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LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 10:35:27 AM   
adaddysgirl


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Status: offline 		This kind of stems from some thoughts i had while reading another thread.  The more i read here, the more i am realizing that a lot of couples are in LDRs.  So i am wondering:
 
If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
How far apart do you live?
How often do you get to see each other?
Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?
 
Thanks,
DG
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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 12:39:40 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		LDRs are a hard limit for me.
 
Once is more then enough.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 12:46:06 PM   
Kalira


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quote:

How far apart do you live?

About 270 milies ( Kentucky and Indiana )
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  How often do you get to see each other?


If lucky, once a month
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  Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?

NO. Both of us are content with our relationship and are more than happy to keep it so.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 12:48:08 PM   
SamKeithsslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

This kind of stems from some thoughts i had while reading another thread.  The more i read here, the more i am realizing that a lot of couples are in LDRs.  So i am wondering:
 
If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
How far apart do you live?
How often do you get to see each other?
Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?
 
Thanks,
DG


My longest LDR without meeting was 18 months, we lived half a world apart and had very definite plans to get together and eventually be together.
My current LDR - again havent met - has been going for over a year (as friends only). Its been a month long LDR since deciding to be more than friends. I am in Australia, He in Japan - not being great at geography I couldnt say how far apart that is. Having learnt from the rather bad experience of having to have waited 18 months only to find out we wouldnt meet I now have a time frame in which I insist on meeting people in - 2-3 months. I hope to be seeing my new Master before Christmas, all going well he will collar me to make it official. After that? Well presumably we will take steps to be together permanently.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 12:50:48 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?

 
Started talking early March, met in early May, have been involved since.

quote:

How far apart do you live?


About 4 or 4 1/2 hours, 6 by train

quote:

How often do you get to see each other?

Not as often as I would like...lol.

We should be able to see a lot more of each other in the coming months because of our "stuff" we have been getting done, I am hoping to see him this week...Big Grins

quote:

Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?

 
That is what we are both working toward in a way that will be good for everyone. It is the goal.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 1:01:59 PM   
kinkiminx


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Status: offline 		Well my ex Dom was always away on business, and that doesn't bother me too much as long as someone is honest and reliable!
But I wouldn't want to be in a LDR if there was no intention to move closer to each other or we could only see each other less than a weekend every two weeks.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 1:05:11 PM   
ShyMistress


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Status: offline 		I/We have yet to get involved in any serious LDR's. Most of My/Our pleasure and interest in the lifestyle is based around the ones We choose and Our daily interactions with them, so LDR is only for as long as it takes to determine that one is right for Us. I suppose in certain circumstances I/We may feel compelled to try it, like when you meet that perfect submissive but they are half the world away...but even in that case I would be working with the goal of them eventually joining Us on a permanent basis.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 1:22:47 PM   
MistressYlwa


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Status: offline 		My boy and I have been together for a year now. He is in Florida. I was in Arizona, now in Texas. We generally meet once a month, though he will be spending most of Dec and part of Jan with me this year.

We do plan to live together and will at the end of the school year. He cannot leave the university, at this time, and I will not live in Florida. Been there, done that, don't want to do it again. A personal preference.

Have had a few LDR's in my life and was lucky that most were genuine. But have talked with several that weren't. I do think it is worth it, if the person you meet is.  I have a wonderful man in my life and we give each other what we need. Intelligence makes the conversations interesting and fun. I can't complain about LDR's.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 1:42:52 PM   
ElektraUkM


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quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
How far apart do you live?
How often do you get to see each other?
Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?
 
Thanks,
DG


I've been with my Master for 2 and a half years. The first year of that was online.

We live about 2 hours apart (by car).

We get to see each other between 1-3 days a week on average at the moment. But it's fluctuated in the past (periods of more, and sometimes less).

Hopefully we'll be living together 24/7 sometime next year.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 1:42:58 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		I thought the 1/2 hour drive to Masters house was too long and that seeing him 2X a week wasnt enough  guess Im officialy way more needy then i thought i was

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 2:17:19 PM   
losttreasure


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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?


Nearly seven months now.

quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

How far apart do you live?


Eight hundred horrible miles.

quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

How often do you get to see each other?


Like Julia, not as often as I'd like.  We are averaging about a week out of every two months.

quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?


For my employment, a request to transfer to his area has already been made.  How long it takes for me to actually relocate is yet to be seen.  I don't think we'll live together at the very first, but it's definitely part of the plan.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 2:27:39 PM   
candyslave


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Status: offline 		LDR's are tough .. but, have their advantages ...

They wear on the heart, mind and spirit, but, absence makes the heart grow fonder.. too.. so, it is possible to balance if you can live with the constant yearning.. i can't.. personally, i live with my dom and am with him 24/7 .. as he works from home and i'm a stay at home sub/slave/masochist/wife... you would think i'd be busier than i actually am... hmm..

candy

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:13:46 PM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
 

 
5 months since we met in person
 
quote:

How far apart do you live?
 

 
6 - 7 hour drive, though i made it in 5.5 hehe

quote:



How often do you get to see each other?

 
about once a month. sometimes more if he's working up near me.
 
quote:


Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?

 
We haven't discussed it as of yet.

 
LDR's have complications but so do all relationships. You just deal with them as they surface and do your best to work through them. Everything happens in it's own time and trying to rush things usully just breeds failure or disapointment.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:20:11 PM   
Lenis


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quote:

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?


My slave and I have been involved for about 7 months now, but known each other for close to 2 years.

quote:

How far apart do you live?


According to maps,  1,177.4 miles

quote:

How often do you get to see each other?


We strive to see each other once a month.

quote:

Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?


Yes, we will be moving in at the end of the month.

I have had a couple really good LDR's and one brutal one.   I do like being able to date someone local, but when 99% of the local women turn you off, you look elsewhere.

Besides, the relationship I am in now just happened over time.


-Brian

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:20:28 PM   
adaddysgirl


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

LDRs are a hard limit for me.
 
Once is more then enough.


crouch,

Sounds like maybe you had a bad experience?  So you would only be open to a potential partner within say reasonable driving distance?  Or only right in town?  Under those conditions, what have been the prospects for you?
 
DG
 


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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:26:16 PM   
adaddysgirl


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ORIGINAL: Kalira

NO. Both of us are content with our relationship and are more than happy to keep it so.


Kalira,
 
It seemed to me you mentioned you have kids.  Does this play any role in your decision? 
 
You don't say how long you have been doing this....but do you think that someday (perhaps when the situation is different) you will consider live in?
 
DG

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:26:54 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

I thought the 1/2 hour drive to Masters house was too long and that seeing him 2X a week wasnt enough  guess Im officialy way more needy then i thought i was

Magik's slave

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:28:40 PM   
meatcleaver


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

LDRs are a hard limit for me.
 
Once is more then enough.


Same here. Once is enough and never again.

They are also so irrational. It is easier to turn the computer off and walk outside and find someone.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:30:17 PM   
gypsygrl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

I thought the 1/2 hour drive to Masters house was too long and that seeing him 2X a week wasnt enough  guess Im officialy way more needy then i thought i was

Magik's slave


This is really interesting to me because it made me think of something similar (but, its not a comment on your post, just a jumping off, if that makes sense).  For about a year and a half I was in a short distance relationship (20 min away) and we saw each other a couple times a week but it never seemed to be enough, and no matter how much we saw each other, something was always off and I felt like I needed to see him more.  Following that relationship, I was involved with someone for about 2 years who lived about 3 hours away and we only saw each other once a month or every 6 weeks but, for the most part, I was satisfied.  The quality of the interaction was much better. 

So, being a social scientist, and having been trained in data analysis, this would suggest that distance, in and of itself, is not necessarily an issue. At least for me.

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RE: LDRs and you - 11/19/2006 3:33:03 PM   
adaddysgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SamKeithsslave


My longest LDR without meeting was 18 months, we lived half a world apart and had very definite plans to get together and eventually be together.
My current LDR - again havent met - has been going for over a year (as friends only). Its been a month long LDR since deciding to be more than friends. I am in Australia, He in Japan - not being great at geography I couldnt say how far apart that is. Having learnt from the rather bad experience of having to have waited 18 months only to find out we wouldnt meet I now have a time frame in which I insist on meeting people in - 2-3 months. I hope to be seeing my new Master before Christmas, all going well he will collar me to make it official. After that? Well presumably we will take steps to be together permanently.


Holy crap!  Australia and Japan?   That  is really LD!   lol 
 
So you think you'll be meeting before Xmas?  How exciting!  i wish you both the best....and please let us know how it goes! 
 
DG

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