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dannyteasetoy -> RE: No Strings Housework (12/15/2006 11:49:03 PM)
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I think part of the problem lies in that the three words "no strings housework" simply is not descriptive enough and it's pretty easy for people on both sides to read different things into it. It all boils down to proper communication.
"No strings" implies no sex, no dom play and no dress up or extra effort on the part of the Mistress.
It also implies that the Mistress, to some extent, *be* a Mistress. Otherwise the sub would just provide domestic services to a random stranger. Often that means simply being there and having some level of verbal interaction rather than leaving an assignment note and disappearing for the day.
For me, housework and CFNM go hand in hand, as I strongly enjoy the humiliation dynamic of being uncovered and vulnerable in the presence of a dominant female, even if there is no actual play involved. Also, it's a passive form of chastity play as I know full well that sexual release is absolutely out of the question and always will be.
Is that no strings attached? Maybe not, but it may depend on your definition of a "string".
I might desire some level of normal friendship with the Mistress I am serving. No one on either end is a BDSM robot. At the end of the day we are all just regular people. But I do not look at housework as gateway to other activities. Male subs who push at that aspect give all of us service subs a bad name and that makes me sad.
My profile isn't complete and my pic has apparently not been approved yet, but I have the "No Strings Housework" box checked off and now I'm conflicted on whether or not to uncheck it!
of course, this is just my second post, my opinion may be worth every cent you paid for it [:)]
edit: I unchecked it when I noticed the simply "Housework" was a choice...
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