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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


kyra and I have been building a relationship for just over two years when we first came across each other online.  It was about 6 months after we crossed paths that she came to Edmonton the first time.  Since that time we see each other about every 2-3 months.  In fact even as I write this post.. alandra and I are in Florida with kyra for some quality time together.  We currently are about 3000 miles apart, but kyra's application is being processed through the Canadian Immigration process and hopely in about another 12-18 months she will be moving in the cold north to keep me warm.

Until i went to CA, i would never have thought 3000 miles apart could work....but i see now that it can, and does.  That is really refreshing 

Well good luck to you all KoM....and thanks for sharing.  i again learned something new! 

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ORIGINAL: akisha


For me I think after 5 months if we were making plans to move in together i would be a lil nervous. My ex husband and i moved intogether with in a couple months of meeting and well to be honest. I probably should have taken more time getting to know him. With luck the divorce will be finialized in the begining of the new year

Yay! 

For me to move is not really possible at the moment and He's on contract for a few more months with his job. And things are working as they are so far. I take each day as it comes and enjoy what we have.

Yep...i hear that!

As for not discussing it.. I don't view it as a bad thing at all. I don't stress over what is or is not going to happen in the furture. All that would do is cause me to be stressed out and high strung. Two things that are very counter productive to ones health and to a relationship.

Yep again

If someone would have asked me if i'd ever consider seeing someone that i only got to see for a few days a month, or be willing to drive 6 hours to see for only a couple of days, I would have laffed and said not a chance in hell. But things change. Ideas change. Sometimes you just feel it's worth the extra effort. Will it still be worth it a year from now? I don't know, but I think so.

That is exactly what i would have said too....until i did it.

Am i willing to do the long distance thing forever? Probably not, but I can't say that for sure, nor can i put a time limit on how long it will work for. All I can do is try my best, give it my all and hope for the best.

That's all we can do, right?

If it does end, then i know i did all i could to make it work and i have the memories of what ever time we had together. If it moves into a long term permanent relationship, well then ofcourse i'll be happy *S*

i don't regret any of my LDRs, even though they didn't work out.  They were actually good experiences for me (overall).

There is no right amount of time or wrong amount of time. We all do what works best for us in the relationship we are in. Plus I admit, I have a tendancy to be commitment shy, as I have trust issues.

In all honesty, one reason i thought i could not do LD was because i also have some trust issues (of sorts).  But somehow, i was able to get past that....and that sometimes still amazes me.

I will say this...

This is the first relationship in 15 years that I've felt almost instantly at ease. I've trusted him more and faster then probably any other guy i've been with. Complete honesty is not an issue. And strangely enough, even when i didn't get to see him for over 36 days once, I had no desire or inclination to go sleep with someone else. That right there says alot, to me anyway. *S*

That was me too.  i couldn't believe how easily i slipped into that with my first daddy dom.  And i had no desire to be intimate with anyone else either.  As a matter of fact, i even shied away from other guys because i didn't want them to ask me out.  And that was a first for me....lol.
 
Good luck to you 

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ORIGINAL: losttreasure


Thank you, DG. 

Yes, I will live by myself at first, but I can safely say for FirmHandKY, as well as myself, that a live-in situation is our ultimate goal.  Whether I eventually move in with him, him with me, or we find someplace new together remains to be decided.

While being so close to him yet still separate will be tortuous, we do want to be realistic about it.   A move to a new city and a new position can be stressful enough; melding lives and learning to live with someone... no matter how much I love and adore him... at the same time, would be a huge risk.  This relationship means too much to us to not give it the time and care that it deserves.

Torturous....good word...lol.
 
When i've mused over relocating, i've thought the same thing about what a big change that is.  New city...new job...and then of course, actually living with someone else.  That is a big step.  But it sounds like you are both handling it very wisely.  According to my crystal ball (lol), you two are going to do just fine 
 
DG

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?

 
Started talking early March, met in early May, have been involved since.

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How far apart do you live?

About 4 or 4 1/2 hours, 6 by train

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How often do you get to see each other?

Not as often as I would like...lol.

We should be able to see a lot more of each other in the coming months because of our "stuff" we have been getting done, I am hoping to see him this week...Big Grins

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Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?

 
That is what we are both working toward in a way that will be good for everyone. It is the goal.

i don't know why i thought you and Sinergy lived closer together.  Well, another thing learned   

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If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?

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  How far apart do you live?

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How often do you get to see each other? 

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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver
Same here. Once is enough and never again.

They are also so irrational. It is easier to turn the computer off and walk outside and find someone.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
About 2 1/2 years

How far apart do you live?
We live 2 hours apart.

How often do you get to see each other?
As often as we can (I'm quasi-plagiarizing from Peach) - sometimes just once a month, sometimes more.  Sometimes for weekends at a time, sometimes I'll drive down for a quick visit, sometimes I might travel with him.  It just depends.

Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?
We have no plans to live together but we have talked about me moving closer to him.  We shall see.


Edited for spelling.

Hmmm....another one who isn't planning on moving in?  i am really learning something from this thread.  i don't know why i had never really thought of that option....living close by but not together.  *scratches head*
 
As i said in an earlier post owned, 2 hours doesn't sound very far but it can be a royal pain at times.  But it sounds like you've made it work out for quite some time now.  Hope all goes well for you when you do make your move 
 
DG

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You and Kalira....lol

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

This kind of stems from some thoughts i had while reading another thread. The more i read here, the more i am realizing that a lot of couples are in LDRs. So i am wondering:

If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
How far apart do you live?
How often do you get to see each other?
Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?

Thanks,
DG

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

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ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM


I've been with my Master for 2 and a half years. The first year of that was online.

We live about 2 hours apart (by car).

We get to see each other between 1-3 days a week on average at the moment. But it's fluctuated in the past (periods of more, and sometimes less). 

Hopefully we'll be living together 24/7 sometime next year.

Elektra,
 
i have been in 2 LDRs that we were 2 hours apart but due to our work schedules, we could only see each other on weekends  (both worked second shift jobs while i worked  first shift).  It is good that you can see each other 1-3 days a week (or around that).....and that you will be able to do live in sometime next year.  i bet you can't wait! 
 
Will you let us know? 
 
DG

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

This kind of stems from some thoughts i had while reading another thread.  The more i read here, the more i am realizing that a lot of couples are in LDRs.  So i am wondering:
 
If in an LDR, how long have you been involved?
How far apart do you live?
How often do you get to see each other?
Do you have any definite plans of eventually living together?
 
Thanks,
DG

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

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ORIGINAL: SamKeithsslave




The other one was Australia/USA, and although my Master in Japan is a US marine and so will eventually return to the USA, that could be some time off yet.
I have stated to him that I want to meet with him and meet with him asap, I will not allow myself to get held up in another long term LDR its too difficult. The idea being that if we click we will then look at relocation etc. I will certainly let you know how it all pans out whether it be bad or good.

Ohhhh....a Marine....oo-la-la!       (my son's a Marine so i'm a bit partial....lol)
 
i would do that too...at least meet to make sure well, he's 'real'    and to see if you click in person.  In my 'early days', i would chat a long time before meeting, only for that to bomb.  No, i didn't like that 
 
So at least get the meet out of the way and take it from there.  Sounds smart to me! 
 
DG