best carer I can be. There is no point in us both being miserable

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/2/2006 1:26:23 PM

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I am sorry to hear that Rayne and i hope he had more good then bad days. The dentist did not give him any pain meds baby's which is why he was in pain but he is much better today thank you everyone for your support and caring.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/19/2006 6:24:48 PM

Lenis

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My Master had a total hip replacement over the summer and there were times I wished I could take his place, though I think it was partly out of selfishness because I was so upset, constantly having to wait for news of His recovery and where He was being moved this week, and when He would be better, compounded by the fact that I couldn't visit Him and cheer Him up for help in His recovery because I lived over a thousand miles away and couldn't afford the plane ticket.

Fortunately He's much better now and we'll be living together soon so no more of that annoying not being able to make Him feel better next time He's sick or injured.

I think it's not just a D/s thing, but I'm not sure I'd have felt so concerned if He'd not also been my Master.

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RE: Master in Pain - 11/19/2006 8:05:23 PM

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I think that we all wish to take pain fromthse that we care about...if i could take the pain from my child as he recovered from a fall i would...as far as the exhubby's vasectomy? NOPE HE DESERVED AND INFECTION too! i know how un red like to say but hey everyne has one person that wthey wish could suffer just a little bit!

well have a nice day
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