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Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:07:05 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		ok so i talked to some one last night and they said that i was too much of a know it all....
 
eeeeeep...that hurt my feelings
 
i try so hard to say 'imo' or 'imho' or to say in 'my experiance'...
 
anyway the reason i am writing is i guess i want to know if i come of know-it-allish and snobby...and what i can do to better...
 
and also if that is a bad thing and why...



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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:12:09 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Compared to me Crouching, almost everyone here is a paragon of humility.

Just think of it as the same ruse as "You're not a real sub!"  It's an empty, pointless barb thrown when all else fails, intended to do what it did- make you doubt yourself, be a bit upset, and give them far more energy than it deserves.

There's always going to be someone out there you rub the wrong way.  Stop worrying and keep posting.  I think you have more than enough self-awareness of your posting style and will not let yourself get into a bad spot of hubris.


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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:20:23 AM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		I don't think you come off as a know it all, or snobby. I also think if you're saying something, then of course, I already think it's your opinion, not everyones. If you're voicing someone elses opinion, then I would think that you would say it's someone elses, not yours.
Even if someone has an opinion, I don't think it always means they're incapable of change when differing options are presented and the subject expanded on. Some will stick to their previous views, others will say, "oh yeah, huh...good point..hmmmm".

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:26:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ouch. 
Sounds like you threatened someones sense of self.
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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:31:44 AM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

ok so i talked to some one last night and they said that i was too much of a know it all....
 
eeeeeep...that hurt my feelings
 
i try so hard to say 'imo' or 'imho' or to say in 'my experiance'...
 
anyway the reason i am writing is i guess i want to know if i come of know-it-allish and snobby...and what i can do to better...
 
and also if that is a bad thing and why...


  "Certainty" is a curse.  I suffer from it myself :)
 
(But ya know what ya know - they'll just have to sue us.)

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:34:46 AM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		my former Master was a know it all... i swear he just loved to hear himself talk... Drove me crazy, but was i to do, i was his sub, i had sit there and pretend i cared about what he was saying....

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:44:30 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

ok so i talked to some one last night and they said that i was too much of a know it all....
 
eeeeeep...that hurt my feelings
 
i try so hard to say 'imo' or 'imho' or to say in 'my experiance'...
 
anyway the reason i am writing is i guess i want to know if i come of know-it-allish and snobby...and what i can do to better...
 
and also if that is a bad thing and why...




You are not snobby or come across as know-it-all.....Of course, I know that, because I know everything.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:49:33 AM   
Squeakers


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 Drove me crazy, but was i to do, i was his sub, i had sit there and pretend i cared about what he was saying....


 
I dunno just my thoughts but pretending you cared about what he was saying for me would be sort of dishonest.   If Master goes off on something I don't follow, I tell him out right I don't understand or if it's a topic that bores me which is rare, I will ask to change the subject.   For most he would probably come off as a know it all and he is very talkative but it never fails that I learn something when we have an in depth conversation.   The point is if the conversation was not compatible it's probably best he's a former.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 9:57:47 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		 LA: drats. but but but....LA i thought you diiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiid know it all.?????....
 
big nips: thanks!
 
kyst: prolly right
 
lotus: well i dont know about you but sueing me would only yeild at best an old hot tub, a leather couch and 1 disobediant dog 1 always hungry cat and 1 mentally challenged cat...
 
cuddles: where is that darn bare bottom pic??? i would give it such a pinch right now.
 
kitten: i sooooooooooo relate i would never want to turn in to my former dom either....*shudders*
 
squeakers: some times you can try that tactic but they are often not listening

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 10:00:37 AM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		Where have you been CT, that bare bottom pic was gone a long time ago?  I closed my account on the other side, so I have no pic now.

Edited to add....you can pinch my cheeks anyday!!!

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 10:09:38 AM   
mistresssavanna


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Status: offline 		Sometimes, you do know more than others. This is a risk that is necessary to take in order to educate others.

Do not listen Amy.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 10:42:24 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		This is the internet.  We're ALL know it alls here.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 10:48:00 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

ok so i talked to some one last night and they said that i was too much of a know it all....

eeeeeep...that hurt my feelings

i try so hard to say 'imo' or 'imho' or to say in 'my experiance'...

anyway the reason i am writing is i guess i want to know if i come of know-it-allish and snobby...and what i can do to better...

and also if that is a bad thing and why...




When someone calls you a "know it all" you can think of it two ways.

Either they feel bad because they don't have your level of knowledge and are thus attacking you.....

OR

They think you are behaving in an obnoxious way and feel it is their job to call you on it.

Unless they are your partner or a trusted friend, it isn't their job and they are sort calling you what they themsevles are.

In both cases, I'd consider it useful information about the person who said this to you. Do with that information what you wish such as you did which is ask others.

I find you to be an interesting and helpful person who wants to share her experience and her opinion. Isn't that what these sort of websites are for?

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 10:51:00 AM   
nikaa


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Status: offline 		Crouchingtigress,
 
You can not control how people perceive or receive your words only how you put them out there.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 10:52:58 AM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		you never really came off as a know it all to me - not that i recollect anyways

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 11:06:02 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Sometimes I come off as a know-it-all, but that's because I usually know more than the other person.

quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

ok so i talked to some one last night and they said that i was too much of a know it all....

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 11:07:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Sometimes I come off as a know-it-all, but that's because I usually know more than the other person.



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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 12:00:13 PM   
AbstractSavant


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This is the internets.

Everyone knows everything about everything, everyone has an IQ over 150, and everyone is an expert in whatever you want to talk to them about.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 1:05:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Amy, you're one of the nicer folks here, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
 
I haven't been called a know it all, that I'm aware of, but I have been called self rightous, an asshole, and some other things. I just look at the ones saying that and think, damn, I'm doing something right.

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RE: Know it alls - 11/25/2006 1:05:56 PM   
ExSteelAgain


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Compared to me Crouching, almost everyone here is a paragon of humility.


True....No, seriously, I love smart women of whatever persuasion. And your intelligence is exactly what they are talking about. Not your fault.

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