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physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:45:57 AM

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Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man?

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:51:03 AM

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You can want what ever you want to want

ok that even made my head hurt

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:51:37 AM

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If your looking for a fatboy, here I am..........

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:52:18 AM

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i know i can want what i want, but i'm really getting tired of being called a gamer and fake when i wont meet someone who is 300 lns! just ranting, thats all

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:54:17 AM

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Trust me I understand!!!!

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:54:35 AM

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I would have to say it's personal preference, I mean I think we all have something.

I tend to like women shorter then Me, I'm taller then average so in that sense most women are shorter then Me so I'm ok. I also suppose it's keeping an open mind for all I know there might be a women taller then Me which is perfect.

I'm quite happy with the shorter women I hope to have in My life :)

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 10:55:04 AM

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Oh come on, you're tougher than that. Make a disgusted noise and move on.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 11:14:48 AM

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Theres nothing wrong with subs not wanting bigger Doms. Its all in the matter of how you voice your opinion. A Dom saying they arent fond of BBWs doesnt sound disrespectful. A sub that doesnt want a "Fat Dom" does. Perhaps rewording your dslike might make it go over a little better. You prefer smaller builds... something that doesnt make it sound so shallow. After al, since you have absolutely nothing in your profile about what type of Dom you would prefer, you cant expect the larger Doms to look and automatically understand they arent your type.
If the size is the problem, and you are getting told so becasue you are mentioning that in your replies to them (which is where it must come up) why not just say you dont think your a good match and not go into details. That way, they wont give you a hard time about your reasons for turning them down, its just a no thank you and move on.

Just my humble opinion
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RE: physical attraction - 11/15/2006 11:18:30 AM

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I am a man who has "extra baggage" but it so dose not mean that I am a weak or a stupid man. I like your style fleshslave. I would of like to meet you. Send me a message if you like. Yes I am average so what the hell what. I have other attributes about me that will blow most subs or slaves away. And before you think that It a "size thing." Ahh no that is personal. On a similar note I have been told that I have a magic tongue. Also I conceder myself to be very intelligent. So what I lack in attraction and all of those hollow subs or slaves that look to physical attraction will not nor could not know what it means to have more or give more then just beauty.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 11:21:42 AM

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You can want what-ever you want-no-one's oppion matters other than yours as long as your choices only impact on you, of course.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 11:30:52 AM

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i know i can want what i want, but i'm really getting tired of being called a gamer and fake when i wont meet someone who is 300 lns! just ranting, thats all

Where as when people tell me I am a gamer, I laugh at them and say yeah, I been a roleplaying game storyteller for over 25 years. What's it to you, fat boy? Afraid of someone with a creative intellect?
Physical appearances aside, there are practical reasons to want someone who is physically fit.
As a Dominant, I expect a slave to manage physical tasks safely, without huffing and puffing and having to sit down in the middle of doing the dishes. I want a slave who I can actually move to the toilet if they get sick and need that sort of care.
And just simply from practicalities in the realm of play, I want to be able to go out and purchase a few rolls of saran wrap and have them last more than a single bondage scene. If I want to use liquid latex, I want to buy it by the quart, not the gallon...
I like to go horseback riding with my slaves...and a 300 lb person can neither ride in the saddle or safely run alongside the horse.

The list just goes on and on of why an obese person isn't going to be someone I will pick to interact with.
Sounds to me like you're being real..and they're pissed because you won't fake it.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 12:14:30 PM

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as for nothing in my profile about what i am looking for, i say clearly i am not looking for 24/7 and i can't relocate, but i still get messages asking for that. so i honestly don't think it would matter if my profile said i wanted a fit man.

Elegrea, thank you Ma'am.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 12:19:29 PM

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How do you feel about relocating to Minnesota and realizing your dream of 24/7 then?

Write me a 40 page love note based on this premise and have it on my desk tomorrow morning......................

Then again it could be just a little male test on the order of the tests that females give out to men all the time, to discern whether you have a sense of humor, or; as had been alluded to in another thread, you are a democrat.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 12:56:52 PM

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Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man?

I'm not sure how/why or what you base your observations on in making that statement, but I think everyone, Dom or sub should be able to ask for what they want and it should be ok to do so. The only reason I can think of that anyone might think differently is maybe they believe that because you are sub you dont have a choice?

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 1:09:11 PM

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i know i can want what i want, but i'm really getting tired of being called a gamer and fake when i wont meet someone who is 300 lns! just ranting, thats all

Ahhh............ well I'd say thats just their insecurities, which I can totally understand. I am a BBW sub and as such I dont tend to approach anyone. I figure IF they are interested in BBWs they will find me - and they do! LOL
Often people would rather believe you are rejecting them because of their size (which may well be the case and it does sound as if you are - and I make no judgement thats your choice to do so), height, race etc than perhaps admit its might be their personality etc you are rejecting.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 1:14:45 PM

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Why is it that it is ok for a dom to not want BBW but it is not OK for a sub to not want a fat man?

Why do you ask? Your profile says you are 5" 4", 124 lbs.? Just a scientific inquiry?

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 1:16:00 PM

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Who is telling you its not Ok?

Apparently its Ok to you.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 1:22:55 PM

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If you dont mention it in your profile, then exactly why are these men getting the impression you arent interested becasue they are bigger people? Are you telling them that in your reply, or are tey assuming it and then giving you hell for it.
You arent complaining about being called a player or a fake becasue you cant relocate or you arent looking for 24/7, just becasue you dont want someone big. If they are specificaly pointing out that reason, then you must be saying something to them.

I would perhaps take a look at how you are stating your objection and see if maybe thats what is getting the responses it is.

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 1:26:42 PM

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Your not a gamer nor a fake for not accepting anyone whom you are not interested in ...

the ones that say you are, are just sad people that can't get anyone.. it is sad that they bother You .. My daughter does not have time to have a serious relationship in Her life so She does not want to take personal slaves .. She pro's and that’s all she has time for a impersonal once a month client and only one afternoon a week she puts aside for this .... for now

yet some guy continually calls her a slut and whore ... he has different names he changes and makes other profiles to harass her ... last one was bostonslvboy ... it has been sad and I feel sad for this person .. She because of this person does not pick up Her own emails and has asked that I do so .. She has Met a lot of submissive’s at the Play Parties that I host and has Made good friends with a few of them and also many Dom friends ... they all realize after they meet her that She barely has time to breath with her busy schedule never Mind date or train ...

All in All there are cruel people in every walk of Life ..

all should remember before they make Cruel comments

YOU may Meet UP with someone at sometime THAT you said Cruel things to ... that is embarrassing in the least ...

do not worry what others say .. just be yourself and BE PICKY

I am .

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RE: physcial attraction - 11/15/2006 1:33:33 PM

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Where as when people tell me I am a gamer, I laugh at them and say yeah, I been a roleplaying game storyteller for over 25 years. What's it to you, fat boy? Afraid of someone with a creative intellect?
Physical appearances aside, there are practical reasons to want someone who is physically fit.
As a Dominant, I expect a slave to manage physical tasks safely, without huffing and puffing and having to sit down in the middle of doing the dishes. I want a slave who I can actually move to the toilet if they get sick and need that sort of care.
And just simply from practicalities in the realm of play, I want to be able to go out and purchase a few rolls of saran wrap and have them last more than a single bondage scene. If I want to use liquid latex, I want to buy it by the quart, not the gallon...
I like to go horseback riding with my slaves...and a 300 lb person can neither ride in the saddle or safely run alongside the horse.

The list just goes on and on of why an obese person isn't going to be someone I will pick to interact with.
Sounds to me like you're being real..and they're pissed because you won't fake it.

ROTFL - right on - ahem - Ma'am.

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