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I haven't read all of this thread because after 68 postings, it would simply take too much of my time, but i did read the initial thread and some of asilown's posts that have been interspersed throughout the thread. My impression is that asilown is greatly disturbed about something. and he is using this forum to vent simply because it is available. His real problem may be hooked to the original thread, where-in he stated that pro Dommes are really all amateurs. Yeah, right. But then it might be deeper than that.
At any rate, i'm going to put in my 2 cents worth in response to his initial post, even though many others have already taken fairly hefty swings at it. Twenty years ago i met a pro Domme who i most definitely fell in love with. Was She in love with me? i am quite certain that the answer to that one is "NO!" However, She was indeed something very special. She was exceptional at Her craft, and knew virtually every facet of Female Domination, including a warehouse full of techniques to truly humble and ensnare a male. Was that Her only goal with me? To simply ensnare me? i don't think so because She treated me differently than She treated others (at least She claimed that She did, and as trust is a fundamental part of a D/s relationship, i trusted Her implicitly).
Yes, she charged me for sessions in Her dungeon, but we also talked dozens of times on the phone, and She never charged me a penny for any of those phone calls. She sent me postcards when She went on vacation (!), and many letters telling me about some of the ways that She tormented others. She also told me many times that She missed me, and loved having me in Her dungeon to play with. My "tribute" was only about a third of the amount that She demanded from others because She understood that i was an underpaid government employee, and that satisfied Her. Not once did i spend less than three hours with Her, and that was always Her choice, not mine.
On the other hand, i have spent time with a few other "pro Dommes" who couldn't tie a knot at all, let alone do it 1/5th as well as the Mistress that i loved, which would have been enough to class them as an expert. i had never met anyone like Her before my first entry into Her dungeon, nor have i met anyone like Her since then, and i miss Her a great deal, but i screwed up royally and haven't been able to visit Her since our last encounter, 8 years ago. She lives on the west coast while i am marooned in the middle of the island known simplistically as the midwest, a barren wasteland of conservatism and 19th century thought processes. And after all this time, i still think about Her daily. She was absolutely a professional Dominatrix, and was astoundingly good at all of Her skills, especially tying slaves or submissives up or whipping them exactly the right way.
And ultimately, SHE was the best Dominatrix in the world... in my opinion!!! But that is precisely the point, isn't it? We are all entitled to our own opinions about the people that we interact with and deal with. But we are not entitled to make a carte blanche statement that insults a group as a whole. That is bigotry, no matter what the sheep's clothing might look like. It is wrong. It is insensitive. It is insincere. It is hate-mongering. It is narrow=minded to the n-th degree. It is hypocritical. And most significantly, it is totally unchristian.
i suppose that this is still not Shakespeare, but it is probably a wee bit more inspired than the writings of asilown, which seem to be deliberately aimed at contentiousness. (i have to admit, i have my share of bigotries, too; for example, i am an "educational bigot" of sorts. Modern "standards" in education, are waaaaay too low, and consequently benefit no one. In my opinion, those who eschew a decent education and its rewards [which are not always monetary, believe me!], are short-changing themselves and cheating the world, as well as themselves, out of their real intellectual capabilities. However, i am not so much of a bigot that i don't recognize and accept that some people have attained impressive levels of enlightenment without the help of a so-called formal higher education. And i take my hat off to those people. My Mistress, btw, was one of those people. In fact, She was one of the mostly highly educated people that i have ever known, and She didn't spend a single day in college -- although to be fair, She has spent some time in college dormitories and has had lengthy conversations with college professors! [ :D i had been a college professor before defecting to the civilian government, so i taught Her about science while She taught me about people, which seemed to be a good trade for both of us.])
But i suppose in the long run, the best way to respond to people like asilown is not to put them down, but simply to ignore them like a piece of litter on the ground. Of course, it is best to properly dispose of litter because if there is enough of it, even a beautiful lawn starts to look like a pigsty after a while.
As for me, i am having a bit of luck finding a new Domme -- finally -- to control and use me for Her personal benefit, and that really is what CM is all about, right? But sharing opinions here is also a worthwhile adjunct to that, and even people like asilown have the right to an opinion, no matter how ill-conceived or irresponsibly presented.
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