fireflyred
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True true. I'm not a super game-player, and without sounding snooty, (because it's a problem i have sometimes) i'll just further and more concisely explain, that i think that the dynamic where chat's follow this pattern:
DOM: hello slut, you will serve me
sub: how will i serve you
Dom: however I tell you to,
sub: well i don't like word slut, it makes ds seem less about intamacy and more about using people,
DoM: i will dom you rawr....
it's like hellllo. i remember reading this passage out of "Puppy papers" where the man was talking about the experiences he'd had in the past as being a dom, to a new potential, and he mentioned lengthy experience but also said, i don't say, "you must now call me MASTER from here on out." I will show you what I do, and once you come to see me as capable of being your Master, then further rules will be established. I don't demand you to respect me as such from the beginning, i pride myself in earning, not expecting that respect..." or something to that effect.
I think that in the conversations have gotten into limits or potential limits at all, that certain generalizations should be remembered. Hitting or slapping is a huge trigger for me if I'm not forewarned, because of my ex husband blah blah blah... if someone was really interested in me as a potential, (don't be, i'm good) then I would sort of expect them to remember ...there's something about hitting she said once.... not the whole fucking essay on when it's ok and to what degree, and if I'm forewarned etc.. just ""something""
i shoot video for a living and I always feel out the nervous ones and say, you know, i don't want to do this if you don't, is there something i could help you with to make you less nervouse, or you know, if you don't want to do this, then don't, because it'll show through and it's not fun to watch if you can pick up on that "i'm scared" vibe. so what's up, and they tell me what's up and i remember. I don't keep personality/non business necessities files on actresses i've used before but i can remember ""SOMETHING..." if their was. not everyone's good with names, exactness, that's all good. i always take that into consideration...it depends on a case to case basis,
and you really should, in your heart of hearts, try not to set anyone up to fail, i spaced my Dom's mother's name tonight for about 10 seconds, Of Course I know her name, but I stuttered, and that's ok.
i have always been that super annoying girl in your class with a million questions. not on what's been explained, but on details that stood out to me that I'm curious to know more about...and if I don't know what you are talking about, I'll cut you off. it's a impatience that I need to get a better grip on but...if someone was explaining to me that lynda.com is the greatest I'd be like, "Why the fuck is she telling me this..." until the person went..."well you need to edit video right, it explains shit." if i didn't or don't remember mentioning something or them mentioning it, whatever, I'll dive right in so we can be on the same page,
In some other post someone mentioned that to be in (or start) a relationship, relating must be taking place,
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