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Well I bet our Mexican food is better here! (goes away and pouts about missing all the margaritas in PA)

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ORIGINAL: Mstr2you

Here's my point ( yes I think I have one even if you don't) The idea that the emotions shared in a d/s relationship are more meaningful and more powerful than those in a vanilla relationship is just silly and condescending. The dynamics are different and it may move faster and become more intense quicker but that can happen with any relationship depending on the circumstances and  in the end it's just a relationship with all the highs and lows and risks and rewards and it is a mistake to think that a d/s one is any better than any other

Just my opinion.

There is a reason for it. D/s has all the components of vanilla plus the D/s component.

Simple math, really. If A = vanilla, then A < A+1

Doesn't surprise me in the least that D/s is often viewed as 'more'.

Celeste

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Side note...do you think anyone actually reads our posts here when we flirt or do they just skim right over?

I do- and gnash my teeth in envy...

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ORIGINAL: JerseyKrissi72

~ wonders how often we stay on topic here.....~
 
 
 
 
 
wonders that the damn point is anyhow?[8D]

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ORIGINAL: Mstr2you

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I still do not understand why trust is more important. I mean really, why would you be in any sort of relationship if you could not trust the person?

It is for me...can't speak for anyone else.  I wouldn't and didn't give any vanilla partners my entire person to run and control, including the ability to reshape my thoughts and emotions.  So, for me anyway, it requires more trust in someone to be able to give my complete life over to him.

Speaking to the OP, however, I don't think the "lifestyle" is more special than "vanillas."  I do think my relationship to my Master is more special than any other relationship I have had, however.  This may or may not be true for others.  It's an individualistic thing, not a group thing.

I think the only arguement one could put forward is that submissives into physical pain, caning or needles and the like, are obviously putting themselves at further risk, but I also think for those  into harder physical play that risk is a great part of the turn on. There is fear just as there is fear when one jumps from a plane and we do it for the same reward, the same high and that dosn't come without risk, at least not that I have found.

Some people ride thrill rides, some jump from planes, some climb mountains and some play it safe and its the same in the d/s world in my opinion.

I think that the trust needed to allow someone to whip them is no different from the trust given when engaging in vanilla sex with a new partner. That vanilla guy may have aids, may be engaging in unsafe sex, may be into rough sex, may be a misogynist, same issue of trust and same possibility for having it abused.

You do your homework and you use your head and you jump. Or not.

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I think I just found a large bag of what the fuck.

Yours,


benji

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ORIGINAL: MegaBitch

*snip* It's a real world and I know what I want, lets not mingle all this bull-crap into it. *snip*
Goddess Ariel.

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ORIGINAL: Mstr2you

So the dom who told you he was the grand maharshi of dominance turns out to be a plumber from yonkers with a bossy wife and an empty bank account and that lovely submissive you called your pet turned out to be sharing time with the local minor league team and its mascot and it's mascot has four legs and barks and now your hurt and your angry and your done with all this.

Get over it!

I think there is an element of fantasy that is part of the d/s world and for some the fantasy is overwhelming the reality. Why would the men and women you meet in the kink world be any different from those you meet in the vanilla world? People cheat and lie and use and we all have filters we use to edit them out of our lives and sometimes they get in and we get hurt and we move on. That's life and you can either chance it or stay home, your choice.

Here's my point ( yes I think I have one even if you don't) The idea that the emotions shared in a d/s relationship are more meaningful and more powerful than those in a vanilla relationship is just silly and condescending. The dynamics are different and it may move faster and become more intense quicker but that can happen with any relationship depending on the circumstances and  in the end it's just a relationship with all the highs and lows and risks and rewards and it is a mistake to think that a d/s one is any better than any other

Just my opinion.

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Side note...do you think anyone actually reads our posts here when we flirt or do they just skim right over?

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I think I just found a large bag of what the fuck.

Yours,


benji

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You mean there is no honorary society of submissives with a gold card and a key to the Emerald City because I allow someone to beat me silly and boss me around?

Now you're just being silly, Julia. Everyone knows the key to Emerald City is held by the dom types and it's not a gold card.. it's a MasterCard!

How many times I have to 'splain this?
Celeste

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I AM an honorary member of the submissive society. I DO own a gold card. I also Do have the key to Emerald City.

The problem is that, if I use the gold card, I have to pay it off in 30 days and right now that doesnt look so good for me. Plus, being that I am a bit tied up in some interesting  ways, I cant get to Emerald City for the next who knows How long.

Its a problem being the worshipful person that I am. I havent been able to get to a meeting for a long long time.