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BeachMystress -> RE: RUDE submissives (2/7/2005 9:55:55 AM)
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Unless he found all 100 and queued them up, you're forgetting the time to find them also. Thinking about it, 12 hours for 100 subs is in the realm of form mail with small personalizations. Making a letter personal is more than telling the sub that you like their photo or their interests sound good. A well written letter of intro takes me quite a while. Back when I was doing such things, I'd easily spend an hour on a profile, picking out the reasons I felt we were similar, telling the submissive about myself and asking questions based on the information in their profile.
Someone else mentioned that finding 100 people who are compatible is pretty amazing. Thinking about it, finding them In twelve hours is a miracle. The more this thread goes on, the less I believe this person has a reason to be unhappy. It is beginning to become clear that substandard effort was put into the contacts, no matter the protestations to the contrary. I am with Topcat at this point. I'd like to see one of the actual "personal" missives he sent out.
Now, I'm going to give you some unasked for advice Don
1) No matter how much you'd like it to be so, putting a title in front of your name doesn't make you a Dominant. Submissives are very well aware of this. They are used to people who wish they were Dominant trying to convince them to sub to them.
2) If your communications do not indicate you are Dominant, they aren't going to take you seriously. Let me give an example of non Dominant communication. "Hello Slut, You interest Me. Write Me now!" When you do not know a submissive, you have no right to refer to them by anything other than their ID. You also do not have rights to give them orders, correct their behaviour or expect anything from them. I'm not giving an example of Dominant communication. You either know how to do it or you don't.
3) Your profile is the main window into your mind that a sub has. Fill it out better. Give an idea of your experience, who you are and what you expect in a partner. Do not turn it into a ramble or people won't finish it. One thing to keep in mind.. you are selling yourself to prospective subs. (just as they are selling themselves to prospective Dom/me) Would you buy a car based on: Great car, six years old, drives well? Or would you buy one that describes the car, tells what upgrades the car has had and paints it in glowing colors? Think about it!
4) Learn how to control yourself before you expect to control anyone else. We all are human and get frustrated. Your first post is explainable and excusable. The way you responded later was not.
5) There are way more men in BDSM than there are women. There are more male subs then Domme. There are more Dom than female subs. It is the way it is.. if you're male, you have to stand out in some way to attract the females.
Why do I get the idea that this advice will neither be appreciated nor heeded? *sighs*
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