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Sirssweet -> getting naked for the first time (2/3/2005 12:08:54 PM)

I am new in the lfiestyle but have been blessed to meet a wonderful Dom. I am chubby; he is not. We will be getting together soon and I admit to being more nervous about showing him my naked body than I am about the flogger and cuffs. He swears he is enchanted with me and my body will not offend him.

Has anyone ever had "bodfy embarrassement" adn hwo did you deal with it. Thanks!




Mercnbeth -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/3/2005 12:33:06 PM)

Sirssweet,
Telling you not to worry is akin to telling a first time bungee jumper; "Don't worry no one has died - yet!"

Assuming you have been honest and he knows what to expect when he sees you, trust that he is telling you the truth. Trust is the most important aspect of a lifestyle relationship, and your concern is a good place to begin to have trust in him.

Besides, the most important part of the body you are bringing to the meeting is your mind. Most Doms are more interested in what's between a subs ears then any other part of their body.

Have fun, enjoy the nervous rush of energy at the thought of losing your lifestyle 'virginity'.




proudsub -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/3/2005 1:55:21 PM)

This article and replies may help you feel better about your body:

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Jeshy -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/3/2005 1:57:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirssweet

I am new in the lfiestyle but have been blessed to meet a wonderful Dom. I am chubby; he is not. We will be getting together soon and I admit to being more nervous about showing him my naked body than I am about the flogger and cuffs. He swears he is enchanted with me and my body will not offend him.

Has anyone ever had "bodfy embarrassement" adn hwo did you deal with it. Thanks!


Ohhh, I'll be getting together with my Domme as well. And I've been worrying about the same thing as well. But she assured me that she thinks I'm beautiful and all that jazz. Mercnbeth is right, just trust him. I trust my Domme! Whee!

Now I'm just worried about not being able to please her...but that's a whole other topic.




rubytuesday -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/4/2005 10:17:02 PM)

Sirssweet - i know exactly how you feel and the only way around it is to just do it - I found that by being honest online and saying hey Im not small and petite and these are some pics of me and if you dont like them thats fine - well it did make it so much eaiser - in fact the Dom i played with for awhile didnt seem to be turned off by the fact I am a BBW and it certainly didnt make for any difficulty in play. I did struggle when he told me i was sexy and all that sort of thing but then thats my own personal hangup actually beleiving it for myself.

Id love to know how you get on - and good luck - you will be fine - if you need any reassurance please contact me.

smiles
ruby




lookingwithin04 -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/4/2005 10:23:29 PM)

I am also chubby, I always have been since child hood and getting naked for someone new never gets easier from person to person.

I have been with Master for a year and a half, we see each other ever month and a half or so for anywhere from 2 weeks to over a month, and it's hard to take my clothes off that first night no matter how use to it i am and no matter how many times i've done it before. It's hard and the only way i see of dealing with it is loosing a bit of weight. I tend to cover myself up when naked, hiding my chubbyness but when we are not scening i am permitted to wear clothes and i appreciate and am thankful for that because i think that this will be an issue that i as well as many others in the lifestyle will always have a problem with.




BeachMystress -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 12:52:36 AM)


You need to keep in mind that not everyone's idea of beauty is skinny. A lot of men prefer BBW. Some men seek out SSBBW. You are someone's idea of a prize. Never forget that. Do not ever let yourself fall into the Madison ave trap of judging your worth by your clothes size. Your worth comes from the type of person you are and how you live your life.

This lifestyle is about trust. This is your first act of trust.. believing him when he tells you he is enchanted by you and wishes to see and use your body. Quit second guessing him. He knows what he wants. What he wants is you. *smiles*




typesgirl -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 5:34:17 AM)

Everyone has given such good advice. Let me just add that after feeling the same way with my Master, having unveiled my body to him I've never felt so beautiful. It did take me a little while to learn to accept that He liked what He saw but once i did it was so freeing.
I feel worshipped and adored, sexy and attractive. But i wouldn't feel those things if i hadn't taken the risk. It's well worth it.
Good luck




onceburned -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 6:38:26 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: typesgirl
But i wouldn't feel those things if i hadn't taken the risk. It's well worth it.


Yes, absolutely. I was very self-conscious of my body's imperfections and felt a certain dread about revealing it. But doing so, and gaining the acceptance and the approval of my dominant was very liberating. It was an anxiety lifted off my back and I felt better about myself as well.

I think you will find it to be a healthy and a helpful thing. [:)]




softysub -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 9:12:30 AM)

I am a BBW sub and it was the same thing for me the first time my Dom saw me naked. But i was honest with Him so He knew what to expect and He was great about it. He always undresses me now and the way He does it, i dont feel shy.

So its like Mercnbeth said, if you have been honest with Him, then things will be just fine.

Have fun and enjoy [;)]

softysub




Shayna -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 3:34:21 PM)

quote:

You are someone's idea of a prize


Beautifully put :)




velvetvixen -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 4:49:19 PM)

If He is enchanted with your body, then you should not be ashamed of it either.

It IS that simple.




strongnsubmissiv -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/5/2005 5:37:03 PM)

I know exactly how you feel sweet. At one of the few play parties i've been to, the Domme i served wanted me practically naked for the entire evening. Although it was a little easier to deal with, because it was at her request and i had no say, the notion that i'd have to reveal myself to others i did and didn't know was nerve wracking indeed. I'll admit it's something that i still wrestle with.

Here's something i think about alot, and it often helps....

If you've ever been to a party, have you ever noticed somone larger than you, confidently flaunting a half naked body? I know when i see that i say to myself, "good for that person, they are having such a good time, i wish i had that kind of confidence." It's almost like being self concious about dancing in a crowded room because you think everyone is looking at you. The truth is, have you ever looked at someone, who couldn't dance, or who was half naked and a bit on the large size and been repulsed by what you saw? I know i haven't. It's funny how we seem to always ask ourselves "Oh my God, what will people think of me?", when honestly nobody is noticing what we think is the most noticable. We're our own worst critict.

People won't remember you for how bad you "think" you look, but they'll certainly remember you for how much fun you're having.

(still doesn't mean the next time i'm collared, cuffed and half naked in a public place that i won't be sweating bullets... so you're not alone.. lol)

sns




liltxsubby -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/7/2005 9:57:39 AM)

i had posted a response to this a few days back but it seems to be one of the many hit by the thread/email muncher so i'll post again.

I had this same problem the first time i was to get naked. It might help if you get a webcam and let him see you naked through it first. Somehow it's not quite as frightening when he's not actually standing in the same room (at least it was for me). My reasoning was, if he sees on wecam (which does not paint the prettiest picture) and still wants to see the real thing live and in person, then i'm just too hard on myself (who, me? hahaha). Now i sometimes wonder what i was worried about If he likes the way i look, why worry what anyone elses thinks? Besides, as he says "more cushion for the pushing", and him grabbing my hips and pulling me closer certainly never gets any complaints from me.




panthergoddess -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/7/2005 10:32:32 AM)

I went through the same fears...I really thing we all do in some form or another.

I found that blindfolding me works rather well in that situation.




Sirssweet -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/10/2005 6:37:21 AM)

To all those who were so kind to respond to my desperate question: let me tell you that my first encounter with my Dom was better than anything i could ever have expected. he was truthful yet kind and assured me that me and my body were "just right". But i want to thank all who provided words of wisdom and comfort. Bless each of you.




Sirssweet -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/10/2005 6:37:33 AM)

To all those who were so kind to respond to my desperate question: let me tell you that my first encounter with my Dom was better than anything i could ever have expected. he was truthful yet kind and assured me that me and my body were "just right". But i want to thank all who provided words of wisdom and comfort. Bless each of you.




slavedesires -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/10/2005 7:36:51 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirssweet

I am new in the lfiestyle but have been blessed to meet a wonderful Dom. I am chubby; he is not. We will be getting together soon and I admit to being more nervous about showing him my naked body than I am about the flogger and cuffs. He swears he is enchanted with me and my body will not offend him.

Has anyone ever had "bodfy embarrassement" adn hwo did you deal with it. Thanks!


It's always hard sweet. Trust his words, his trust in you, his respect for you.
i found out later He was just as nervous, but in the fact that He thought i would not like Him and come to realize He was not the superhero most girls think Doms are.

Enjoy and have fun!! [:)]

Master Damian's shy
(who is also "chubby" and He continues to encourage my exercise and diet regime, which i began before i even met Him)





subbiejenn -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/10/2005 7:27:40 PM)

I haven't read all the replies to this yet but this is my thoughts :)


Don't worry about it! Noone is perfect, we all have our flaws and not everyone thinks skinny is beautiful.

i for one like BIG Men -- so the perfect GQ model is nice looking for me but not who i would want as a Dom/Lover.

Just be you and i am sure He will love it :) and if not then it wasn't meant to be anyway --

Hugs!
~jenn




subbiejenn -> RE: getting naked for the first time (2/10/2005 7:28:51 PM)

see as always i am late!!

glad it all worked out :)


wish you the best always

~jenn~




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