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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 8:53:04 AM

Aine

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ORIGINAL: rubyleu

is everyone perfect too?

No. Nor did any of us ever claim to be. I'll quote myself from earlier.

" This is the internet and it's amazing how easily many of us -do- get goaded into reacting to people like that, no matter how level-headed we might think we are."

I think that probably a lot of females, not only here, but on any and all forums, chat clients, and instant messengers have had to deal with buttmonkies like that which you are talking about.

Hell, I've had to deal with that same situation innumerable times. At first it really bothered me. Over the course of years of dealing with the same kind of asshats, you realize that every single one of them are after the same things that I outlined in my previous response.

They do not warrant anything other than a quick chuckle on -our- part and a swift kick to the ignore bin. Period.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 9:07:52 AM

Siona

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edited because I decided to keep my, not so nice ,thoughts to myself.

< Message edited by Siona -- 11/22/2006 9:11:52 AM >

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 9:17:07 AM

juliaoceania

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

quote:

1) I have a Dom in my life, and he sees my actual womanhood,

erm.. i cant resist. Everyone keeps saying "you HAVE a Master, why do you need approval"

sorry to say it folks, but i'm a woman with or without a Dom. I dont "need" anyone to see MY woman hood and infact i like to keep it under a pair of pants.

i oddly dont need approval about being a female and i'm kind of confused why some one else would??

My point is I might be creeped out if someone emailed me that my screen name was on an internet site and I had been labeled a man... it would make me feel a little weird. It might upset me if I was looking that I had been labeled such. I would probably do a search on my screen name to find the site and if I did find it I would report it to CM. Or maybe I wouldn't care at all. I have never had anyone question my gender to be honest. I have received emails demanding I submit on cam to prove my identity, but I laughed those off.

I am not saying that people should be upset by such nonsense because they are single, I am saying it should be even less important if you are taken. At least it would be to me...

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 9:32:46 AM

BitaTruble

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ORIGINAL: rubyleu

Does anyone else get harassed by this? I wish i could post his name, but i dont think im allowed.. I should have listened to my Master and never reply to anyone that is not in our search criteria.. But im weak and i dont like to ignore others who write to me. Disobediant too i guess.

Ruby,

Don't let them get to ya! Gawds.. if I had a dime for every time I've been called a guy on-line I'd be able to buy a toaster. The accusation almost always comes about after you've refused to indulge some slutty little fantasy for a cyber wanker. Seriously, don't sweat it. Consider it a compliment that someone thinks you're a man.. because it means you're obviously way to much woman for them to handle.

Now, all that said, yes, you should have listened to your Master. You trust him enough to call him Master, but not enough to listen and obey him when he tells you something, now you are paying the price, so on that score, suck it up and count your blessings. It's could have been a lot worse than some idiot calling you a guy ... you could be released for your disobedience.

Celeste

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 9:56:18 AM

slavemaia

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Master needs to beat you for even thinking about this past 3 milliseconds.

Ron

You are too too funny Sir. Thank You for the chuckle

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 10:02:26 AM

findmedaddy

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I've been told that absolutely I am a man. Why? Because I was not interested in a "dom" here. I noticed that his profile got angrier and angrier over time (I assume he was being rejected repeatedly) and that after he accused me of being male, his profile said he would no longer communicate with anyone who did not have a Web cam. It all irritated me, too, until I realized that he's the one who has to live with his own lunacy, not I. And I notice his profile is gone....or maybe he's just blocking me....But hey, that's my job. Did I mention that I'm really a middle linebacker for the Patriots?

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 10:16:21 AM

Quivver

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Its time's like these that growing a tough hide helps out. I've been called a man a few times myself, I just point out that if there prior experiances led them into chatting with men, then i'd rather pass on a further chat.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 10:16:26 AM

FirmhandKY

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite

1 He called you fake because he wanted to force you to do what he wanted
2 He only wanted to see you so he could masterbate
3 The local group he mentioned don't exist
4 There is no list of guys posing as women
5 You're not on that list
6 He's a B.S'er who wanted you to amuse him cos he's scared of the real world.

I second this post.

FirmKY

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 10:25:29 AM

FelinePersuasion

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me personally depending on the mood would find the nastiest harriest pussy pic from the net and send it to his lame ass lol.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 10:33:37 AM

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 12:19:00 PM

MmakeMme

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Perhaps you could have asked for a photo of him, and then sent it back as his riotously demanded pussy shot, with a catchy little ditty of a caption like "Sorry it's so ugly but I'm having my period, you see."

It wouldn't have proven you were a girl but it would have proven you were at least as mean a bitch as I.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:17:30 PM

QuietDom

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I once contacted a sub who I thought might be a troll post. She sounded a little too good. More importantly, her picture looked like a professional shot: good pose, good light and colour balance, shiny white teeth...

So (I admit it) I asked for a photo to verify her bona fides. But it was not a pussy-shot that I asked for. I felt that the best possible proof that the person behind the account was really the girl in the photo would be another shot of her, fully clothed, engaged in some ordinary activity. My reasoning is that a couple of 12-year-old boys can create a fake profile, using any old photo of some model from off the web, but they wouldn't have an ordinary, non-professional photo of the same girl, while the real person herself would have lots of them.

'She' never wrote back, but the profile disappeared in very short order, so the question remains unresolved. Does anyone really think I was overly rude in asking for another photo in the stated circumstances?

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:24:41 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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quote:

ORIGINAL: QuietDom
'She' never wrote back, but the profile disappeared in very short order, so the question remains unresolved. Does anyone really think I was overly rude in asking for another photo in the stated circumstances?

I bet people think that of my picture- because it is professionally done with lighting, posing and is only one of a large set taken that day.

It's not wrong of you to be suspicious, but it is a bit too forward IMO for that to be your first communication with the person, and completely acceptable for them to consider you a dork and move on. Best thing is to just email them a standard "hey/get them interested" email, write back a few times, by which point your answer should be almost certain and THEN politely ask if they have another pic so you can see eachother in your "normal day look."

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:24:57 PM

mnottertail

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl
I've had alot of guys try and "attempt" to get naked pics of me saying one thing or the other.

I want a naked picture of you saying,
"Oh my God, Ron....What a Huge Stud you are!!!!!!!!!!!!"
(Swooning squeal is optional)

See that it is so.

MasterChaucer

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:34:10 PM

LadyEllen

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This has really upset me.

No one has ever accused me of being male, or asked for a shot of my pussy.

What's with THAT!? LOL

Seriously though, tell the silly little wanker to go to the animal shelter, if he wants to see pussy; there's hundreds of them down there, and if he's good, he might be able to take some home.

Such a shame you missed out on such a great guy huh? Dont let it get to you.

E

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:34:48 PM

akisha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: QuietDom

So (I admit it) I asked for a photo to verify her bona fides. But it was not a pussy-shot that I asked for. I felt that the best possible proof that the person behind the account was really the girl in the photo would be another shot of her, fully clothed, engaged in some ordinary activity. My reasoning is that a couple of 12-year-old boys can create a fake profile, using any old photo of some model from off the web, but they wouldn't have an ordinary, non-professional photo of the same girl, while the real person herself would have lots of them.

I just wanted to touch on this one part.

I have maybe in total, 6 pictures of myself, if you don't count my wedding photos, which are burried somewhere in the bottom of a box in the basement LOL so no, not everyone has lots of pictures of themselves *S*

But your point is very valid

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:49:37 PM

SamKeithsslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rubyleu
This guy says that i could have handled well by giving his my email adress. I CANT BELIEVE THIS!!

Does anyone else get harassed by this? I wish i could post his name, but i dont think im allowed.. I should have listened to my Master and never reply to anyone that is not in our search criteria.. But im weak and i dont like to ignore others who write to me. Disobediant too i guess.

I dont get it? Doesnt he realise you could have STILL have been a guy and sent him pussy pics? There are enough around at various sites that can be easily copied, pasted and sent to him.
I'd have asked him for a cock shot - so I knew he was male.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:50:37 PM

Missokyst

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I agree with LA on this one. Having someone ask for a pic without having had some sort of converstion first just seems like they need better wanking fodder for their files.
Kyst

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 1:53:20 PM

SamKeithsslave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rubyleu

thats my problem, i let things get to me.. just wanted to know if others had to deal with this.. or simply not deal with it..
if i was a guy, like the many ive caught, i would run away and hope not to get caught.. but this is the 3rd time its happened to me on this site.. i met a couple of women here, real time.. aint that weird huh..

I have had to deal with it, they usually insist on a cam being turned on - not just some pics.

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RE: having to prove to guys you're a female.. - 11/22/2006 2:05:20 PM

SamKeithsslave

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
But the fact that you let it get to you so deeply, that you had to start a whole post about it, the fact that you let someone who has LITERALLY no prior connection with you give SO much authority over your emotions- shows you've got some serious insecurities and sore spots to work on.

The willful disobedience is likely just another manifestation of your insecurities. You're seeking approval and adoration from others- in all the wrong places and all the wrong ways.

I'm sorry, but I fail to see how you can psycho-analise this person and tell her she has some "serious insecurities" etc when she openly admits in the first line of her first post that she probably should calm down first. I doubt she is really as insecure as you protray her to be, she was just pissed at the time and vented. Had she waited 10 minutes she may not have posted at all.
And before you analyse me and say I shouldnt care what you say about others cos you are not saying it about me and what should I care anyway cos this isnt the 'real' world etc, I'll remind you I dont.

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