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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/23/2006 10:52:58 PM   
Morrigel


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Status: offline 		I agree with the OP.  Kinky women are more beautiful and desirable in every way than vanilla women...to ME.

And since I don't give a flying ***k what anyone else thinks about the women I'm attracted to, I really haven't ever given the matter a single thought beyond that.

Kinky girls are best. 

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 1:08:38 AM   
DevilsVendetta


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Status: offline 		Actually what I find is its split in two. On one hand theres the dumb, horny, wanna try somethign kinky or needs any way to get laid subs, which I wouldn't really call subs... some of which are attractive and just nymphos, but total dumb blondes, and some are just insecure women who may or may not be unattractive, overweight etc.

And then on the other hand, theres the gorgeous, intelligent, well rounded submissives who are confident enough in themselves to give up control.


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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 1:39:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I disagree that subs are any more beautiful or mentally healthy that vanilla women. I do think generally they are more intelligent, but probably somewhat fucked up more. Matter of fact, that description probably fits all of us here, Doms and subs. Fucked up, but smart. You have to be somewhat different to buck/fuck society.

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 1:52:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		I must be meeting the wrong subs. I've met far more fucked up women into BDSM than I have vanilla (though I'm assuming those I meet as vanilla are just that and not femsubs). I can't say I have noticed that subs are more intouch with themselves than vanilla women, quite the opposite. I've always found that it is femsubs that leave me bewildered and wondering if men and women speak a different language and not vanilla women. When things have clicked with a femsub it has been a great experience but it seems to me they have far more issues than the average woman.

EDIT Actually most women I know that define themselves as subs and I being rather naive assumed they wanted a dominant partner, issue you with a set of demands. I've never had a vanilla woman whether submissive or dominant in charachter present me with a set of demands on what they expect. My immediate reaction to this is, 'issues!'.

< Message edited by meatcleaver -- 11/24/2006 2:05:18 AM >

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 2:01:00 AM   
MissyRane


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Status: offline 		ok after reading those responses I'm really started to wonder about my submissiveness think I'll stick to the borderline vanilla sub... don't dare going deeper on that one.
However, even though I don't think that applies to myself, then I do think that there're many that end up submissive 'cause of insecurity and are in need for protection, but then of course there're others that don't....and I do disagree with the statement that sub fems are prettier n healthier n blabla than the vanilla woman, I think the vanilla and sub groups of women contain the same types of women in variety.

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 2:20:14 AM   
AuburnLady40


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Status: offline 		My very first post on this forum and I chose quite an interesting topic to respond too ... bravo to the originator of the thread!

Femsubs come in all walks of life and personality, perhaps because the author of this thread has found the sub who suits his needs he is enamored with all femsubs, thereby equating this feeling of satisfaction to all femsubs. I wonder if the author has considered or remembered the subs who did not meet his needs, which in turn caused him to have quite another opinion on this subject??

Any woman/man confident in knowing who they are would be considered attractive,and if not, do they really care?  I don't.

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 3:38:37 AM   
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I have found that, in general, femsubs tend to be more beautiful, more intelligent and more mentally healthy than the average vanilla population of women.

Agree, or disagree?  Why?


Disagree.  Femsubs are no more beautiful, intelligent or mentally healthy than any other woman.  You may perceive them to have those qualities because you have more in common with them than with average van women.  When reading some of the threads here I sometimes think that femsubs are less all of those things, especially the intelligent part.


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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 4:09:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
When reading some of the threads here I sometimes think that femsubs are less all of those things, especially the intelligent part.


Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey this was very unnecessary luv

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 4:10:45 AM   
KatyLied


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Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey this was very unnecessary luv


I know.  hehe.  Sometimes I wonder if others are not reading the same threads that I am.  Because I see a lot of decision-making that certainly isn't what I would call "intelligent."


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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 4:30:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Short Answer;  Agreed

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 4:31:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I hate to say that I do agree Katy..

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 6:26:42 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I am going to go with.......no. I don't think sub/slave women are any more beautiful, intelligent, or mentally well. I do agree with confidence being very sexy, I do not necessarily see more confidence than the vanilla women either. Granted I spend alot of time in a college town, teeming with beautiful intelligent young women and that may skew my opinion a bit. Talk about sexual confidence.....hang out in the ped-mall downtown Iowa City on a warm night! However I also live in a rural area with an interesting mix. As far as mental wellness, after reading these threads for a few months........nooooooo, I would NOT say MORE mentally stable!!

I really just think that it is a reflection of the world at large.


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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:04:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I think that subs or dom/mes or nillas are more attractive when they exhibit traits we find appealing. I met the most fabulous boy yesterday. He's tall, kind and kinda funny looking. He's so appealing and yummy because of the devotion that comes from inside. He's kind, gentle and willing to be open . First time I've met someone and had them volunteer something like "I always wanted to be poly". All I could do is blink and think gee honey keep rubbing that tender spot and pick my jaw up off the floor while you're at it.
The joy of everyone being different is that there are appealing traits that we zero in on. Some are traditional...pretty face, lots of money, big...brain. Others not so traditional, funny face and a spirit you can feel across a room. I call it the lock and key syndrome. Some people just fit and others no matter how we try just don't.  

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:14:38 AM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: DomKen

Of course this is all moot since it is quite clearly a way to butter up losttreasure so she is in a more agreeable mood for whatever it is you have planned for her tomorrow. ;)


ROTFLMAO!

Good post, Ken.

However, in relation to "buttering up" .... no additional lubricates required, I'm afraid.

But funny as hell.

FirmKY



Ah so you decided to just go for the bio lube and use butter eh? Let us know how that turns out.
I guess the season is appropriate, a little shibari and butter...trussed up turkey hummm maybe thanksgiving IS the kink holiday
But can a turkey actually be considered consenting?

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:21:50 AM   
Bearlee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

You have to be somewhat different to buck/fuck society.



<perk>  buck/fuck?
 
 
 
..............................................................................oh...sorry, I missread that

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:26:48 AM   
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<perk>  buck/fuck? 


Hey now...I think that's against the TOS.....

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:34:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

Short version:

I have found that, in general, femsubs tend to be more beautiful, more intelligent and more mentally healthy than the average vanilla population of women.

Agree, or disagree?  Why?

FirmKY


Short answer:

Gotta disagree, Kentucky . I know too many hard-hearted, nasty ol thangs that also claim the title of submissive.

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:55:40 AM   
Bearlee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee
<perk>  buck/fuck? 


Hey now...I think that's against the TOS.....



Butt..... butt.....    I read it wrongggggggggggggg!  Honestly!!!
 
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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:56:37 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I think your statement is to general, do you know how many women there are on the planet? ALOT Yes there are some really beautiful and intelligent femsubs. But it is also true there are many beautiful and intelligent vanilla women and Dominant women.

Also beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. What you may find beautiful may not be so to another person.

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RE: Counter-point: Beautiful, well adjusted subs - 11/24/2006 9:58:46 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

Short version:

I have found that, in general, femsubs tend to be more beautiful, more intelligent and more mentally healthy than the average vanilla population of women.

Agree, or disagree?  Why?



I'd disagree to be honest.  I'd say I consider myself cute, but I'd never call myself beautiful.  I'm definitely intelligent and mentally stable.  But I can't say I've seen a huge plethora of female submissives that I'd say fit into most of those categories.  In terms of intelligence, I'd say I've seen it be all over the place although in general in the scene I do find a lot of people that seem to be trying to prove that they are intelligent, which I find a bit ..... interesting. 

But for the most part I tend to see the housewife model for female submissives more than any model of intelligent well adjusted women with full vibrant lives and careers.  For instance, just take a look at the Before Master thread about a month ago:

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=651602&key=Before%2CMaster

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