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having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 7:35:16 AM

rubyleu

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i cant believe this.. maybe i should wait to calm down to write this.. but i cant believe this one guy on this site, wouldnt even call him a Dom, asking me for pussy shots as proof im a girl.. He first writes to me asking me where is the 'logic' by me not showing. I replied to him saying collarme dont allow pussy shots. He thens says he can get them by email. Because i refused to do that, he says im a guy!! Says also a local group had a list of guys posing as girls and i was on that list!!

now i do remember a few months back one guy from NY writing to me saying, if i dont give him his email adress, and cam for him, he will post me as a fake. i laughed it out, but im thinking back now.

This guy says that i could have handled well by giving his my email adress. I CANT BELIEVE THIS!!

Does anyone else get harassed by this? I wish i could post his name, but i dont think im allowed.. I should have listened to my Master and never reply to anyone that is not in our search criteria.. But im weak and i dont like to ignore others who write to me. Disobediant too i guess.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 7:40:39 AM

MmakeMme

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No one has ever asked if I am a girl, and no one has demanded proof of it.

If I may be so bold ... ~trying to tread lightly~ ... it might be your pic. It's your neck and facial structure. The angle makes it appear masculine. I am not trying to offend ... just pointing out what I noticed. Perhaps a newer pic from a different angle?

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 7:43:06 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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You're online. That pretty much explains it all I think.

The fact that you care that some cyber stranger doubts that you are a female says more about you than your willful disobedience and angry response.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 7:55:42 AM

rubyleu

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no it doesnt explain anything to me? can you please explain?

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

You're online. That pretty much explains it all I think.

The fact that you care that some cyber stranger doubts that you are a female says more about you than your willful disobedience and angry response.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 7:58:37 AM

mnottertail

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Master needs to beat you for even thinking about this past 3 milliseconds.

Ron

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:00:42 AM

Aine

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I have to agree with LA on this one, and MM also makes a kind of good point. Although it very well could be a sore spot. Unfortunately, the angles do kinda make ya look like a -very- feminine cd. *waits for the noose*

But having read your entire post, it makes me wonder why, if you already have a Master, feel you have any reason to get upset over this asshat trying to goad you into giving over info or pics?

And you getting upset like this is only fueling and partially giving him what he wants. People like that either get the pics, or get people pissed. The only way to get to these kinds of people and to piss them off instead, is to ignore them. Flat out tell them "Good day" and place them on ignore and give them no satisfaction of knowing they got under your skin.

This is the internet and it's amazing how easily many of us -do- get goaded into reacting to people like that, no matter how level-headed we might think we are.

Seriously. You have a Master. He knows your female. Isn't that all that should matter?

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:03:32 AM

RiotGirl

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you guys are so mean. LOL

I've had alot of guys try and "attempt" to get naked pics of me saying one thing or the other. Next they'll be telling you they think yer a goat so you HAVE To send a pic of yourself bent over a bed, ass in the air, and cheeks spread.

infact.... i bet you ARE a goat

how about that pic?

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:07:46 AM

rubyleu

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thats my problem, i let things get to me.. just wanted to know if others had to deal with this.. or simply not deal with it..
if i was a guy, like the many ive caught, i would run away and hope not to get caught.. but this is the 3rd time its happened to me on this site.. i met a couple of women here, real time.. aint that weird huh..

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:08:03 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Ruby- I understand the need to please. I understand getting annoyed when someone isn't pleased with you- even when you've done NOTHING wrong and the other person has NO right to expect anything from you and is themselves completely in the wrong to try and push shame upon me.

I even understand getting annoyed at yourself for getting annoyed at something so pointless.

But the fact that you let it get to you so deeply, that you had to start a whole post about it, the fact that you let someone who has LITERALLY no prior connection with you give SO much authority over your emotions- shows you've got some serious insecurities and sore spots to work on.

The willful disobedience is likely just another manifestation of your insecurities. You're seeking approval and adoration from others- in all the wrong places and all the wrong ways.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:09:04 AM

LaTigresse

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I would not worry about it. As others have said, its the net, full of people that are full of shit.

There is always the lovely email trash can for those sorts of emails.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:09:49 AM

Aileen68

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

you guys are so mean. LOL

I've had alot of guys try and "attempt" to get naked pics of me saying one thing or the other. Next they'll be telling you they think yer a goat so you HAVE To send a pic of yourself bent over a bed, ass in the air, and cheeks spread.

infact.... i bet you ARE a goat

how about that pic?

You're starting to sound like LaM you know...begging for the pussy pic.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:10:58 AM

Dragonskiss72

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People sometimes like to try it on to see if anyone will bite & send them pics they can wank over.
Try not to let it worry you.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:12:50 AM

rubyleu

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i wasnt seeking approval actually. i wanted to know if other 'females' had this problem.. but instead, its turning against me even more..
i removed my pics cos anyways. if we meet anyone, ill send them on request.
yes, i should be like most ppl and ignore.. but sometimes things just get to me..
is everyone perfect too?

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Ruby- I understand the need to please. I understand getting annoyed when someone isn't pleased with you- even when you've done NOTHING wrong and the other person has NO right to expect anything from you and is themselves completely in the wrong to try and push shame upon me.

I even understand getting annoyed at yourself for getting annoyed at something so pointless.

But the fact that you let it get to you so deeply, that you had to start a whole post about it, the fact that you let someone who has LITERALLY no prior connection with you give SO much authority over your emotions- shows you've got some serious insecurities and sore spots to work on.

The willful disobedience is likely just another manifestation of your insecurities. You're seeking approval and adoration from others- in all the wrong places and all the wrong ways.

(in reply to LuckyAlbatross)

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:20:35 AM

juliaoceania

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You have a master, why would you care what these others think? They are no one to you really. I guess I could see being a little upset and reporting these emails to the mods if you were single and looking, but you aren't

I would laugh at this, and I do not respond to any come ons that come into my mail box, because Im not looking. But if someone emailed me demanding a pic of my pussy, stating I was not a real woman, I would just laugh. The reason I would laugh 1) I have a Dom in my life, and he sees my actual womanhood, not photos of it and 2) That is the most pathetic way to get a nudie pic and 3) I would be tempted to tell the idiot that I could get a pic of any pussy off the net and he would be none the wiser. It really is a stupid demand.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:25:26 AM

RiotGirl

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quote:

You're starting to sound like LaM you know...begging for the pussy pic.

er no.......... i wanted an ASS pic. Course i wont turn an ass and a punani pic all rolled into one pic down = ) LaM can have the vagina's i'll just take the ass = ) LA, STILL hasnt gotten back to me about letting me play with hers = ( i'm starting to feel unwanted!!!!!!!!! <sobs> thank god for pron!

quote:

i wasnt seeking approval actually. i wanted to know if other 'females' had this problem.. but instead, its turning against me even more.. i removed my pics cos anyways. if we meet anyone, ill send them on request. yes, i should be like most ppl and ignore.. but sometimes things just get to me..
is everyone perfect too?

yup - absolutetly fricken perfect and its time you recognize!! Bow down to your superiors! Now where is my pic little disobediant slave girl?? (hopefully that sounded superior enough - i'm not excatly sure how dem Doms do it... something with "girl" and "little" me thinks... )

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:28:15 AM

RiotGirl

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quote:

1) I have a Dom in my life, and he sees my actual womanhood,

erm.. i cant resist. Everyone keeps saying "you HAVE a Master, why do you need approval"

sorry to say it folks, but i'm a woman with or without a Dom. I dont "need" anyone to see MY woman hood and infact i like to keep it under a pair of pants.

i oddly dont need approval about being a female and i'm kind of confused why some one else would??

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:29:31 AM

angharad

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Yes I have had experience of this 'prove you are female.' He turned out to be a fully fledged raving mygonist. I do appreciate that its probably very frustrating and disheartening for a geninue Dom to find out he's talking to another man when the profile says female.

I have come to the following conclusion.

Anyone needed 'proof' ( cam on, pics sent etc ) is probably more fake themselves than a 3 bob note, and not what most would be looking for. i.e instant disqualificiation, ignore button.

Secondly anyone worth knowing takes the time to talk to you.

Its probably best in my opinion to ignore everything, even talking to these types causes them to run out of tissues.

Just my opinion,

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:32:04 AM

angharad

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Then again, sometimes I too have been soooooooooo angry at some things on here....

in spite of telling myself its not worth it.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:42:14 AM

LadyMarmalade1

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I've had nasty messages aswell informing me that I was really a man. Maybe it's because I dont show my face in my pic. Some times they demand a naked pic as proof. Really though, who are they to demand proof of who I am?

Just ignore it. There are people out there who not just want to get the naked pics but they also like getting a rise out of you.

I havent seen you pictures but I doubt it had anything to do with your pics. If it says "female" and they cant respect it, they arent worth the time to think about them.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:44:23 AM

HalloweenWhite

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rubyleu

i cant believe this.. maybe i should wait to calm down to write this.. but i cant believe this one guy on this site, wouldnt even call him a Dom, asking me for pussy shots as proof im a girl.. He first writes to me asking me where is the 'logic' by me not showing. I replied to him saying collarme dont allow pussy shots. He thens says he can get them by email. Because i refused to do that, he says im a guy!! Says also a local group had a list of guys posing as girls and i was on that list!!

now i do remember a few months back one guy from NY writing to me saying, if i dont give him his email adress, and cam for him, he will post me as a fake. i laughed it out, but im thinking back now.

This guy says that i could have handled well by giving his my email adress. I CANT BELIEVE THIS!!

Does anyone else get harassed by this? I wish i could post his name, but i dont think im allowed.. I should have listened to my Master and never reply to anyone that is not in our search criteria.. But im weak and i dont like to ignore others who write to me. Disobediant too i guess.

1 He called you fake because he wanted to force you to do what he wanted
2 He only wanted to see you so he could masterbate
3 The local group he mentioned don't exist
4 There is no list of guys posing as women
5 You're not on that list
6 He's a B.S'er who wanted you to amuse him cos he's scared of the real world.

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