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Morrigel -> RE: Do physically "hot" male subs get more action? (11/18/2006 6:48:57 AM)
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ORIGINAL: AlexAussieSub
But if this footy player guy had started doing something like saying he was attracted to dominant women because all women were horrible, gold-digging bitches and at least Dommes were honest about it, or writing crappy poetry about how he couldn't find a lady to chain him up, and then got around sooking about how he couldn't find a girl who liked him for anything except his money, would you still have wanted him?
*chuckles* Darlin', I hate to tell you this, but...the beauty of being a chauvinist piggie is that he could have been doing all this and more and I wouldn't have noticed a bit. He certainly DID think that all women were stupid and/or greedy generally, he was just smart enough not to advertise these opinions in my presence and still expect to get laid. [;)] Also, should point out that his orientation was generally much more dom than sub; he approached me initially as a vanilla player, and when he realized how kinky I could be he assumed at first I would be sub.
Anyway...I hate to disappoint you, but it really was a very shallow interaction from my end. We had a few dates, I had a wonderful time playing with his body, we parted ways on friendly terms, and that was that. I found out later what he was like in the rest of his life and dealings with women by spending an evening with his closest male friend, actually. It was quite the humorous eye opener, believe me! [:D] We had a great long conversation about our mutual acquaintance with a good deal of laughter and a few drinks.
Anyway...in his normal life, this man had a lot of sexual power and he used it pretty ruthlessly and shamelessly. He had zero respect for women generally and I was no different from the others, from his perspective; the only differences were in my response to his usual gambits. I later recognized that he was trying to run the same game on me that he had on many others--the lies, manipulation, "player" garbage--but he had backed off and we didn't date again after he realized that I was not going to hold up my end of the con. I was not getting emotionally involved or "losing my head" over him, which spoiled it for him in a variety of ways.
Games like this only work when both parties are willing participants, and in this case, I was just the wrong woman for it. I'm not by nature submissive and it isn't one of my personal weaknesses and fondest dreams to fall deeply in love with a physically perfect man. The game would have worked beautifully if he had some of the qualities that actually DO bowl me over as a woman--for example being intellectually brilliant, articulate, funny, empathic, spiritually attuned and wise, etc.. I have certainly been played by a man before, I just wasn't wired the right way to be played by this one. [;)] To me, a perfect body is just a fun toy, not my heart's deepest yearning.
--M
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