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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 10:21:11 AM

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So is there a forum devoted to this subject?

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 10:42:21 AM

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There is a yahoo group called WomenBendingMenOver that you might want to check out.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/WomenBendingmenover/

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 11:06:16 AM

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OMG, I just realised that gay men have sex with PENISES! I have a PENIS.... OMG I'M GAY! Somebody pass me those rainbow flag hotpants.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 12:19:49 PM

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If a man requests to be on the receiving end of anal play (fingers and/or objects up the ass), do you view him as being less masculine, or perhaps suspect that he's been lying to you about his sexual orientation? This is actually more of a sensitive, personal issue that I had with an ex..............so I decided to throw it out in front of the general public on a free BDSM forum.

Actual quote from ex- "I thought only gay guys liked that."

Not at all. Your ex is ignorant.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 12:42:41 PM

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Fabulous question, Tre Swank. I posted a thread called "Compromising" Positions awhile back on a very similar matter as I'd had a discussion with somone who was insisting that a male could not be Dominant and be f*cked by a woman. I disagree, my life experience proves out my disagreement. The person challenged me to post the thread. I did. That person never posted and pretty much everyone agreed with the assertion I made.
I think men enjoying anal play is hot! I love f*cking men (If they're men I'm in relationships with; I don't just run around randomly pegging dudes, though if I had a biological penis, I am not sure I could resist smacking people with it but that's another thread entirely, lol!). I think it's an acceptance of another way to gain pleasure, an acceptance of self; actually, I view it as more masculine in some ways. It can be a way of being served or of serving, depending on the person/dynamic, or it can just be dandy fun (Again, for me, within the context of a relationship). There's so much pain in life, I see beauty in optimizing one's pleasure. Also, from my limited experience, men who are open to a woman f*cking them with a strap-on have been more cognizant of being careful/adept/etc. when the tables are turned; it's nice when someone understands that such a thing, even for those experienced and adept at being receptive, ought be finessed rather than treated with a battering ram mentality.
So, my Monday assertion is: yaaaay for anal pleasure all around!
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 1:00:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: DavanKael
snipd....
I don't just run around randomly pegging dudes, though if I had a biological penis, I am not sure I could resist smacking people with it but that's another thread entirely, lol!).

Ah, good times....

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 1:25:21 PM

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There's more to being a man than having a penis and putting it in a pussy.

There's more to being a woman than having a pussy and filling it with a penis.

Who gives a tinker's damn what gets a man's rocks off in bed? Sex is irrelevant to both masculinity and femininity.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 2:03:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TreSwank

If a man requests to be on the receiving end of anal play (fingers and/or objects up the ass), do you view him as being less masculine, or perhaps suspect that he's been lying to you about his sexual orientation? This is actually more of a sensitive, personal issue that I had with an ex..............so I decided to throw it out in front of the general public on a free BDSM forum.

Actual quote from ex- "I thought only gay guys liked that."

I enjoy it and find it very erotic so it makes perfect sense to me that my Master/partner would also. Anal sex isn't exclusively about sexual orientation. I can understand some men feeling that it is exclusively about sexual orientation if they were unsure or not comfortable with their sexuality.
So no, I do not feel that a man who enjoys anal play/sex/discovery is any less of man for his preference.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 2:40:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

I posted a thread called "Compromising" Positions awhile back on a very similar matter as I'd had a discussion with somone who was insisting that a male could not be Dominant and be f*cked by a woman.

Is it bad that I thought of you when I saw this thread?

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 2:45:38 PM

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As far as I know, there is no button up a man's ass that makes him gay when pushed.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 2:49:39 PM

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I love this thread! I absolutely love serving my Daddy in this way and find it amusing that anyone would think it related to ones sexuality. There is nothing more fabulous than being on my knees worshipping his cock, except for when I play with his ass while I do it. I swear I have never seen a man cum so good as he did, the first time I employed this technique, wow! It never fails to amaze...

Why limit oneself based on what society deems perverted or homoerotic?

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:15:54 PM

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One has to wonder how delicate the masculinity of a man who wonders if a sex act involving a woman makes him gay. I always thought gay guys wanted sex with, well, other gay guys? Am I wrong?

I wonder if gay guys sit around wondering if licking a man's nipples makes them straight? Spooning? Sheesh.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:34:01 PM

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Hi, Nihilus Zero----
There's a number of replies that come to mind as I am chuckling to myself.
< doing my best to look stoic > No, it's not bad at all. :>
Davan
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:41:38 PM

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As far as I know, there is no button up a man's ass that makes him gay when pushed.

Just wanted to say I loved that comment. :D I have had guys who liked their ass played with, They were varying from very straight to as straight as a TS male-to-female gets. Why should girls get away with having all the fun of both their holes being stuffed while a man is judged if he so much as likes having a finger or tongue caress or "violate" his ass?

My two cents, you can judge the world to pieces, but you will always come out being wrong along the way. People need to not keep trying to build boxes to stuff somebody in. Labels are nice when you are categorizing to see if you might get along or make a good partner with them, but they are not good to judge someone just by a few things that they enjoy.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:44:28 PM

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Does wearing a cock strapon make me a male? Oh.. god... I may need therapy...

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:46:24 PM

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Does wearing a cock strapon make me a male? Oh.. god... I may need therapy...

*Passes Lockit a beer and a hunting license*

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:48:24 PM

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Hey Otter... there's a great place by Red Feather's... hehe Saw my first moose there... hey... maybe I should run for VP... I don't like hocky though...

Thanks for the beer and I can get my own damn license... hehe but do they give them to crazy ass bitches?

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:48:31 PM

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Lol, Loves the sarcasm... So I can be a guy and then turn back into a female as simply as that, eh? Wait, I like cocks up my ass, does that make me a gay Male while I'm wearing a strap-on? :D Pass me a rainbow pin to wear then.

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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 3:58:34 PM

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Suggesting we all get out our strap-ons and biologically attached appendages and go penis-smacking rather than pondering our masculinity of femininity. It'll be the new craze; we'll start a revolution! Hey, it could lead to world peace, who knows?! LOL! This thread is a wonderful distraction from work! :>
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RE: Anal Play and Masculinity (A Question to Women) - 10/27/2008 8:36:44 PM

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As for "less masculine," the majority of gay men I have encountered exude more masculinity then many hets. Maybe it has something to do with excess testosterone. Watch some gay porn sometime. Note how the male bottom at least trys to be manly.

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