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DiurnalVampire -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 7:13:21 PM)
Unfortunately, Sissify, you are not playing to the best crowd. While there are a few of us out there that do have a marked interest in CDs, its not a popular choice. In the scene as far as I have bothered involving myself, the majority of the subs that were sought after were the good looking, stereotypcially masculine and the pretty boy types. None of that appeals to me, personaly, but my lifestyle friends often did seek out those types. I was the "odd duck" looking for effeminate, young looking skinny boys rather than the muscular ones that were parading themselves around. If I was going strictly for loks, those were my choice, and if I, heaven forbid, wanted a conversation, I usually scared half of them away. The pretty boys at functions were wonderful eye candy, but usualy not good for much else. My humble opinion, of course, but the ones that knew they would be getting the attention becasue of their looks tended to have shitty attitudes. A sub with an ego can be a very unattractive thing, and I saw alot of them. DV

sissifytoserve -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 7:19:03 PM)
Thanks for sharing. Its not looking good...the more i think about it. I might as well accept it. You have to deal with what creation has dealt for you...and in my case it is to deal with the things I can't control or try to eliminate. Trying to change it has only brought me more trauma in the long run....even being single is less painful.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 7:20:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire <snipped> My humble opinion, of course, but the ones that knew they would be getting the attention becasue of their looks tended to have shitty attitudes. A sub with an ego can be a very unattractive thing, and I saw alot of them. DV Ditto

sissifytoserve -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 7:25:43 PM)
Hmmm...well sometimes an ego has to be there to keep yourself from being abused over and over again. Ive seen some people in my life who can't trust anyone but animals/pets because they have been hurt way too many times... and you can really see that in them. Granted..if you have an inflexible ego....Dom OR sub (and there are some dommes here with huge egos) its unattractive in any respect.

demistress -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 10:39:23 PM)
I will admit, I will "play" with attractive male subs for MY pleasure sometimes, as opposed to unattractive male subs who I play with only for the money. I am never a cold bitch domme, it's not in me, and just because I'm not sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean I'm not having a nice satisfying time, but as for getting me all turned on and excited, some subs do it for me just by being naked in front of me, and others..... don't at all. A hot sub with no brain, or personality will still find himself booted out, while a less attractive male sub with a brain and personality will find himself invited back, and/or befriended. But a hot sub with a brain and a personality...... well..... YUMMY (btw, this goes for the girls too)

liks2plzlf -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 10:46:38 PM)
Is that any differant than the "hot" female Doms getting most of the subs. Do they also have a shitty attitude? I think an ego in a Domina is to be expected to some degree, since they are who we subs so desperately want to meet.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 10:52:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf Is that any differant than the "hot" female Doms getting most of the subs. Do they also have a shitty attitude? I think an ego in a Domina is to be expected to some degree, since they are who we subs so desperately want to meet. Oh, most definately. The hot doms and dommes who get all the attention always have shitty holier than thou attitudes. I am used to that, and I avoid them. I do not consider myself a hot domme... never have and never will. Attractive, yes, but since I dont ted to flaunt it at public gatehreings, I dont ge the attention I cold. Its human nature, the more attention someone gets, the more they are likely to start believing it is owed to them or coming to them. When they start taking the attention for granted, their attitude suffers. I dont think major egos are attractive in ANYONE sub or dom/me DV

sissifytoserve -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/10/2006 11:20:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf Is that any differant than the "hot" female Doms getting most of the subs. Do they also have a shitty attitude? I think an ego in a Domina is to be expected to some degree, since they are who we subs so desperately want to meet. You know... my opinion is this....I would be much more happy in a dom/sub relationship with a woman who could truly show her dominance by the content of her character...how mentally/spiritually strong she is..over me...and how strong her devotion and love is for her sub...as well as how natural/true the arrangement is. If its all talk and "obey me because I am a godess"..based on a lie...I am not interested.

subrob1967 -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 2:55:34 AM)
While I understand you're searching for the "perfect Domme", one that not only embraces your submissiveness, but also accepts your need to dress, you may be asking for too much. IMO you need to figure out which is more important to you, dressing, or serving, because it's obvious you're not finding one who wants the whole package. With me, it was serving, and I found a Dome (actually a Dome/Dome couple) who accepts my need to dress on occasion, but would kick me to the curb if I expressed a desire to dress more than once a month or so.

sissifytoserve -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 3:09:16 AM)
Looks like i'm out of luck then. To each their own. I can compromise...but not to the point of where I am sacrificing my SELF. Perhaps your crossdressing is more a FETISH than part of your persona.

TxAllieGrl -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 5:23:43 AM)
One thing I noticed is an overall "poor me" attitude - that won't get you anywhere at all.

Morrigel -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 6:14:06 AM)
"Hot" people of any sex and orientation get more "action", yes. So long as "action" is defined as "interaction with and attention from fairly superficial people". What that has to do with the search for love or the price of soap on a rope, I have no idea. [:D] --M

thetammyjo -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 6:33:47 AM)
It depends on the context. I've had several men and women both ask me if they could play with Fox, talk to Fox, heck I've even had two women just ask if they could look at Fox for a while. Apparently the rest of the world agrees with me that he's pretty. But Fox doesn't see that himself. The result is that he'll often carry himself in public in an overdramatic way that can surprise people or in a very shy way that makes him seem unapproachable. The weird result is that more people approach me about him than approach him. This just feeds into this belief that he must be unattractive in some way or that he is only valued for being my property not for being himself. Yeah, we deal with self-esteem issues with someone in my household ever freaking day.

Dragonskiss72 -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 6:43:18 AM)
For Me I like all sorts. Eye candy is all well and good but if they dont press My buttons that's all they will ever be. Give Me Grissom over Brad Pitt any day! Oh btw I am VERY turned on by men in make-up, so long as it is done well - nothing worse than tango foundation

degradess -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 7:04:49 AM)
I like cds..I find that hot in some guys if they have a reasonably bright mind and decent personality.

Lorelei115 -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 7:07:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dragonskiss72 For Me I like all sorts. Eye candy is all well and good but if they dont press My buttons that's all they will ever be. Give Me Grissom over Brad Pitt any day! Oh btw I am VERY turned on by men in make-up, so long as it is done well - nothing worse than tango foundation Giggles madly And I thought I was the only one who thought Grissom was the hottest thing on tv!

Dragonskiss72 -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 7:43:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lorelei115 quote: ORIGINAL: Dragonskiss72 For Me I like all sorts. Eye candy is all well and good but if they dont press My buttons that's all they will ever be. Give Me Grissom over Brad Pitt any day! Oh btw I am VERY turned on by men in make-up, so long as it is done well - nothing worse than tango foundation Giggles madly And I thought I was the only one who thought Grissom was the hottest thing on tv! lol My hubby just offers Me crackers each time it comes on (as in I wouldn't kick him out of bed for eating them). I like quirky rather than pretty. pretty is all very good to look at but I like intelligence too. And humour. especially warped humour lol

MzTlaz -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 8:44:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire The hot doms and dommes who get all the attention always have shitty holier than thou attitudes. OK....this actually bugged me. I guess I fall into the "hot" Domme category...at least that's what I'm told constantly but I certainly don't have a "shitty, holier than thou" attitude. I didn't create my looks...genetics did, though I do work hard to keep my self in shape. I find a lot of Dommes who may not class as "hot" by the majority have a lousy attitude towards me, they avoid me, don't talk to me or make any attempt to actually get to know me, apparently they feel quite justified to judge me based on my appearance. Those who don't give me the cold shoulder and get to know me usually end up as good friends. DV...maybe, as it's very possible we will meet as Vegas is my closest community and I am a member of the TNG group there, you will not judge me instantly and actually take the time to get to know me and maybe you'll be able to take out the "always" in your opinion. Do I get approached more often because of my looks? Sure...and there are two sides to that, the downside being that I get a larger percentage of shallow people interested in me. Will I take a "hot" sub over a plainer one? For me it all depends on personality and chemistry....and some of my past choices have made people ask what I was thinking because the guy wasn't at all "hot", not who they expected me to be with. As for CDs....I have/do play with them, some are great and cherished friends. Would I be in a long term relationship with one? Honestly, I don't know. It's come up a lot in the past couple of years as I've met a couple of CDs who I have found very attractive and compatible...it's a new idea for me and I'm still figuring it out. I'd hate to start a relationship and not be able to deal with the crossdressing factor....also I need to make sure it is something I am totally comfortable with before I do something that might end up hurting someone I care about.

jimbo747 -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 10:03:16 AM)
In agreement with you. Taking an inventory assessment here on CollarMe. Some incredibly attractive Dommes nestled here with the classy tactful downtoearth personalities and anything but holier than thou attitudes.

jamesthehumanrug -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/11/2006 12:01:01 PM)
greetings,mz,L,taz you certaily are fantabulous looking ,in a non chalaunt' magnetic way;however, i would think ,if i saw you, that you can have and choose anyone you wanted ,so i usually don't like to beg ,however, it is a point or two for me ,to score one, just by making at least 2 maximum glances;to be polite;you exspect it anyway; and i dont want to make you angry at the end of the nite; you knowing i was there; and that i ignored you;is a faux pas ;it would be like ignoring a huge mob figure;STUPID; and on the other point .... about other tops ;well;personally i hang with people who make me look good; naturally;if i'm fat that month; i feel skinny and more comfortable and conficent ,picking up people with huge people around me as friends;and; i dont get the shallow bit;some people just dont have the capacity for love and you should be able to see it;but,did you ever think others dont talk to you ,not only cause, of unwanted compettiton ,but ,simply ,because they are shy ,another word for stupid /not knowing what to say.....,if i may say mistress you are a strong vibe ,and i melt away into nothing viewing your stance; i would die for you ;IS THAT SHALLOW !?!

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