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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 1:14:06 AM   
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If a man requests to be on the receiving end of anal play (fingers and/or objects up the ass), do you view him as being less masculine
No, I don't see any man as being less manly because he enjoys playing with me in whatever way we choose.    M

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 2:24:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont think it makes a man less masculine i think it makes him clever to realise that playin up there will heighten his arousal as hopefully you will tickle his walnut as my friend calls a mans gspot lmao   i think its only some men who feel it would look like that becasue its something that can still seem a bit taboo to some people 

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 5:10:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it is just another sex act.  I really enjoy fingering a guys ass while i'm sucking him.  Especially if I am told to do so.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 7:34:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: prettiekitten

Aren't opinions great!?!?!  To me, anal penetration is a form of punishment. It represents a violation of an area that is not supposed to be penetrated (it can and usually does cause tearing and permanent damage). While most of us enjoy it, I cannot fathom putting anything huge up a man's ass and still maintaining my respect for him. There are, however, other ways in which to stimulate those nerves on a man (licking) that are not invasive, and, in my eyes, not as submissive.  


Yes, they are great.  And you are entitled to yours.

BTW, speaking for myself, I have engaged in anal penetration of several women...with my own personal equipment and toys of variable sizes...I am happy to report that these women are all alive and kicking today and not one has ever come back to me and stated that they were torn or suffering permanent damage from such play. 

Damn....I AM good...~look of wonder upon my face~.

An aside...sorry Noah...I really meant to just go with the stars and leave "the word" out.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 7:38:43 AM   
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 9:08:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: happypervert

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Actual quote from ex-  "I thought only gay guys liked that."

Was he skeptical when you explained to him that you really weren't gay?



Well, that actually caused sort of a rift between  me and my fiery chicano lover, until he finally broke the news that he was leaving me for a slightly more "distinguished" man, somewhere in the town of Scranton, Pennsylvania.  All was eventually forgiven when Esteban told me how well this fellow could please a guy by giving an absolutely delectable rimjob AND handjob at the same time....causing the hot-blooded queen to cum bucketfuls.  My only reply to Esteban was  "Go to Scranton, Pennsylvania if you must, and take your dream man by the hand.......this wonderful, tall, cat-loving, distinguished gentlemen, and live out the remainder of your days, while I watch from the sidelines.  Love means letting go when you know the time is right."

Never again will I be able to pass by a Pottery Barn, or ride through the red-light district of P-Town, without thinking of my lost love, and his new life in Scranton, Pennsylvania.
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 9:38:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I enjoy strap-on play (the very few experiences I have had) ...

and yet, the thought of a man doing that to me, or any sort of sexual contact with a man for that matter, does NOT appeal to me in the slightest.

I like women ... particularly sexually aggressive women.

But TreSwank, I will say that asking on THIS forum is a little like preaching to the chior.  I think a larger section of the general public may not agree.  For me, I would not be staying long with a woman who had sexual hang-ups.  If it were not an activity that she wanted to engage with me - that's one thing.  If she thought it was somehow sick, wrong, or brought into question my committment to the relationship - that would be a whole different issue.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 9:43:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, the woman that I was dating was a "submissive"  (I think I learned of her TOTAL submissiveness after the fact), with a super-high tolerance for pain.......but, for some reason, the idea of a man doing anything less than dominating her at all times made her cunty.  Now this girl claimed to be about as open-minded as they come, and maintained a "switch" BDSM relationship with a WOMAN before she met me......but for some reason, the idea of a guy enjoying ass play the way that her ex did totally blew her mind.

This sort of helped to solidify my common-sense opinion that "Switches work best with other switches."   It's probably the only way to find sexual completion, unless your "other-half" is malleable enough to assume other roles on occasion.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 9:52:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		In reply to the original question...

If a man enjoys anal play with his female partner using fingers, toes toys, food or whatever else two creative folk may come up with it only means one thing... he enjoys anal play (well that & he hit the lottery in finding an equally pervy/kinky female sex partner)

If the man enjoys all the above & desires to have a real, in the flesh cock penetrate his ass... he is either bi-curious, bi or gay & just hasn't met the right man yet.

But at the end of the day... what does it all matter. So long as you are happy with yourself & with those who you know well enough to engage in this sort of activity, what does it matter what the rest of the world calls it anyway?

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 10:47:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Only if the end of the fingers belong to a man and the object is a dick.
Other than that...it's all good.


I agree with her reply

the male G spot is in the anus area just about where the prostrate gland is it is supposed to make for a more intense ejaculation. 

Patina  

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 10:56:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: patina

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Only if the end of the fingers belong to a man and the object is a dick.
Other than that...it's all good.


I agree with her reply

the male G spot is in the anus area just about where the prostrate gland is it is supposed to make for a more intense ejaculation. 

Patina  


  Ahhhhhh...........so this means that men who want stuff up their asses are actually MORE manly.  I knew that the sudden longing to chop down trees and gut ferocious beasts with little more than plastic dinnerware and hellfire machismo had a connection with my longings for anal pleasure.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 10:58:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TreSwank

Ahhhhhh...........so this means that men who want stuff up their asses are actually MORE manly.  I knew that the sudden longing to chop down trees and gut ferocious beasts with little more than plastic dinnerware and hellfire machismo had a connection with my longings for anal pleasure.



YOU have obviously NOT seen Monty Python's Lumberjack Song.
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-1337058712815976138&q=monty+python+lumberjack&hl=en

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 11:02:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think its becoming pretty common for men to want to try the prostate thing. So nope. Anals no longer the playground of the gay alone. 

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 11:03:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TreSwank

      If a man requests to be on the receiving end of anal play (fingers and/or objects up the ass), do you view him as being less masculine, or perhaps suspect that he's been lying to you about his sexual orientation?  This is actually more of a sensitive, personal issue that I had with an ex..............so I decided to throw it out in front of the general public on a free BDSM forum.

    Actual quote from ex-  "I thought only gay guys liked that."


I have often said that the only thing going in my ass, is my submissive's tongue.  *grin*  And I do very much enjoy that, on occasion.

Intellectually I can accept that a hetero guy may like other things up his ass.  But on a more visceral level, I think I would have doubts about a guy who likes having his ass fucked with a strap-on.  The mental image that conjures up is neither masculine nor dominant.

Dan

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 11/7/2006 1:42:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		One thing they forgot with that "anal pleasure = gay" analogy.  Gay guys also give each other blow jobs.  And they really enjoy it.  So........every guy who likes getting a blow job must be gay????

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 12/11/2006 10:49:52 AM   
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 12/11/2006 10:52:03 AM   
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 12/11/2006 11:18:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Having taken it up the endzone, I know how it feels.  It wouldn't make me wonder a bit about his sexuality if he wanted that.  I am all about pleasure.  If I think it's great why couldn't he?
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 12/11/2006 11:38:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: somethndif

Intellectually I can accept that a hetero guy may like other things up his ass.  But on a more visceral level, I think I would have doubts about a guy who likes having his ass fucked with a strap-on.  The mental image that conjures up is neither masculine nor dominant.

That's a shame.  What could be more masculine than being secure enough in your masculinity to admit that you partake in such an activity because you find it pleasurable and don't care what closed-minded people think about it?

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 12/11/2006 11:48:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, indeed, what could be more masculine than bending over the basin, the scent of vasoline in the air, the streeeetch of the rubber gloves on my slaves fingers.  Ah, I can feel it now: the digging begins. 
Deeper.
Deeper.
Yes, that's the spot, the sweet center of my universe.
How can one not find this manly?

(ahem)  Pennsylvania eh?  I'll be on the next plane out.         


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